Don’t mind other people’s reactions. Because they reflect what you need to know, but have not been paying attention to.
People around you have a certain behavior or reaction. Some you like, others not so much. Many a times you may not remember the behavior, reaction, gesture, comment, but you remember the feeling. The feelings tell you which behavior you have liked and which you don’t like.
‘Like it’, say thank you.
‘Don’t like it’ and it does not appeal to you, sincerely do not ignore it. These are reflection of certain aspect of your life situation that is very important to you, but you have not been paying attention to.
For example if you see someone in your space being insincere and if it is bothering you, this is an indication that you need to be sincere in your life.
Same goes for dishonesty, dominating, domineering, cruelty, rudeness, making fun, not appreciating, not approving, inconsistency or not reciprocating. You need to introspect as to where have you been doing the same thing i.e. behaving in the same manner with someone else or your own self.
Most of the time what you notice in others behaviour of which you are not a big fan of, is actually something you are doing to your own self and wish to change in your life.
So others behaviour or comments, don’t mind it. Appreciate and be grateful for their reactions. Because they are helping you notice what you need to change in your life.
Certain behaviour or reaction come not from outside but from within, and you will not like the sound of it. Sometimes you may catch yourself commenting on yourself or others. Sometimes certain behaviours, reactions surface when you act on peer pressure. These are not just slip of tongue so to speak or has happened inadvertently, these actually need your attention.
Observe it/them, work on them. Be willing to make that change.
Thank you and Best Regards
Reena Yadav, IADLife