Monthly Archives: November 2019

Birthdate. Birthday.

Birthdate. Birthday.
https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2019/11/25/birthdate-birthday/

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Birthdate. Birthday.

A celebration is always associated with ‘an achievement or an accomplishment.’ It is a happy occasion.  Deciding, choosing, and the way it’s celebrated is a personal choice. The birthday for many is one such occasion to celebrate.

I have always been a celebrator. I enjoy celebrating. I enjoy celebrating my birthday. I am excited the whole birthday month, I start announcing to anyone and everyone I meet and I ask for their blessings and wishes. I glow the whole day.
A college friend recently told me that I use to always offer her beverages while coming back from college expect for the month of my birthday when I would ask her to get home soon so that she can decide on my gift o birthday present.
When I was a kid I had invited all the people in the building of residence (condo) where we stayed. My parents had no idea. When they found out later my mother was attending a marriage party elsewhere and there someone asked her, ‘there is a party at your place, isn’t it?’ My mother rushed back home and arranged for the food, took out a new pair of clothes for me and my sister from the trunk under the bed and made preparations for the party.
I enjoy celebrating others birthdays too, giving them surprises and seeing them happy has always been my mission. I would make a card or dish (food item) and excitedly wait for their response.
During my graduation days, one of the professors shared with us that he gets very sad on his birthday. So I convinced my fellow students and celebrated his birthday and bought a cake by pooling money. As a thank you, I received the biggest piece of cake, which I readily accepted. When one of my classmates wanted to share my portion of the cake, I gestured to lick it so that I don’t have to give her.

When I started to study the human life in IADLife to understand the what, when, how and why of life, I was curious to know why I like this day so much. Why do I celebrate? Why does anyone like to celebrate this day? Here is the answer to this.
Before coming on this planet there is a conference, meeting, discussion between spirit masters and you. You choose what you wish to learn through your experiences while you stay on the planet. Accordingly, the entities that would contribute to this learning of yours are selected. All this happens with your consent. This is the very first decision that you have ever made. Everything happened for you and with your permission. This is the first time you experienced self-faith and self-conviction. This is self-confidence. So if you are here that means you trusted yourself with this decision. You had value for the learning and so you agreed. You loved yourself enough to know that you will always stand by yourself. You respected yourself because you knew you would always attract the support system that would cater to bringing fruition to fulfilling of the learning. You knew you would forgive yourself for all the missteps. You were grateful to yourself for this unparalleled opportunity. You knew that regardless of what life situations you attract you are worth celebrating.
So if you are one such person who enjoys celebrating birthdays then you really believed in your decision. If in case you have lost the birthday fervor and excitement. There is a good reason to that too.
After arriving on the planet the experiences and interactions start to alter your own perception towards you and thus your connection to you. You love, respect, value, trust, forgive and express gratitude to yourself according to suggestions to you, about you from anyone else but you. It may be the same or much less. This earthly derivations now determines your deservability and self-worth.
The quality of celebrations is now directly proportional to that.
When the celebrations are not at par with your expectations then you may be disappointed. Translation, ‘you do not want to have such an arrangement. You want more, different or better.’ Lack of understanding of this situation may cause attachment to the known but an aversion to the same known. Then, you will attract situations like ill health, relationships falling apart, financial crunch or your non-availability. People you are interested in will not turn up, will make a brief appearance or will be late, you will be left alone or you will be forced to be with people with whom you not really interested in celebrating with. Celebratory things like food, clothing, and fun stuff will not be there for you or will be subpar. All this happens just so that for you don’t subject yourself to same or similar experiences endured previously. But please duly note in actual the quality of your celebrations have not gotten better.

So, how to have the celebration you want and you are worthy of? Acknowledge and appreciate what is presently arranged. Look for what makes you happy. Derive satisfaction from them. You may choose to scale it (0 to 10). 10 being the ultimate satisfaction.Take complete responsibility for your happiness on your birthday. Give yourself permission to chalk out a clear and elaborate plan for your own birthday. Keep the plan both specific and general. Include in your plan only that what is important to you in terms of people, interactions, food, ambiance, outing, and any other experiences you desire. Or you could set intention that you enjoy the day and it keeps you in high vibration. Make fun, happiness, and growth/prosperity compulsory. Then, whatever happens on your birthday know that you have attracted, so find enjoyment within that.
Under all conditions do not be sad or get upset with yourself. When you are upset or sad you are criticising yourself for all that you are and all that you have in your space. This is you being angry with yourself and in that situation you are abandoning yourself. You do not want to do that especially on this day, that is, your birthday that comes just one day in a year.

As you focus on what makes you happy on this day it will start raising the quality of your celebration. It is a you-centric day. If taking care of others makes you happy, choose that for you. But, be clear that it is what you really desire for you.

Happy Birthday. Have a good one. Because you are worth it. You deserve it.
It is indeed a Deserving Life.

