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Satisfactory Introduction

A satisfactory introduction is that which contains information on answers that fill in the blanks about your life.

Satisfactory Introduction

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Dear Friend!

What am I most comfortable being addressed as? Is being me enough? What is my introduction?

How do I introduce myself? What do I call myself? What is my identity? Who am I?

Is it in my name or gender? Is it in how I am related to my parents or siblings? Is it in my qualification? Is it in my achievements, personal or professional? Is it known from my profession or position of my job past or present? Is it in my description of my characteristics as attributed by others? Or is it in the outer appearance as noticed by others?

What introduction of mine would suffice?

I am, Reena Yadav, a women/female, daughter, sister, sis-in-law, aunt. Would it be enough to say that I am post-graduate in Microbiology, first rank holder, researcher, was the associate research scientist in fortune 500 pharmaceutical company, am an entrepreneur, a life coach or would more data be required. Of course, these are all true and these are all me.

How much of an introduction is enough? What kind of introduction would be satisfactory?

Introduction varies according to the forum in which the introduction is being done. For the person being introduced, an apt introduction is what is relevant for the audience of that occasion. For a person hearing, however, the satisfactory introduction is what quenches their curiosity. What is being looked for in the introduction is the answer to question that the listener has for his/her own life.

Just as sharing of introductions vary, introductions get added or they change. They could be happy, proud additions, or not so happy changes. Sharing of/about these changes is an individual’s option and it has to be done with their consent.

One such change that got added in my introduction was from the road-traffic accident nearly 20 years ago that resulted in right mid-arm amputation. Since then, amputee, handicapped, disabled, does not have one arm, got added in my introduction. And every time it was mentioned it was done without my permission.

My brother was visiting and I decided to take his help in choosing a car. As soon as we entered the car show-room, I excitedly started looking at the cars. I was happy with the presence of my brother by my side as that was a great support. An attendant moved towards us and offered his help. My brother turned and bent towards him and with no expressions said, ‘this is my big sister and she does not have her right arm.’ I would know of his reason to introduce me this way only if he had discussed with me first. Only thing I remember was that I had lost my enthusiasm but I was around as I had nowhere else to go.

It is hurtful getting trapped into a situation with an introduction that you are not prepared to hear about yourself. To react or to ignore is your choice. When it is sprung suddenly there is no preparedness to make the choice.

After I founded IADLife I gradually had the willingness to meet any person for networking purposes. In one such meeting as soon as I shook hands with my left hand the man I was meeting got fixated in knowing more about me as an amputee. There was a minimal discussion about IADLife. To every person he introduced me he said ‘she is handicapped.’ There was no productive discussion regarding IADLife networking in that meeting. The only action of mine I remember is smiling and in my thoughts I had, never to meet this person again.

Your introduction needs to be based on (a) Why are you being introduced? (b) What is the necessity of being introduced? (c) What are you most comfortable being introduced as?

In parallel, it is a good idea to address the part of the introduction that is painful. On close attention, it will get clear that the feelings attached to that description or part of the introduction, is that what you have been trying to avoid. It is actually this emotion that becomes your introduction. This will be so till you choose to heal it.

For me when my brother introduced my handicap I was yet to accept my change in my life. For me, the pain, hurt, uncertainty, rejections, delays, lack of clarity of what and why of my life, was the meaning of that introduction.

Some introductions are too obvious, based on outer appearances. This depends on the other person’s willingness to notice.

An interesting point is just because I am not looking at myself and because of the phantom’s limb sensation, I don’t remember having the amputation most of the time. It is in my reflection, remembrance/reminding of the past experiences, expressions on people’s faces or their gestures, or direct addressing with a related question, that brings me to the reality that I do have an arm missing.

A senior colleague had just moved in from the US. During the introductory one on one meeting at my workstation, he started his conversation as ‘I see that you have only one hand.’ Believe you me, it was like a jolt. My mind that was preparing what to say and what to know from this scientist was suddenly interrupted my physical reality was brought into my realisation.

For the longest time, I did not know the reason for the frustration whenever I was introduced or addressed like this. Now I understand. I needed to accept myself first. I realised that when I am anything but proud of any part of my introduction, it is me who is abandoning a part of me. I needed to stand by myself and understand what is it that I am not proud of and why.

Along with this, I believe in every forum there has to be the right information about self or a person that needs to be mention. An unrelated introduction is a distraction.

With the increase in my self-acceptance, the importance of the contents of my introduction has started to hold little value. It is because of the comfort level that I have with that part of my introduction.

