Do things because YOU CAN not because someone else cannot.
Do you like to help or support! Are you helping kind! What is the exclamation remarks that come out of your mouth when you see someone in need?
O sad he/she/they/it cannot!
O Yay I can! I am here! I got you, buddy!
You cannot give anything that you don’t already have. When you do decide to give, it comes from a combination of having enough to share and the willingness to share. While giving, your attention goes to two aspects (a) what is the requirement at/of the situation (b) what you have and if you have the willingness to share.
Your abilities hold more value and use than others lack of it.
When you focus on others inabilities. You try your best to compensate that by keeping them comfortable to provide them the support whilst your real investigative mind focus is on ‘why they were not able to.’ What you focus on you attract. The inability you are focussing on, you end up noticing in your life in some area. This inability is also lack. This instills fear, which is connected to ‘not having enough.’ Questions like, would this happen when you are in this position, that is, when you cannot, starts to arise in your mind.
Next time you look at someone with lack then, instead of checking your ‘banks full of abilities’, you get more fearful of ‘what if.’ You will, therefore, see lack everywhere. It also proves to you that it is not nice not to have, that is when you do not have you have to ask or depend. You try your best not to be in that position. So you constantly are in the reminder of that. You still get in these situations and by now it is registered in your mind that it is not pleasant to be in this position. You now develop an aversion towards such situations that imply lack to you. This impression extends to the person/thing/entity that is in this situation. You start asking all wrong questions ‘why did this situation happen’, ‘should have known better.’ And all your intentions of providing support ‘because you can’, becomes more about ‘because they cannot.’ When you are not ready, unwilling or are unprepared, it may cause irritation and dislike towards extending the help and support.
Respect every situation, entity, experience. Have respect for it. Life is full of experiences customised to each one on this planet. Each one is here to be co-dependant. Each and every person is not here to have all the same abilities. ABILITIES are inherent and/or are developed and is also absorbed and reflected according to an individual. Complementation of the abilities is what gives you an opportunity to flex the muscles of the abilities. It is a feel good factor when you contribute where your ability is required, in demand, has value and is beneficial.
You need not look for situations with inabilities. Because if you do spot them, that only means that you have been able to do so because it is a reflection of something within you.
Focussing and being grateful for what you can, only helps gain enough confidence in what you can.
Each opportunity you get to share ‘what you can’, is an excellent chance to keep honing ‘what you can.’ So when the opportune time and event comes you shall get to satisfactorily utilise and show ‘what you can.’
Thank you for contributing, helping and supporting. Thank you because you can.
Reena Yadav, IADLife
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