Reena Yadav. IADLife.com
References are taken from Dr. Brian Weiss’s body of work.
Interpretations by Reena Yadav.

You don’t need to fight all the battles

You don’t need to fight all the battles.
https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2019/11/22/you-dont-need-to-fight-all-the-battles

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Of course, you are powerful but you don’t need to fight all the battles.
You have plans. You have a strategy for the best results. You care. You mean well. You want to do good. You want the credit too.
A mission, task, goal, and a job is always a conglomeration of responsibilities. Responsibilities could be direct involvement or indirect involvement. Recognise which are yours and do them only.
If you try to do someone else’s responsibility, you would be encroaching, interfering, causing confusion and wastage of resources.
You may not like everything or everyone that participate with you. You still do not need to be directly involved. In fact, that is precisely a good reason not to do everything yourself and be involved in everything directly. When there are inter personnel issues like animosity or ill feelings amongst people who are contributing to the same project, there is a possibility that there is more harm and delay rather than creative input.
Check with yourself, can you handle it, do you see growth, do you need to do it, do you feel safe? Then and only then get involved directly or even indirectly.
No one and nothing is questioning your passion, contribution, or potential. Set such worries aside and logically assess the resources required.
Delayer, divide, share, and delegate. Upon which do your bit, hands-on. For other responsibilities witness, consult, learn, monitor, mentor, guide, oversee or just share information.
When you do your part and allow others to do theirs then more gets done. You have time and space to do more in other areas. Your energy and effort can and will go to that and who is asking for it, really needs it, and where it will be most useful.

Reena Yadav. IADLife.com

I am so full. I am so grateful.

I am so full. I am so grateful.
https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2019/11/21/i-am-so-full-i-am-so-grateful

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I am so full. I am so grateful.
CaseStudy: ‘K’ had overeaten. Her tummy was full and she was feeling uneasy. She looked at all the food that was on the table and started to invisibly panic. Smiling at people but worrying about what to do with this. What about my diet? Who to share it with? Will they go to waste? Will they be missed after it has been given away? Being full is having more than enough. It can either cause resentment or it can cause acknowledgment and recognition of prosperity and abundance. There is always a thin sheet that demarcates that.
Some of you would know that abundance can be scary. It’s management. It’s availability. It’s persistence. It’s maintenance.
And it is unknown, no prior experience of it.
But the moment there is a dip in the abundance in anything, you get restless, nervous, fearful, and worried.
When you have a lot and you feel full your concerns are very different from when you feel less than full. Your concerns translate from your assessment of your ability to carry out the actions that you might need to take. At the feelings level,  however, it is the same.
Your lack of experience or know-how of managing abundance is the same as your lack of experience or know-how of managing paucity, at the feelings level. Both are low at the vibration level.
This is applicable in all areas in life – Health, Wealth and Love.
When you ask for abundance from your Universe, it checks your vibration level at which it was asked. If it had come from low vibration that is worried, sad, or scared then what you receive is lack and what persists is lack. And abundance does come to you it will come to you in a way that you will find it not-loving and/or not-easy to receive it and you will lose it.
Maybe the source of abundance is not to your liking.
Maybe the way you are being given is not pleasant.
Maybe there is a lot of tug of war from the allotment to actually receiving.
Maybe you are receiving bread crumbs, peace meal or much less than was agreed upon, expect or anticipate.
Maybe what you receive gets used easily and there is none left to enjoy.
And very soon you find yourself in the state of low vibration level asking. This can be changed.

The only thing you need to do is ask, affirm, pray or request at a higher vibration. But, how can you do that with the life situation where there is scarcity and no previous evidence, experience, training, or history of asking, receiving and enjoying abundance. How would you even pretend or act to be at a high level of vibration and then ask?
To change this, do this simple thing. Include the words, ‘thank’ and ‘you’, before any asking.
“Thank you for the abundance.”
Very soon, the words will start showing the miracle of it coming true. Eventually, this will make you happy as it is now doable and is yielding desirable results. This will raise your vibration. Voilà feelings aligned with receiving abundance at a high vibration.
Always keep asking. Universe has infinite ABUNDANCE.
Voila: exclamation. there it is; there you are.
Reena Yadav.IADLife.com

You did your best

 

