Eat Pray Love
We decide to watch and discuss the book based on Elizabeth Gilbert’s spiritual journey.
I decided to buy the book and the dvd…but as I needed it today, I ordered it from the google wallet. Searched in You Tube, got that option to rent it for few hours and voila…movie arranged.
I had the movie really for viewing just in time for the T@T6, our wednesday workshop.
I had read few chapters and heard the audio from the you tube and then decided to watch the movie again.
I kept thinking how Elizabeth’s life was so different than mine and how can I relate and let alone learn from her life”s learning. Movies show the same events through the eyes of glamour and they may not be able to depict what people like go through. I was still determined to learn from the author’s experiences.
I made the same statement outloud before the movie started and to the one of the participant said, we will know what is our learning today. So we started to watch with an open mind.
My realisation after watching the movie.
With every relationships real or phantom I have always been willing to make changes according to the partner. I use to start making plans on how to change my behaviour around my future partner and his family’s. I could never imagine what my desires and needs would be. My schedule, my food habits, my career, my desires and needs, my dress sense, and my behaviour and even my exercise regime would automatically start getting programmed as if a secret code was fed and a start button would execute as soon as a prospective suitor use to come my way.
I also remembered of another movie, Runaway bride, incidentally starring Julia Roberts again. In brief, the female protagonist, an attractive young vibrant lady, always full of life, manages to attract love interest easily. Men in her life fell in love with her easily and in no time she was proposed for marriage, which she use to agree to, but ran away from altar each time. The male protagonist, played by Richard Gere, a newspaper writer, found the events intriguing and visits her town to research on the same to print a story about the Runaway bride. In trying to know her better, he spends time with her, and points out to her that she does not have a mind of her own when she is in a relationship, as she tries to transform herself as her beau each time. He points out this by a simple question “How do you like your eggs”. After this event, there is a scene where she makes herself all kinds of eggs and then for the 1st time decides what kind of eggs she really like, thus discovering something about herself.
What was most fun to realise is that I have done the same thing with the jobs and career as well. When I was looking for job, 15 yrs ago when I was back from England, my main aim was to get away from my Dad. My second aim was to earn good money.
Ironically, come to think of it, I did the same thing to my education. I just wanted study, because I use feel that I was under the constant threat of that privilege to be taken away from me at any time. I was clear that the study has to be prestigious or atleast has to sound like it. So I chose science, in an attempt to get approval from my Dad. Every study I did was for only these two reasons, I had no plan or thought or soul searching how to use them. After I got into the study/course use to find a way to connect them.
I realise that is what the universe was trying to teach me in relationships. What do I really want and get some clarity on that. Caring about your partner is a good sign but loving yourself is a better idea to live a loving relationship. Along with that as a bonus I have realised that I am being indicated what I might need to ponder on about and for way forward for IADLife. I thank you Elizabeth Gilbert for sharing her life with us to help transform our lives too. I am now prepared to face the daunting but pleasurable task of finding myself. This is the key to my beautiful relationship with myself, which lovingly awaits.
Dear Friend! Movie + Book discussion time, “Eat Pray Love” wednesday T@T6, 08/04/15. Time 10.30am to 12.30 pm
T@T6 – economical get together for like minded people.