To be continued ….Next Chapter on my life next week.

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Why do people go silent on you

Why do people go silent on you? -Wednesday Why?Why do people go silent on you

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Dear Friend!

When the hurt occurs, you shut down. You get into a shell. The formation of this behavior was due to your past repetitive experiences. One where you were not allowed to speak, defend or react with gestures when addressed, accused, and/or scolded. And the other where your actions that were judged as mistakes were reciprocated with snubbing, cutting off, ignoring, cold-shouldering, rebuffing. All in all incommunicado and outcaste. So what registers is you not being able to stand up for yourself or what wish to convey, because of lack of practice. This reflects as your characteristic both when and where you had to make a point when questioned and/or when you see yourself being wronged. When you are in the eye of the storm you don’t battle it, instead, you rather wait it out. After the incident, you self-practice either reliving the situation hypothetically trying out various permutation combinations of your stance. You also secretly promise yourself that when this incident happens again you will say this/that or show gestures this way/that way. You thus end up attracting a similar situation again or a persistent hurtful situation resurfaces. Another thing that is similar is your inability to respond as per your deciding. Many of such experiences result in subconscious programming of this/these reaction(s). You react with silent treatment or with unexpected outbursts when you are offended or where there is an offense according to you. You receive silent treatment in situations, events or incidents where you are in desperate need of communication.

A behavior of low decibel insulting comment(s) in midst of a conversation or argument is also part of silent treatment syndrome.

Just because you have done this with others, the Universe is not trying to get back at you nor is it Karma trying to form a balance. It is the remnant of the pattern that you are attracting because you wish to change that behavior in your space and heal. It is also Universe’s way to bring to your attention that your communication needs to get better in articulation, politeness, and transparency.

Healing is not just about realisation. That, in fact, is the first step. A big achievement. However, healing is complete with this next step that is finding a solution and implementing it.

So how to stop these silent treatments. Lack of communication is neither healthy for you nor is it so for the other person.

(i) Do not keep any hidden agendas. Do not postpone solving the matter. Be clear with yourself. When you wish to express, constructively express. This will leave no space for doubt. (ii) Get better in your communication. The best person to improve or enhance your communication is with yourself. You can stand in front of your mirror and talk to yourself. Give yourself the respect. Greet when you meet and say goodbye when the conversation is done. Address what seems incomplete. Take more than one sittings but be willing to complete. You will know when it is complete when the issue does not bother you anymore. (iii) Let go the need to address a situation with another person when there is lack of respect, safety or in a dispensable relationship. Taking the learning from them is best suited here. Keep your energy not to quit only for the indispensable relationships. Here you take the initiative. Be open to receiving the other person/people when approached regardless of the relationship category. (iv) When you imagine and visualize, let it be the best communication. Ask for an interaction beyond that.  (v) Genuinely wish well for all.

Believe you me, my dear friend this will require practice.

Combine your practice with self and if you comfortable with others, with tapping or EFT.

You following actions can help in implementing the solutions further.

(a) A guided meditation to let go your guilt, your inability to speak up or to speak right and the fear of rejection.

(b) Affirm, ‘all my conversation and communications are with love, joy, and grace.’ ‘I enjoy conversing and communicating.’ ‘I communicate and converse with ease.’ ‘It is a pleasure being approached. I feel safe and divinely protected at all times.’

 

You deserve to be communicated and to communicate.

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divine assignment

Each one of you is on a divine assignment on this planet as CAREGIVERS.

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As you begin your stay here your primary support system on this planet are the caregivers. These caregivers in many cases are the parents, relatives or hired help. As you spend some time on this planet caregivers change or get added. These are the teachers, peers, friends, service providers. All of them play some role in and as your support system. Incidentally, the moment you step on this planet you too become part of someone/somebody’s support system. As you gain motor skills, decision-making skills, and an understanding of these two skills, you begin to participate or become a caregiver. It could be to an animal or a human.

An interesting fact is where there is giving there is a requirement of receiving. This is because with every giving there is a requirement of replenishing that space that is created. If that is not done then there is depletion and there is a lack that is created. In the state of lack, the caregiving quality is affected and may not be high in energy. This kind of caregiving is not beneficial, neither for the giving party nor for the party to whom it is given. Therefore with giving the receiving is essential, important and even mandatory.

As caregivers, you are fulfilling a task, job, and responsibility that were decided for you with your consent. You are therefore on a divine assignment on this planet.

When approached for something, have you ever cringed, got irritated, or even gotten angry.

