Monthly Archives: December 2017

do it NOW

Don’t feel bad, Don’t be upset, Just get started, Be willing to change.

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Dear Friend!

Yes yes and triple yes. You can just acknowledge and agree that you have done that or you have not done that. You are calling it a mistake. Accepted! Don’t need to beat yourself over and over again about it. What would you like to do now? Think about it, talk about it, discuss, solve. Now you have some idea what to do now and so just implement it. If you are still unclear, then take one step and that is, celebrate the acknowledgment that something needs to be changed. Many a time it is an inkling that something needs to change but putting your finger on that has yet to happen. Most certainly it is a focused task, that has to be accompanied with tapping and/ or divine help.

The moment the step is clear take it. Either partially or a complete step. The step could be journaling, planning, and/or creating a system. Remember to have motivational activities as part of the plan and steps. Know and believe that you can change. Say it out loud, ‘I am willing to change.’ Of course, you can do this.

You don’t see yourself making the change or you see change not taking place in your life. The only major reason is that you have yet to start. You get stranded as getting over the fact that you have made an error is a blunder in your books. The guilt and the anticipation of the punishment keeps you from taking that step. In case you have realised and understood the step to be taken and you have not taken it. Then, that is yet another mistake for you.

It is OK! The best part is you already know what to do. Please find the willingness to promote yourself here.

It is a myth that to take the step or to change you have a dependence on others. Diffuse the myth by delayering your action step. Segregate the sub-steps that can be done by you. How doable are they now? You will find that they are more doable than you initially anticipated. They are actually very doable. Please do not wallow in self-pity. Don’t let that or any other reason be an excuse to deny or delay you in taking your step. Cross every hurdle that is its way. To every blockage, every resistance, every difficulty, every confusion and/or every predicament that you think had been blameable or responsible for the procrastination, please be willing to wave goodbye permanently as you go past them and cross them.

The reason you need to advocate, cajole, convince, persuade yourself to take the action step and the reason you need to comply, agree, and actually carry out the action step is that if you don’t you may slip back into not feeling unaccomplished, not useful and not good enough. This is a precursor to taking hasty, non-productive, non-fruitful, not-logical step that you may further stick onto just to justify your action-decision. This could take a roundabout and bring you exactly where you had not taken the step you wanted to take.

Even now, take the step.

These action steps can be something small or could be a big leap. They could be a single step or comprise of many steps. It could be short term or long term. It could be an action with a temporary result or permanent result. It could be a one time step or require repetition. It can be you having to speak your mind to someone, buy that journal, making a payment due, moving that furniture, de-cluttering, reading a book, booking an appointment, make that sandwich or beverage, applying that cream, arrange for mediation, OR write that article or finish writing the book, watching a lecture or documentary, find that information, file your taxes, fill that form, make that call or go on a sugar free diet, enrol in the course or class you had decided, change a habit, apologise or forgive, affirming, meditate, go for the appointment you fixed. These are just some of the examples. It could be any action and many more action. Do not repent and waste your time trying to find out the why for the postponement. If you want to research on your life to know why because (a) it is your right and/or (b) not to repeat it in future. Then, do that but do this action parall’ey’ to the action step that needs to be taken.

Taking the action is the single most important and really really necessary next step.

So, don’t feel bad, don’t be upset. Just get started. Be willing to change. Change.

Take that step.

Thank You and Best Wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

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move on to FORGIVE

The best way to forgive is to move on and focus to enhance your life.
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IADLife Blog: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/12/06/move-on-to-forgive
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Dear Friend!

