Monthly Archives: November 2016

you see with beliefs

You don’t see with your EYES.  You SEE with your BELIEFS.

you see with beliefs

IADLife Blog:

Dear Friend!

The actual seeing is not all about the conscious observation. Your seeing starts the moment your visibility is subjected to an area or a scene. The real sight extends horizontally, vertically, diagonally beyond your area of visibility. Your listening and sensibility also contribute to what you see. The data or information collected is processed in your mind. Here is where the materials, evidence, facts, figures, statistics from various sources reside. These various sources are you, your experiences, your observations for one. The other sources are your hearsays, what you have heard from people and your readings, all that you have read. These sources, self and non-self form the beliefs.

Finally what registers as ‘seen’ or ‘saw’ is the product of interpretations using information from all the above. These interpretations go through cross questioning, arguments, cajoling, convincing. All of which happens internally. The version that has had the most influence on you is the one that surfaces as the final version. And this is what you agree to admit to having seen.

You would most certainly agree that what you see is really never the complete picture. There are parallelly and in the background, many situations happening which are responsible for resulting in one scene that you see. So it would be fair to say that this way of reporting on what you have seen mainly depends on many other factors than what is actually being seen or has been seen by you.

Now as an exercise to compare what you have seen with a possibility of it being something other than what you have seen. Do the following steps. (a) See (b) Write down/ state based on the process you usually employ what you saw. (c) Now write it scene by scene what you saw.

You will be pleasantly surprised at the energy your earlier version i.e. (b),  takes as compared to this one i.e. (c).

The scope of misinterpretations, confusions, complications in the second way reduces to a great extent.

The earlier version of seeing is, however, a requirement when you need to make an informed decision, with given, available or less information which may not be enough. So you need not completely rule it out. You use it to plan a future strategy, creatively visualise, and for investigations or research purposes.

Decide where you can be factual and where you need to be interpretational.

What you see, you perceive.

What you perceive you express.

What you express is what you are convinced that you saw.

What you are convinced is directly based on the beliefs that you have.

When anything connected with people and situations that come as a learning to ‘let go’ or ‘forgiveness’, then assessing them ‘as is’, helps in this.

When anything connected with people and situations that come with a learning that requires a detailed analysis or delayering, then here it is required to understand what you have seen and what you know.

Clearly, your seeing has many influences. It can be beneficial. Use them wisely. Remember when to simply them when you need to.

You need not deny to yourself what you have seen. But, accept that it is only your version of visibility. Also, be open to hearing someone else version of their visibility. This will add to your creativity.


Best wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

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Begging is a form of ASKING

Dear friends!

Here in India you must have noticed beggars. Some are poor, sick, old or eunuchs. Have you ever cringed seeing them and their begging tactics and physical condition. Do you feel sad, get upset or angry or just irritated. Do you politely refuse or give. Or do you give or not give but add a piece of your mind or some words of wisdom, such as, “get a job”, “aren’t you ashamed of begging” or something to that effect.

What could be the reason behind your action.

Some do it out of fear that you might be cursed if you refuse or guilt of having more than them or plain dislike for the pathetic state that they demonstrate or represent.

When you were growing up what was the treatment you received whenever you asked for something!

Did you receive with RESPECT and easily and comfortably! Did you receive with contempt, disrespect, disgrace and/or with difficulty!

If you find it difficult or painful to remember. Consider ‘asking questions’. Notice how easily do you ask questions when you are in conversations e.g. in office, with family members or even complete strangers. The level of effort that is required for you to do that is directly proportional to the next question. How often have you been scolded for asking question/s?

All these are connected. Each time you are stopped or snubbed, you are ‘limited’. This limiting behavior becomes a ‘habit’. And thus starts your transformation towards aversion for asking. Every time you see you a beggar or encounter begging, all the limiting, insulting, saddening memories surface and are very hurtful.

If you were to know that

Begging is a form of ASKING.