How is the giving at this point? How is the energy? How is the quality? What are the emotions involved in this giving?

Did this request or asking seem like something extra, out of the way, being taken advantage of, unnecessary, not within your capability? Needless to mention there was a clear unwillingness in your reaction.

In this kind of giving, you miss out on the fun, the learning, and the acknowledgment.

This attitude in giving actually could be influenced by others or by your own opinion of you. There is a main and the only one reason because of which you are not or have not or had not been enjoying giving. It is because what you are trying to give has been missing within or for you.

The care, the appreciation, the approval, the support, all need to be directed to self first. What you do not have you cannot give to others.

What you do not feel yourself first, you cannot feel for others. Appreciate yourself, before you expect to be appreciated by others. Give approval to yourself, before you expect others to approve of you. Love yourself, before you expect others to show love to you. Care about yourself before you show care to yourself.

Still unsure if you are a caregiver that you can be? Then observe your caregiving in the opportunities that come in your space as a caregiver. Notice your emotions, feelings, attitude, and action.

Once you realise your capacity as a caregiver, there are possibilities that certain missed opportunities can start surfacing. If the person you wished to show care is not with you anymore either incommunicado or not on this planet, then you design how you would have shown care to them and either verbally or by writing have a hypothetical conversation with them. End this communication with ‘thank you for the opportunity.’

Affirmation: ‘I am on divine assignment on this planet as a caregiver, and I am willing to believe I am doing enough.’

You are saying, hearing or the results reflect that you are not doing enough. And according to you as a caregiver, your efforts are less than optimum. There is a possibility you could go into guilt right after.

Instead, if you could choose to appreciate, approve, love, trust, value, and respect all that you are doing, that will leave no scope for guilt. From this point, if you wish to do more, please do more.

Once you reach a place or stage where you are comfortable being a caregiver, you will notice situations of procrastination, not taking responsibilities or hesitation to support to disappear. The reason for this comfortable giving is that your primary recipient is a satisfied customer, and that is you.

Go ahead complete your mission with love. Your security is prime, so when you see yourself or your dear ones in danger, you can choose to say no. Keeping yourself and your dear ones safe is also part of the divine assignment.

Take good care of yourself.

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Celebration

Celebration has to be one that complements not that is contradictory to your efforts and accomplishment.

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Dear Friend!

Every moment is worthy of celebration. Integrate celebration in every moment in your life. Celebrate with an action. Size, magnitude, scope, the extent of the celebration is of secondary significance and is therefore not your deciding factor. Similarly, the reason for the celebration can also vary. In fact, find reasons in very situations to celebrate.

Celebration rules include the following.

(a) Your celebration need not hamper your important commitment, responsibilities, and duties. When it interferes then that might dampens the celebration. Because neglecting your priorities might cause losses or you could be distracted and not be enjoying the celebration. To take care of this, you could inform the concerned parties and then take time off. Your everyday routine however could be shuffled. If the earlier commitments are keeping you from the way you wish to celebrate then, find ways and means to celebrate amidst them. You can always find a way. You will still have the time. Always have energy, and willingness to celebrate.

(b) Celebrate in a way, doing what and with people you are comfortable with. Never celebrate with anything you are not going to enjoy with. Let go the aversion of celebrating alone. In fact, the first celebration has to be with you. See honor in celebrating with others and for others too. Again in ways, means and with whom you are comfortable with.

(c) Way to celebrate need not be fixed. Be willing to be flexible in type, time, and way of celebration.

(d) Celebrate doing what you love and also what helps you expand or add to your experience. Do not keep repeating the same experience. Add variety. Even if there is only a slight variation in celebration. Celebrate doing what you can do. If you wish to celebrate in a way that is not supported by your resources at present. Then, make a note. For the future manifestation of the desired way of celebration collect resources, vizualise, create vision boards, ask help from source and angels, and take action steps. Please do new things too. Do things that would support you in going beyond your limitations.

(e) Your safety is a must.

When you see the change you celebrate. When you see a delay celebrate. When somebody comes celebrate. When somebody leaves celebrate. When something happens celebrate. When something has yet to happen celebrate. When an idea occurs for your life enhancement, celebrate. Also, celebrate when you experience stagnation or block. When you recognise a resistance or what you wish to change, celebrate. Celebrate when there is flow.

Integrate celebration into anything and everything. Make celebration a habit.

A celebration is a wonderful way to congratulate, acknowledge, and to show gratitude for your blessings.