You did your best.
https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2019/11/20/you-did-your-best
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You did your best. Do not worry whether you are doing right or wrong. Just give it/in your all. Know that you did your best.
The nagging disturbing voice that you hear saying otherwise from within is the self-doubt. Taking this as rejection you may start stacking resentment towards your this voice.
So what exactly is this voice? What is it saying? It is distinctly a word. It is like someone is quietly telling you a stern ‘no.’ It is your logical conscious self that operates based on the statistical evidence(s) about you.
You are listening and believing it to be true. That’s how convincing it is. Because look at the timing of the information/word and the statistics of it coming true. Many times you almost wait for it, just when you are about to finish saying or asking for something.
When you don’t hear that ‘no’ you are relieved.
It is not your intuition.
To disintegrate, dilute, lessen and make it disappear say ‘I did my best, and I know it.’
Case study: ‘G’ was working from home that day. ‘G’ had finished with his morning routine and had two hours to spare before the office hours. Instead of doing the pending coding work, he decided to lie down for a bit and he fell asleep. He woke up just close to the office time.
Now he has two choices either to he could beat himself up and accuse himself of being a lazy procrastinator and waste rest of the next of the few hours feeling low. Or to get up boost himself up by telling himself that what he did was his best, get promptly to work and utilise the rest of the day productively.
He did not know that his body needed rest but his body was clear that rest was a requirement. If he did not sleep there was a possibility that he could either get lethargic in the day, his work would be affected, he would pump himself with mood boosters to stay awake and ultimately fall sick.
Given the parameters of your life at that point in time, you are always doing your best. Your only opportunity is to seize the next moment. The moment before is now your ‘past.’ Any action about the moment before has to help your present. If not, do not do that action.
Building yourself up by anyone else (thoughts, other people) or by your own self out loud supports in greater productivity and creativity.
This attitude will feed the conscious self and eventually your subconscious self that you deserve to be treated with morale-boosting/raising/elevating words. This will change the ‘word’ into something that makes you feel supported. ‘True’, ‘I agree’, ‘Right on’, ‘Correct’, ‘OK.’
You don’t need to spend your time justifying it to yourself. But in case you think it will help to explain to yourself do it in a respecting manner. It has to contribute to your productivity and creativity.

Reena Yadav. IADLife.

 

Honking is good?

Honking is good?

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Honking is good?
https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2019/11/19/honking-is-good

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I was driving on a very busy road in the middle of one afternoon. I had decided to get back home sooner for some xyz reasons. The traffic was moving really slow. I was the right-side lane. When I am in traffic I either read affirmations, do tapping or change channels to hear music on the car radio.
After I got a channel with music I liked at that time, I started looking at other vehicles. In the same line, in the extreme left lane was a man who was dozing at the wheel. I saw his vehicle was slowly moving towards the two-wheelers right in front.

I honked. I saw him wake up. He applied brakes immediately. He looked in front, the traffic wasn’t moving. He put both his hands on the steering wheel. In the next few seconds, I saw his eyes started to close and head started to droop down. I honked again and this time for longer and more number of times. I gestured with my hand to the traffic around that all is well.

This time he woke up for good and it was a green signal and traffic started moving.

People do attention-seeking action in front of you. It could be irritating, frustrating, or hurtful. Of course, that is because it is inexplicably and at some level pushing your buttons to sensitive issues from your life. It is nagging/bother. Mainly because it brings to your attention of the situations that need your attention and your resolution. It is always in your favour. But, the person and the way it has been bought to you is mind-bogglingly bothersome. This brings up resistance, which keeps you from the noticing the message there.

You could choose to go past this and either take it as advice and take action. Else,  review what is in your own space and stand by it stronger. It is a choice.

I have always said that if something seems life-threatening and makes you feel insecure, run. You don’t need to wait to understand the message there.

Remember this, they are not always right. The message is not always exactly what is being said or done.  For example, if someone tells you, ‘maybe your path is not right.’ That could also mean that you need to take look at all that you are doing, let go self-doubt, hold enough gratitude for what you are doing, reaccess your confidence, and buckle up and continue. The message could be to ‘be clear and confident about your path.’

Reena Yadav. IADLife.

 

Intermittent happiness

Intermittent happiness

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https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2019/11/18/intermittent-happiness

You will notice that you affirm, say or ask to be happy all throughout.
But consciously and sub-consciously you choose not to be happy all the time.
You think being alert is being strict. Being strict is not being happy. So being alert is not a happy state.
Let’s see some examples (A) I once saw four teenagers crossing the road and they were jolly, very engrossed in having fun chat that was quite evident from their body language. Just as they started to cross the road, they held each other’s hands and continued their smiles, laughs, and chit-chat. It seemed that they were completely oblivious to the red signal turning green. The vehicles started to move forward and then had to apply breaks suddenly to let them go because they did not seem to be stopping. Some drivers showed their hand gestures as they moved as a show of anger reprimanding them. As soon as the jaywalking friends realised that they were in the middle of the road they held each other’s hand tighter and increased their pace. They were not smiling or laughing or even chit-chatting any more.
(B) ‘H’ went shopping and was in a happy mood as everything was going right since morning. ‘H’ smiled at himself, purchases were of good quality and had wonderful interactions. ‘H’ came back home and saw the list of ‘to-do’ list on the table. Mood dropped. ‘H’ checked the list and noticed that he had forgotten some jobs from the list. ‘H’ was not happy anymore.
(C) ‘R’ was on a video conference call with her international colleagues and it was going great. She was being praised and she was happy with her job well done. Towards the tail end of the conference while the follow-up action points were being discussed and she was feeling elated that her viewpoints were being asked. She heard a tone from her phone. She was pinged by her boyfriend. She was distracted as this was the message she had been waiting for since a long time. She lost her chain of thoughts and was not able to contribute to the discussion. Fearing that she had given the wrong impression she was not happy anymore.

