Monthly Archives: January 2017

Value your manager – ‘your conscience’

Value your manager – ‘your conscience’

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Blog : https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/01/22/value-your-manager-your-conscience/

Dear friend!

Your first manager is/are your parent(s).

As you grow older your manager might change. The way you are managed changes. Either someone else manages you or you manage you.

However, your only manager that is consistent and is also an integral part of you is ‘your conscience’. Your conscience is your permanent manager. Your conscience tells you when you are lagging. Your conscience pushes you towards where you need to go. Your conscience pulls you away from where you are not suppose to venture. Your conscience gives you constant reminder when you stray. Your conscience communicates with you through your thoughts and feelings. Your conscience is the constant conversation within that is a continuous relay of information and guidance. Your conscience does not mind your outbursts, irritation or your frustrations. Your conscience does not get biased or deterred by your caress or excuses.

Your conscience is not judgmental of your actions or reactions. Your conscience is not distracted by other’s flattery, sweet words or by other’s harsh words, high decibel.

Your conscience conveys the ultimate answers.

Stay connected with your conscience. Simple breathing and writing exercises will strength the bond between you and your conscience.

You could do easy or deep breathing, where you observe exhaling and inhaling of your breath. You could do that while you focus on a candle light, color or paint or you could follow PRANAYAMA. In Pranayama, you are inhaling in from left nostril only and exhaling from right. Then inhaling from right nostril only and exhaling from left. This is one round. You could do 5 to 15 to 25 rounds at once. Get into this breathing process according to the time you have and when you are not operating any machinery. You could decide to keep your eyes open or close your eyes, as per your convenience. Before you start this conscious breathing, just ask yourself a question for which you seek an answer.

Your thoughts start to surface. They are in words in mind or written somewhere, numbers, scenes from onscreen or reality. Make a note. Analyse it in a while. Value these self messages and practice getting a deeper connection with self.

May you get all the answers and guidance you are seeking.

Thank you Best regards .

Reena Yadav, IADLife
IADLife.com
http://www.facebook.com/IADLife

 

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Seek alignment of loving feelings

We are all seeking alignment, whether they are – Loving feelings Or Crappy feelings

Dear Friend!

What do you notice in the following :

*A lone man enter a restaurant and the waiter smiles and greets him. Suggests him a seating and continues to pleasantly discuss how can he and the restaurant serve him. Now the man smiles back saying polite words. Waiter looks pleased by his efforts and customer’s reciprocation.

*A teacher scolding a 11 year old student. The child continues to smile. The teacher increases the intensity of the verbal scolding. The smile on the student’s face starts to disappear. Teacher then makes few more statements and stops, looking satisfied.

*Two men caught in a brawl in the middle of a street have their hands on each others collar and neck, are shouting at each other to make their point. Even after people separate them, they part mumbling in air looking irritated.

*A group of teenagers meet for a lunch dressed to their best in a restaurant they have been desiring to visit in a long time. The moment they meet at the entrance, they start to jump in a circle and laugh and talk all at once. The pitch and decibel of the sound and their excitement of the whole group seemed very high.

Did you notice, how each participant in all the cases above, relentlessly kept pursuing the gesture till the other participant would start to reciprocate in the similar manner.
Whether the situations were angry, sad, intense or happy, serene, fun, any one participant did not feel satisfied till they brought the other participant to the same/similar vibration which was reflected through their behavior in body language or verbal language.

Do you do that? Have you done that?
i.e. Kept entertaining people till they look pleased.
Or
Kept on pushing an argument till the other person gets equally or more agitated.

Why do you do that?
What could be the compulsion of getting the other person to your vibration.
Well the answer is ‘you do this because you feel less understood or approved when people don’t respond in a way as if your point is being understood’. This is seeking alignment.

What if you know that you need not keep trying to get someone’s approval, you just make your point and be confident that you have done your best. You are also open to other options like listening to their opinion, moving on or negotiation.

Now if you are at the receiving end, you could stand up for yourself by placing your points in a calm manner and under all conditions you do not get sucked into the whirlpool of the low vibrations by being aware of what the situation is. You could give the other person benefit of the doubt i.e. you know the reason why the person behaves like that while that person does not. Know that sometimes it is not the right time to get into counter arguments. In case you are unable to move on and you do get the low vibration discussions. It’s kool. That happened. As soon as you realise the situation, be willing to change.