Celebration could be with food, with travel or a trip, music, dance, shopping, entertainment, gifting yourself something for example book, workshop, counseling session, added changes, exercises, writings, de-cluttering or organising.

A celebration is a reward.

Celebration has to be one that complements your accomplishment. Celebration cannot be contradictory to your efforts. These celebrations get converted into guilt and criticism and thus does not remain a celebration anymore. It is no fun.

A simple understandable common example is going for a chocolate sundae ice-cream after your week’s or even day’s exercise regime. You celebrate this success with something healthy in food, maybe shop a sportswear, adding an exercise equipment to your home gym collection or even an

information search on what more to do in exercise and fitness.
When your celebrate in such a manner it is only then that you will feel, remember and get motivated for your next moment in life.

Celebrate with and for yourself and/or others. Keep happiness and enjoyment as mandatory criteria.

 

How do you wish to celebrate your next moment or the next achievement?

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Be inspiring

Be inspiring for what is possible and not in spite of.
Be inspiring

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Dear Friend!

I am a right arm amputee as a result of a road traffic accident. This happened in 1997. Since then my life has been a game of survival. The ultimate truth about my life is that everything I have done ever since I became an amputee is to live my life with grace and dignity. Thinking in retrospect I remember the next day in the hospital the calmness with which I attended to my morning routine really surprises me today. Suddenly being plunged into this life had not knocked the winds out of me, so to speak. I showed confidence and to every visitor in the hospital I use to say, ‘I will be able to take care of myself.’ I spent the initial months attending to my physical wounds. I was sincere and regular with my hospital visits for bandage changes, check-ups, and consultation appointments. I was finding new ways to attend to my everything and everyday needs. I had not just switched to becoming a left handed person but I had to come to terms with that being the only hand I had. Gradually as my life started to make an attempt to connect with the society the confidence that I was showing began to dwindle. There were many aspects that contributed in that. The frustration of not being able to do certain things like tying my hair, carrying heavy books, and not being able to explain what and why of my emotional state, to my own self and to others. It was because I had really never given myself right to complain, so I was not very good at that. The less I expressed myself the more I was getting angry, frustrated and shut down. What affected and changed me was the looks and the reactions I was getting from every person who came to see me rather than to meet me. To ‘see me’ because every visit was about their expressions and unsought advice. I was trying my best to show them that, ‘I am fine, I can take care of myself.’ Today I understand it was not only to get an approval on my efforts to get back up in my life, but it was also about my attempts to minimise non-creative, non-prosperous interactions which were getting very painful. I did not get to participate in any conversation about me with me to discuss the, ‘what next’ of my life. The Universe however was sending me the ‘what nexts’. I had to change my dressing style, hair style, and ways to function socially. I met people who were complete strangers and in just one unplanned meeting they were giving me clues and tips on my dressing style, driving and further education. My every step was fear based, fear of missing out. I did not take any break. Although I had the accident in the first month of my second year of Masters in Microbiology, I completed the course that academic year itself. I had to request for assistance and scribe. I scored the first rank in the University of Madras in 1998. As I write this I see this as an achievement. Then however I was relieved I did not have to reappear for the exams. I moved to the field of Bioinformatics and took my admission in University of Manchester. I did not fare well in that course. I took admission for MS but I barely passed and was given a diploma for the same course. There is very simple explanation for all that, I did not study, ‘All my energy was directed in trying to cope, rebuild, enjoy, forget and get away from all that reminded me of what I was.’ I was without a job or anything else to do, when I came back to India. As soon as I was given my diploma I started applying for jobs. I took the first job that was offered, that to in another city. Ten months later I was laid off. Many months later I got a job in a pharmaceutical company as a scientist. Ten years later I was part of the layoff in the company. Less than three months later I got a wonderful job and I did really well there. I had started taking counselling when I was in the pharma working as a researcher.  I could see my patterns changing, but I was not getting any happier. That’s right by now I had started giving myself the right to know that ‘I deserve to be happy.’ One fine day without any notice I walked out of this well-paying job with good career prospects.

Reason, I did not give myself a chance to recuperate, readjust, reassess, my life choices and steps. I was hasty. I had blamed myself for every step that was not spelling success. I had not been in any romantic relationship that was another big blow to my confidence. I was as if waiting for something to get corrected in my life to attract my Man. The arranged alliances that were being brought to me were not supporting me in fulfilling my desire to co-create my family. I as a person who was self-critical, self-blaming, with no idea about gratitude, was actually living a life of little or no self-approval. In this phase of my life, every comment was an in spite of comment. That is I saw every praise, appreciation, endearing statement, approval coming my way as if I was being said that, ‘you have achieved this in spite of your condition.’ Truth be told these were the exact words told to me by one person.