The best way to forgive is to bring your focus to your life enhancement. Life situation comes with blessings and learning. Solutions are there for every life situations that require healing. Involvement of external sources brings you to crossroads where their willingness is an equally important condition for the next step. Although this is so, what is also to be known is that active participation and physical presence of the external sources is desirable but is neither mandatory nor is it necessary. You cannot rely on other’s willingness because it is really theirs and it is up to them to decide. You need not postpone your healing which is for your forward movement into the next phase of your life. You don’t need to wait or delay any aspect of your life. Do not while away your time because of this. Do not over think by recalling the incident or going over the situation again and again. Do not spend time and energy on what could have been or what if’s. Refrain from asking any disempowering questions. Ask an empowering question every time the thought of past hurt surfaces. Be willing to move on. Pray, meditate, affirm and ask, ‘what is the life-enhancing aspect that I need to see from this situation’ and ‘what next.’

It is, in your next step that all your unanswered queries and learning from the unpleasant situation, EMERGE. Take these answers and learning as a guiding point for your life from hereon.

This is the way to forgive and to move on and enhance your life. Forgive yourself and any other external factor(s) you think are responsible or have been the causative factors.

Is forgiving easy? How to easily forgive? Well! it’s all about your loyalty. Your loyalty to your life and its growth.

Do you want to stay in the situation experiencing being jammed, stuck, trapped? Hope not.

Do you want to be able to let go what you cannot change, change what you can and have the willingness to know the difference? The key to knowing the difference is in the co-operation of the parties included. Your first co-operation is required from you yourself. When others show reluctance to solve and thus not support you in forgiveness you need to let go. There are two types of relationships.    Dispensable and indispensable. The ones that are indispensable are the only ones that need to focus and effort on the solution. The dispensable ones are easy to let go. It is when a relationship you are in, is indispensable for you but is proven to be dispensable by others, is when you need to let go.

The lack of co-operation from the other party can bring the responsibility of solving the situation completely on you. So you now, do the forgiveness (i) by writing an honest letter but not sending, (ii) by making elaborate clear plans on what can be done next, (iii) by making clear list of all the attributes of ‘you towards them’ and ‘them towards you’ that you like and dislike. Be willing to change the attributes you did not like into what you would have liked instead. Affirm to attract the attributes that you truly liked. Focus on these. Never compromise.

By this process, you are presenting your changed self for the next step.

Take care of yourself, entertain and enjoy your present. Continue doing your everyday activity. Let you recognise your deservability.

There is no surprise if you are curious and wish to ponder over the incidents that have happened. Do that, however never ever give up on your schedules connected with your skill building, health, fun, friends and work commitment. You could make some alterations but all in all, support yourself in attending, being regular and sincere with these.

These situations will pass and new situations will come in your space. It is these schedules that will that keep you in the habit to generate and expect great results.

For future events please learn that it is the piling up of the unresolved emotions that cause these situations where forgiveness is required. Do not allow the un-forgiveness to stack up. Solve any un-forgiveness on a daily or weekly basis.  Do not shove it under the rug. Cut the cords. Shield your heart, solar plexus and/or your root chakra. Peacefully protect yourself.

In time you will forgive and forget the situation(s), people or person. And this is the best gift you can give yourself. Because of this, you will attract better life situation(s), people or a person.

Thank You and Best Wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

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Why do you get blamed?

Why do you get blamed? – Wednesday Why?

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Dear Friend!

Healing journey has information, its interpretation, your perception, your individual understanding, your customised prescription for practice, and your observation of the results.

One of the major reasons for the slowing down of the healing process is miscommunication. The reasons for the wires getting crossed in communication is actually two. Both are equally important. (A) The first one is the compulsion to make the other person/party agree with your viewpoint, perception or understanding.

The compulsion to make someone else agree is out of anticipation of fear of rejection. This comes from the past experiences of not being able to convince and thus seeing yourself as a loser. As these experiences pile up your wish to push your idea, point or suggestion becomes more intense. Thus instead of convincing your points become argumentative.

(B) The second one is the pitch in which you convey your words. Pitch during the communication adds to the meaning. The pitch when high need not be insulting, pitch when low need not be respectful. The relevance of the pitch is what you make of it. If you have had past experiences that had voice pitch that was directly connected with agreement or disagreement, then you will place more emphasis on the pitch than the value of the words and emotional status in which these words are spoken.