Others change when you change.

Please know that you are constantly doing this to yourself. So, the alignment you are seeking, let it be the pleasant one.

Reena Yadav, IADLife
IADLife.com
http://www.facebook.com/IADLife

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Motivation helps to face the problem

Too much of criticism makes you a quitter and runner.

Only MOTIVATION makes you stand up and face the problem

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Blog : https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/01/18/motivation-makes-to-face-the-problem/

Dear Friend!

Do you feel you are a runner or a quitter!

Have you wondered why did you become this!

In retrospection, do you see yourself being criticised or snubbed by someone significant or influential in your life, when you decided to take an action, whether it was about exploring something, expanding your experiences or merely sharing an opinion. If so? What happened next? Did you revisit the request, suggestion, discussion or with supportive comment. Or did you give up. If so? Why? Did the past experiences of snubbing or criticism steal your thunder and emotionally cajoled you into not taking that action.

No action, no life experience.

No life experience, no growth.

Life feels stranded.

You end up quitting every time ‘situation gets tough’ or if you ‘sense it might be tough’. You run in every occasion of adverse condition.

At this stage, all this happens because of self-criticism and/or fear of criticism from others. As a result you are dissatisfied all the time. You tend to feel you have not done enough. You keep looking for ways and means to do more. Yet you never feel adequate or that you have reached your goal.

Switch to ‘MOTIVATION’.

Promote yourself to explore, expand and take ACTION. Fill your life with beautiful experiences.

Notice the increase in your confidence level to face your life situations. Find solutions. Live your life with new vigor.

Now if you are comfortable, support to do the same for others.

Thank you and best regards

Reena Yadav, IADLife

IADLife.com

http://www.facebook.com/IADLife

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I believe in myself

I don’t need to prove myself to others, I believe in myself, So I listen to myself

Dear Friends!

Every action taken, keeping several others in mind is too much work.
‘What to say?’
‘How to say?’
‘What body language to have?’
‘How to behave?’
‘What and where to wear?’
‘What to do?’
‘How to do?’
‘What will he/she/they think?’
Are these the conversations that goes on in your mind before any action? This means you are constantly trying to prove yourself to one or many.
Before every action you could still ask these questions as your guidelines to the next step or to decide on the details of an action. However, these questions must be addressed/directed within. Consult yourself on whys, whens, hows and whats of your action. Only what you feel and how you feel about the action matters.
Present these question(s) to yourself in front of mirror and/or while you sit with a pen and paper to note down the replies in the form of thoughts, conversations, lyrics or a write up that catches your attention from somewhere. The more you get into discussing these question(s) with yourself, the better you get to know the true level of your capability.
As you follow these consults, even if it is a bit difficult to follow initially, you will see and experience, the result of following those guidance in the form of prosperity in your life, first hand.

As you start getting comfortable listening and following your internal guidance. You will free yourself from the behavior of pleasing others. Amazingly, you will also become comfortable in taking feedback, comments and advice from others in a respectful and constructive manner. Thus, adding to the prosperity of the action.

This applies to all actions small and big. Start with small actions or just take a leap with the big ones. For action that is a big one, for you, will need you to dig deeper within. This is to get the right answers, as you need to remember the superficial thoughts and feelings are still influenced by your care and concern of your peer(s).

Regardless of the effort, the process is beneficial for you.

Thank you and best regards
Reena Yadav, IADLife
IADLife.com
http://www.facebook.com/IADLife

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Fear is not REAL

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Bog : https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/01/16/fear-is-not-real/

Dear friend!

Always always, be aware of fear and worry. These two things are not real. Ironically the impact of them is immense. Both act as vicious chain reaction to each other. Fear gives rise to worry and worry increases fear.

These arise from series of situations or life experiences that you had found really difficult to handle. Maybe not first time. Maybe a little the second time. But the next time, the memory reminds how tough the after effects were. And thus, is the birth of worry. Eventually it starts to get difficult to manage, especially with the memory of the past difficulties piling up.  Each time same or similar situation arises, the stacked up memory gets into motion and is responsible for the worry to surface. Worry reminds you that you need to be afraid. Recognise this. Fear is a behaviour. Worry is a habit. What you do because of worry and fear is your choice. Do you stop yourself? Do you take impulsive action?