When I see my life as the opportunities that arose and the possibilities that were generated, it is only then that I can give myself permission to be inspirational. When you allow yourself to inspire, then getting inspired by others also becomes a possibility.

It has taken me twenty years to have the courage to share what is my near real self.  This has truly been a liberating experience to be able to accept myself exactly as I am or maybe I am close to doing that. This process definitely is helping.

I would request and encourage everyone going through adversities to take a step away from the pain, rejection and view the possibilities that are emerging from it.

I remember myself to be a happy go lucky girl. I am on my journey to be that girl again. I like that girl.

I pray and I affirm to inspire the world as I live my life with my high potential.

To be continued ….Next Chapter on my life next week.

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Your presence and existence matters

Your presence, existence, and actions are an answer, guidance or reply to someone else’s question, prayers or query.
your presence and existence matters

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Dear Friend!

Your presence, existence, and actions are an answer, guidance or reply to someone else’s question, prayers or query.

Case Study: ‘Ei’ had finished writing the next chapter of the book that he so desired to publish. He had been placing the excerpts of his writing on the social networking sites to test the waters so to speak. He would intently wait for the response. His only way of knowing about the response, was when someone dropped in a comment or an emoji. That he wasn’t getting very many of. At this point as he was deciding on the paragraph of the latest chapter to share, he started to question, ‘do I really need to write this?’, ‘will anyone miss it if I stopped sharing these online.’ Less than ten seconds later he received a message as a comment to his earlier sharing. ‘Thanks for sharing these writings, I like them, I have been reading them and I look forward to reading your next piece. I have been sharing this with my friends and other groups as well.’ ‘Ei’ was thrilled and motivated at the sign of getting an answer to his question, from the Universe. His lit up eyes searched for the name of the sender. He did not know this person. She was ‘S’ an aspiring writer. The previous night ‘S’ came back from her regular office and sat on her new low-level coffee table that she had specifically bought to come back home and relax. She sat there sipping her coffee and thought, ‘what would it take to be a writer full time?’, ‘how to start, how much time can I dedicate?’ With these thoughts running through her mind, she switched on her mobile to check for the update. ‘S’ noticed that her favorite author had posted his weekly writings. ‘S’ thought in her mind ‘maybe I can write a small paragraph every day with my evening coffee on my new coffee table.’ It was the paragraph from ‘Ei’ that had inspired her to this idea. She read and forwarded the update to her usual groups and her friend ‘K’.

Earlier that afternoon, ‘K’ was in a crucial decision-making situation. There was a pattern that ‘K’ had been experiencing. She was experiencing toxic relationships both in her personal as well as her professional life. She had discussed break-up with her boyfriend the previous evening. Now, as she waited outside the HR’s cabin with the hard copy of the resignation letter in her hand, she wondered when she leaves the job, would she be missed. She paced up and down the office corridor. She was wearing an elegant brown sleeveless knee length dress with a bow on the left side near the shoulder. That evening ‘K’ saw the forward from her friend ‘S’. The topic was ‘Make your absence felt too.’ As she read she realised that she was focusing on all external entities about how she was supposed to feel about her existence. The toxicity in the relationships was because of the emotional dependency for her existence to be acknowledged. ‘K’s colleague ‘D’ had her cabin on the same floor and she could see ‘K’ taking her to and fro walk. ‘D’ had been contemplating wearing western wear. She had asked ‘would it be appropriate to switch to western wear in the office, how would I look, would it be comfortable.’ An unassuming ramp walk by her colleague motivated her to try out some western wear. That day during lunch hour, while sitting in the canteen she ordered for some western wear clothes online. She was efficiently using the phone, typing, pressing buttons, using and balancing her fingers from the back to front as she was using her one arm. When she had to eat she placed her phone on a phone stand. She was eating and reading the phone and looked very comfortable doing both. ‘J’ who was also in the canteen was literally talking to himself, ‘how do I eat, how to work through the phone and my computer?’ ‘J’ had sprained his right arm and was in a bandage and was advised not to use the arm too much. Observing ‘D’ calmed him down. The previous day ‘T’ a cab driver for twelve years had a question ‘how can I earn and still be of service to people who really need my expertise?’ Few minutes later as he dropped a passenger, to a mall and was tactfully parking right outside in a very tight space between the two cars, ‘T’ received a call from his boss about a part-time job for a top executive who needed a pick up and drop during the weekdays, as he had had an accident. This was for ‘J’. Parking for ‘R’ was easy in open spaces. When she reached the mall the only parking available was in the outside lane of the mall. She asked herself screaming ‘how to park in small spaces?’ When she saw ‘T’ park she noted exactly how the car maneuvered.