It is safe to ask.

It is respectful to ask.

It is your right.

The moment you understand and acknowledge and register this, asking and giving becomes easy. The reverse transformation to you becoming ‘limitless’ happens.

Then every time someone is asking something of you or from you, the next step/action becomes your CHOICE. Give money, advice, your presence/existence, food, gifts, blessings or not give. You are safe. You are respected.

Please ASK.


‘Ask and it is given – Ester And Jerry Hicks’

Thank you and best regards

Reena Yadav, IADLife


VALUING vs poverty thinking

Dear friend !

Poverty thinking Vs Valuing 

There is always a chance of switching, crossing the line or even staying on either side of the line for longer time especially when according to your understanding they seem quite similar.

Answer the following in various important areas.

Health :

Have you ever been advised to finish the last morsel or two from your food plate, even if you are too full even to put another grain in your mouth?

Have you ever finished the last morsel or two from your food plate, even if you are too full even to put another grain in your mouth?

Wealth & Money :

Have you ever carried heavy stuff after the shopping to save few bucks in transportation, even though it leaves you with sore arms and legs?

Have you ever had righteous arguments with the cab or auto rickshaw (in India) drivers, where you refused to pay few extra bucks or when you did not get the balance in cost/fare back?

Love or Relationships :

Have you ever indulged or endured a relationship because of fear of missing out?

So if this poverty thinking. How do you switch to ‘valuing’ and make an informed choice.

Now PONDER over this. What kind of effect does it have on your health and your mind?

Look at the influence or the affect, these actions have on you. Note, your feelings.

Are you relieved or comfortable or calm. Or are you dissatisfied or uncomfortable or still agitated.

If your action leaves you or takes you to high vibration it is VALUING.

In the scenarios above, you are showing value and gratitude :

-To your health and your precious intestine when you don’t over eat

-To your peace of mind and dignity, when you make your point respectfully ‘that you deserve to get your money balance back’ and let go in case the request is not heard. Next time before boarding a public transportation you check if you have smaller denominations or inquire with the driver before hand about the money

-To your self respect and your love for self, when you recognise dis-respect in relationship and be willing to stand up for yourself and be open to where this action leads

In every situation and area in your life you have the right to choose. So decide on your choice, knowing what works best for you.

Thank you and best regards
Reena Yadav, IADLife


Working hard and working SMART

Dear Friend!

Hard work/working hard



It’s a choice. You can do either or both depending on your situations. Results are seen/achieved in both. Advantages can be in both. Both are right and both are correct.

Only thing you need, is to be mindful of where you can use which.

Smart work is always about putting more resources initially, to understand, to learn, to integrate in your space.

Hard work can be oxymoron’ly’ described as comparatively easy, known or familiar, many a times more satisfying.

For example sorting data manually in spread sheet versus writing macros in MS Excel, will require learning to code in Visual Basic Editor. After which the job gets done smoothly and fast. Also, the macro written can be reused for other similar jobs.

Advantage of doing smart work is you get to understand the process in detail and thus you find more effective way of getting it done. You learn something new and thus adds to your talent and skill. In many cases it is time and cost effective. Resources saved can be used for your other creative engagements and fun.

Another example is going a walk for an hour or running/walking for 20mins on treadmill. Here if you have knee related situations, you need fresh air or natural source of Vitamin D then you definitely need the walk. On some days if you have less time then you go for treadmill exercise.

Among the many other examples, cooking is also where these choices are applicable.  Using a gadget versus labor intensive manual work. Many would swear that manual work makes food tastier. It is suggested here that you assess your resources including health and then decide and choose cooking process.

Again, working hard and working smartly both are right and both are correct. Both get work done.

It’s a choice. You can do either or both depending on your situations. Results and advantages are seen/achieved in both. Only thing you need, is to be mindful of where you can use which. The combination of both working hard and working smart, fetches great benefits.

Thank you and best regards

Reena Yadav, IADLife