Both are behaviors in/of low vibration. Both actions are either coming from blame or are intended to blame.

Blame is shifting responsibility to understand and the responsibility to support that understanding. This interestingly can be with self and/or could be with anyone other than self.

It is because of the lack of self-faith, that you have the capability to understand and that you can support your understanding is why you resort to blame. In communication you blame either as a habit or a strategy. Regardless of the reason for the relying on blame, the communication highlighted with blame is non-productive.

Every discussion has to be more about what you agree with and what makes sense to you rather than looking for caveats and shortcomings in other person/party’s information and understanding. Having the willingness to understand what is being conveyed to you either through your inner voice, feelings, intuition or external sources through person/people, Source, Universe or Angels, is a bonus.

If you want to know whether your way of talking is with blame then, notice this. As soon as a blame comes towards you, you sprint and you abandon all that connects you to the blame. If you are willing to change or if you don’t function using blame as means to address a situation, then you will either stay or re-visit the environment, incident, person, or people when a blame is hurled at you.

Why do you get the blame? Your willingness to change your life is the reason why you constantly keep reviewing your actions where ever you see the scope of enhancement. Interestingly, this plus you not trusting your divine or earthly support is what attracts the information in form of blame, accusation or hurt. When you want to change and you assume lack of support you assure yourself of the same. This makes change seem like a lot of work and therefore a difficult task. This type of change is the willingness to change in low vibration. Here your reactions are with anger and/or fear.

Your willingness to change itself is your golden ticket to bright and happy future. Be willing to move your vibration to a higher one during the process of change to attract information as praise, motivation, and healing.

Thank You and Best Wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

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u r a WINNER

No one can make you a winner. You can be a winner only when you decide to be one.
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Dear Friend!

You are a winner as soon as you decide to be one. So decide in favour of you being a winner.

Are you still snoozing, postponing, slowed down in the name of self-doubt, unpreparedness, lack of energy, support, direction or resources.

Step Up and Step Out. Only you can take that step that embarks your journey towards being a winner. Rest of them can be your support system, along the way. This support system, however, cannot be the sole entity responsible for you being a winner.

You cannot completely be laden on another and expect them to carry you all through to the place where you will be called a winner. This is your life and the experiences are specially designed and customised for you and you can live it or carry them out. Your learning(s), your change(s), your progress, your solutions are all only yours. Stay put, don’t run, don’t quit. Finish your learning and move on to the next phase. You are born winner. You being a winner is pre-installed. So every time you do what strays you from the path leading you to be a winner then, you get uncomfortable. You will notice, it will prick, and it will hurt. You will also have people and situations in your life that would be pointing or promoting you to be a winner, depending on the vibration you are in. People and situations may be exactly the same or may slightly differ but the implication on you will be like two ends of the spectrum. When you are self-critical and sad ruled by anger and fear then people even if they are from your inner core group and situations that are mild or neutral will seem demeaning, misbehaving, subduing and harsh. For the same behaviour or action in high vibration from the same person or set of people and situation, you will see motivation, promotion, active support when you are self-affirming, self-respecting and self-trusting.

For example, the difference of understanding the same comment, for the same incident, for example ‘when work is not done’. In low vibration you hear blame, ‘you did not do this’, ‘you never finish what you start’, ‘you cannot be trusted with a responsibility’. In high self-confident vibration, you take the comment as, ‘really looking at you to take charge’, ‘you have such high potential, so you are being entrusted with this responsibility’, ‘great results are awaited from you.’

So if there is an interaction or encounter that has happened and was not so great for you then, you could revisit, reassess the situation and reconsider the reaction that you are willing to accept. Change your vibration and thoughts about yourself to that of a higher vibration level ones. Now approach the same person or people. Request for the similar meeting. Please be mindful of the other’s involvement, because they have to be equally willing. However, you deserve to give yourself the chance to change even if others decide to stay with the same experience. You don’t make other’s willingness an excuse not to change. What you are changing here is your direction. This direction is towards knowing and proving that you are a winner. All your actions and attitudes keep you pepped up, lively and energetic. Everyone’s comment is an uplifting response.