This goes on. Your presence, existence, and actions are all the time an answer, guidance or reply to someone else’s question, prayers or query. They affect others too.

This need not weigh on you. This information is basically to flatter you and is more like a request that you could be more aware that you and what you do matters.

 

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Why Journal

Why Journal? – Wednesday Why?

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Dear Friend!
Please enlighten us on how maintaining a journal on our desires can aid in manifestation! (Request from Mrs. Vinutha.)
To journal is to document. It could be by way of writing, typing and/or by video or audio taping. These are the various forms of journaling. Your mind is very efficient machinery that stores your data. Although the data stored is yours, the source of information could be yours or from others. It could be one that you noticed and one that escaped your observation. Your mind is also very obedient. It provides you with the information as per your instructions.If you have been saying ‘my memory sucks’, ‘it is a slow’, ‘it doesn’t support me when it is expected to’, consequentially, your mind takes that as a command or request. It will respond just as a sucky memory, will be slow and its support will never be enough.
In contrast, if you say that ‘I have excellent memory’, ‘I love my mind’, ‘I have a beautiful mind’, ‘I love and respect my mind’, and ‘my mind always supports me especially when I need it’, your precious mind will be exactly that for you.
Your mind has been compliant to you even when you were repeating what your influencers were saying, teaching, instructing, or guiding. That may not be what you agree with today. The re-instructing takes a bit of time, as the earlier directives were too deep-seated because of your trust in those influencers. When wonderful, beautiful, motivating, loving words are fed to your mind, you only see those as your truth, rest of the words pass unscathed. The same happens when not-so-beautiful or not-so-wonderful words were said to you. For example, when you missed answering in your exam, what were you told about your memory? If you said something that others did not agree or when you faulted in any way, what was told about your brain or mind? Have you been called a liar? Have you been criticised? Have your mistakes been blamed or directed to be a mistake of your mind?
Are you now willing to change because your present self would suggest you to?
Then, it becomes your responsibility to support your mind. You don’t challenge it, blame it, name call it, or get angry with it. You support your mind. Then see how your mind supports you.
The most efficient way to support your mind is to by journaling. You note down anything and everything, in anyway and every way. What you see, hear, think and understand. Your to-do lists, your dreams, visions, your ideas, your discussions, your viewpoints, your aspirations, and desires.
You can journal it in a decided, organized manner or just scribble it. It could be in detail or just pointers. Carry your recording device everywhere.
Adding dates and time is useful in the long run as a flashback, to tally or confirm information.
Journaling helps you see where you started and how far you have traveled. Journaling is the best way to recognise your blessings along the way. Your life’s learning is more evident and much more clearer when you are journaling in the most unbiased manner. This is the most truthful way to document/ store the evidence of your existence. You can decide it to be confidential and can be shared only with your permission.
Journaling helps in manifesting your desires. When you ask for a desire, you are given information that directs you to go where you can have it or what to do to receive it. This information has guidance that is in the form of pictures, scenes, symbol, and feelings. Journaling them helps in remembering them, delayering them, revising them, understanding them and following them. You get your subtle instructions in your observations. Journaling about your desires includes making a ‘done that’ and ‘have yet to do that’ checklist, noticing your experiences, and acknowledging all you are grateful for. Together they provide a clear stepwise movement towards your desire manifestation.
One manifestation helps you build your confidence in your future manifestations. Journaled data builds a roadmap and you can take supportive points from here for your next manifestation(s). Journaling allows detailed studying of all that you have done right to manifest. When you see your list of desires that you have manifested it builds your faith in yourself and your support system.
Sometime later, you can collate all the memories, learning, life experiences and publish it. You will be helping yourself and someone else somewhere who connects with your experience to build that roadmap to manifest.
It is actually a lot of fun going through your journal in retrospect. Your observation and your understanding is what you note. You see your evolution in your observations. You notice your growth in your understanding of your observations. You have super fun going through your déjà vu(s).
Journaling is practice. You need to JOURNAL regularly to get better at it and gain most benefits from it.
Thank You and Best Wishes
Reena Yadav, IADLife
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