Unless you decide to recognise these are unreal, you will continue to procrastinate, avoid, play small, not explore, not trust and/or make excuses.

Making something as unreal as fear and worry  to be an integral part of the life and a deciding factor in many of your life’s decisions, is very unfair to your beautiful life.

These two are lower vibrations entities.  Every desire that has fear and/or worry as it’s adjuncts does not manifest in a high vibration result and thus is ‘not fun’.

Uncalled manifestation of physical diseases, headaches, heavy head, hair fall, hyper tension, acidity, aches and pain in various part of the body- calf muscles, upper-lower back, are because of fear and worry.

Once you recognise it. How do you stop from allowing them to interfere in your decision making?

Please as the very first step, work on releasing stress. If you can step away, go for a short or long walk, listen to a music that lifts your mood, do EFT or tapping, energy healing (clearing of back solar plexus). If for some reasons you are unable to move away from the scene, start thinking and saying incessantly ‘All is good’,’ All will work out’, ‘Everything will keep getting better and better.’

The moment you calm down, take your next step in action.

Make this your practice to start eliminating anything that is causing you not to enjoy your actions steps in life.

This is practice. This is work. Make it your habit.

Thank you and best regards

Reena Yadav, IADLife

IADLife.com

http://www.facebook.com/IADLife

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CareGiver need to take care of themselves first

People who take up the responsibility of taking care of others, are the ones who take care of themselves the most. This is the true form of care giving. True nature of a care giver.

Dear Friends!

When you travel in an aeroplane, during the safety demo you are advised to put on your oxygen mask first, before you help anyone else. ( reference : https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2014/06/26/what-happens-when-healer-needs-healing/)

As care givers your schedule revolves around the one you are taking care of. This could be a health or welfare necessity. But you still can include your schedule of nutrition, health, skill building, entertainment, earning in your care giving schedule.

Care giving is for anyone who could need your help. If you are taking care of children, students, the sick, the sad, the depressed, animal, environment and/or oneself, this qualifies for you to be called a care giver.

Care givers are each one of you. As one time or the other you get a chance to be one. Some are temporary care givers and others are care givers for longer, either by profession or by relation.

You don’t need to feel less of a care giver if you slip or give attention to your schedule too. Please …please keep your energy level high. Watch and read fun, uplifting movies, videos and books. Talk in a language that reflects what you really …really want.

Take care of yourself. We need more of loving care givers on this planet.

Thank you and best regards

Reena Yadav, IADLife

IADLife.com

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Generous people are Content people

Dear friend!

People who have and what people have, belongs to them.
Giving is a personal choice. Many a times this choice is influenced by others dictation.
When and only when you decide to part with what is yours out of your free will, it is only then you are GENEROUS in true sense.
What truly prompts you to be generous, is the faith that you will be taken care of even when your resources leave your space. When this action of giving is coaxed, coerced, cajoled, by manipulation, your intelligent self knows that you can give yourself that choice to give away your resources, at that time. But as you take that step, your feeling of lack with this action starts to replace the space created by your giving.
When you give anything that is yours and you still feel you have enough, that is the state of contentment.
When you are content then you are GENEROUS. When you give out of generosity you enjoy, have fun and relish the sweet joy of giving.
So what do you do? To give or not to give!
Do you wait till you feel content? How would you know what it is to feel content? How long can you wait till that feeling surfaces for you to start giving?
Well the answer is ‘do as you please?’
No one can make you give away what you do not wish to give away. If you are made to give, a) Make it your choice – how? ‘Say this to yourself that you are willing to give this a try.’
b) Give something to yourself – what? Appreciation, approval, something you love or/and affirmation “Thank you. I give this with love, joy and grace. May I receive in multi-fold. Thank you.”
Change is immediate but to some it seems gradual, because it depends on your willingness to accept the change.
These actions trains you to be content. Choose to recognise this change.

Being content is the ultimate feeling.

Thank you and best regards

Reena Yadav, IADLife

IADLife.com

http://www.facebook.com/IADLife

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