So why did this happen? When you are happy why do you forget to be responsible or get distracted, disremember on doing certain jobs or perform to your maximum potential?

This is because of being out of practice of being happy and fear of missing out.

So when you are happy, ecstatic, elated or overjoyed, you give most of your attention and energy to it and the rest of your life gets a second priority.  The moment you realise that there is a loss, mistake, hurt or cost to you being ‘happy’, you decide to take the learning as, ‘happiness and responsibilities don’t go hand in hand.’ This promotes in postponement of happiness. Meaning ‘be happy later.’
Happiness as an experience, gives a lot of pleasure. Happiness as a habit, is far more rewarding. The habit comes from regular practice. Then it does get sprung on you as something needs a lot of attention and you will not suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out.)
Start looking for the good in everything. Even when you miss out, make a mistake or others make a mistake, look for what good has come out of this for you especially and specifically.
Daily regular practice of this will start to make you feel calmer, smiling will become easy, multi-tasking between enjoying and taking care of the job at hand will become easy and seamless, the energy level is good, dealing with life situations that are tough will be doable, recognizing blessings will be prompt.
Happiness will be full time.

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Reena Yadav. IADLife.com

The Success Mantra

The Success Mantra

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https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2019/11/15/the-success-mantra

The Success Mantra.
Step1: Define success for you.
It is always in two parts. (a) What is the requirement to get it? (b)What is the end product that you get that assures you that it has happened?
1 a. For some, it is hard work. Some it could be serving and feeling useful. For some, it is excellence and quality. For some, it is a strategy. For some, it is network, marketing, and mentorship. For some, it is their belief in the higher power, God, religious processes, fasting and donating.
1 b. For some it is money. Some it is safety/security. For some, it is the level of energy, vitality, and longevity. While for others creating great relationships.
Step2: Ask yourself, is this your definition or your care taker’s and influencer’s definition. If it agrees with you keep that else HEAL that.
When you were growing up if you were told that you need to be seen working/busy or doing something all the time even without proper guidance or plan, whilst showing you that the results you were getting were a form of failure then, you will grow up thinking that your success mantra is hard work or even looking/being busy. But the results will never satisfy you. Here you will have to work on being and feeling enough before you can decide on your own definition of success.

Similarly, if your influencers made you delegate and oversee jobs/tasks rather than letting you have hands-on experience to get the work done then and if you are curious about process and reinventing the wheel in innovative ways, you will never have good support system or you will drive them away as you will keep micro-managing, you will be critical of others contribution while being possessive and sensitive of your creative work. You will need to create a balance. Decide what you want to do to explore your creative self and when and what to delegate. You will have to learn to trust them and agree to co-create and be a team player before defining your definition of success mantra.
Step3: Re-define success as per your healed self. Hard work and/or Right effort and having confidence in your efforts. Managing and/or getting managed.
Step 4: Revisit steps 1 through 4. Keep repeating this till you can read through the definition with ease and can smile and breathe easy.
This is the energy that is required to fuel the manifestation of your success.

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Reena Yadav. IADLife.com

Celebrating Children

Children.
Children are true physical evidence of what life is all about.
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Children.
Children are true physical evidence of what life is all about.

#1. Great managers. They only go to whom they can get it done by.

#2. Copy cats. They do what they see more than just what they are told.

#3. Grateful. They express gratitude for what they like.

#4. Clear. They have clarity on what they want.

#5. Understand and sense energy.

#6. Always willing to grow and so are fast learners. This is evident from their constant showering of questions.

#7. Easy to please. Happiness is their state of being.

#8. They love everything about themselves. Even their poop.

#9. Limitless. Anything that limits them, dis-pleases them. They make it evident by crying and screaming.

These are also the characteristics of your Inner child and your Universe.

If you have wondered about not feeling good from within and delay in manifestations of your desires, even though you are practicing saying positive affirmations. Check your energy level, your clarity about what you want. Ask yourself, is happiness your state of being or are you constantly cribbing and/or are subservient about your needs.

These are exactly what you are showing to your inner self and your Universe. You don’t love yourself. You are not worthy.  You are in no hurry, let others be taken care of first. You have yet to prepare or not satisfied with your preparation and so you don’t see yourself as ready.

To communicate with your inner self and to your Universe use your child-like characteristics.
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Reena Yadav. IADLife.com