What you know and say about you is all that is the ultimate truth. You are comfortable. You see progress and growth. You visibly see the results that are prosperous.

You have decided that and you are making it happen.

When you derail, so to speak there is no one to blame.

When you are on the right track then, there is gratitude to and for all involved.

It is this onus that is making you being a super-winner, fun.

Every experience is only guiding, leading, nudging, even pushing or pulling you towards being a winner. All you have to do is to give in with trust.

If the situation is PLEASANT you do more of what you have been doing.

If the situation is not pleasant then choose to move or tweak what you have been doing. But under no condition, situation or excuse do you stay in the situation.

A winner always has a life that is moving forward. Only a winner can generate other winners.

Affirmation: ‘I choose to be a winner, I am a super-winner, everyone in my space is a super-winner’.

Thank you, winners, for the life experiences and support.

Best wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

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Fear and Conviction

Fear is directly proportional to your convincing power
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IADLife Blog: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/12/03/fear-and-conviction
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Dear Friend!

Convincing is an art and a skill. Getting proficient at that requires regular, irregular, disciplined, undisciplined, organised, unorganised, guided, or self-enthused practice.  You spend time, effort and other resources to get good at it. Regardless of how you have become so good at convincing what is of importance is its application and implication.

Ironically some use convincing for marketing and they see it as a most important tool for marketing.

However, the fact is the actual strength of marketing is in the knowledge, trust in the product and the intention of recommending, advising or selling the product.

Another important information that will support in understanding the level, strength, and intensity of the conviction is the experience. The experience(s) that you have observed and/or gone through yourself. Then there are influencers that further add on to the inclination of your conviction. Thus you can now see how you live and lead your life and carry out the activities in your life is based on your power of convincing.

Your respect, love, and faith in the product would suffice. So, convince yourself of what is useful, fruitful, beneficial, fun and creative about the product and that is all you will need.

You are your own product. You are constantly marketing yourself. And if you are convinced that your conviction will get you the best deal then get smart and clever, and convince yourself of having the greatest and highest qualities and market that to manifest your greatest and highest good.

But have you been doing that really or have you been taking the shortcut called fear? No doubt convincing requires the investment of resources. When your faith in the reservoir of the resources is low it is then that you use fear as a convincing point. Fear gets work done faster. However, the quickie method is never beneficial to you. Its detrimental effect is something that you notice either immediately or in the long run, but you most certainly will. You may have used this because you have seen this used by or on others and you have seen it to have worked. Eventually, you stop putting effort to convince using the high vibrational ways to get your work done. You rather resort to using low vibration ways that is fear based points to get your way.

The most mind-blowing flabbergasting aspect of this method that you have adapted to get through your life is that you still have your internal programming of convincing in place because of all the practice. And now what you do is you use your convincing abilities to support the fear-based points. With each rejection from self or external sources, you focus on increasing the intensity of the convincing of the fear because you don’t want to be seen as a liar or unreliable. You assume your prestige is at stake. So you have to bring your own self and everyone else in agreement with the fear you have been using all along.

Working for fear or out of fear becomes a convenience.

You can choose to cut this off now, this very second by knowing and acknowledging your authority over convincing. So now re-route your convincing towards all that is non-fear. Fear or anything that is fearful is directly proportional to your conviction that comes from your ability to convince. So now use the same conviction and your ability to convince towards everything make you happy and comfortable. Be it thoughts, vibrations, words, actions, and experiences. The determination and work are initially big as most of the energy required, is in redirecting. But because of earlier proficiency in convincing, you will pick up really fast.

Only thing you have to be mindful of is that it is towards what is beautiful and wonderful experience for you. You will also now start using the same convincing ways and means for and to others.

 

 

Best wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

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