You will notice that you affirm, say or ask to be happy all throughout.
But consciously and sub-consciously you choose not to be happy all the time.
You think being alert is being strict. Being strict is not being happy. So being alert is not a happy state.
Let’s see some examples (A) I once saw four teenagers crossing the road and they were jolly, very engrossed in having fun chat that was quite evident from their body language. Just as they started to cross the road, they held each other’s hands and continued their smiles, laughs, and chit-chat. It seemed that they were completely oblivious to the red signal turning green. The vehicles started to move forward and then had to apply breaks suddenly to let them go because they did not seem to be stopping. Some drivers showed their hand gestures as they moved as a show of anger reprimanding them. As soon as the jaywalking friends realised that they were in the middle of the road they held each other’s hand tighter and increased their pace. They were not smiling or laughing or even chit-chatting any more.
(B) ‘H’ went shopping and was in a happy mood as everything was going right since morning. ‘H’ smiled at himself, purchases were of good quality and had wonderful interactions. ‘H’ came back home and saw the list of ‘to-do’ list on the table. Mood dropped. ‘H’ checked the list and noticed that he had forgotten some jobs from the list. ‘H’ was not happy anymore.
(C) ‘R’ was on a video conference call with her international colleagues and it was going great. She was being praised and she was happy with her job well done. Towards the tail end of the conference while the follow-up action points were being discussed and she was feeling elated that her viewpoints were being asked. She heard a tone from her phone. She was pinged by her boyfriend. She was distracted as this was the message she had been waiting for since a long time. She lost her chain of thoughts and was not able to contribute to the discussion. Fearing that she had given the wrong impression she was not happy anymore.
So why did this happen? When you are happy why do you forget to be responsible or get distracted, disremember on doing certain jobs or perform to your maximum potential?
This is because of being out of practice of being happy and fear of missing out.
So when you are happy, ecstatic, elated or overjoyed, you give most of your attention and energy to it and the rest of your life gets a second priority. The moment you realise that there is a loss, mistake, hurt or cost to you being ‘happy’, you decide to take the learning as, ‘happiness and responsibilities don’t go hand in hand.’ This promotes in postponement of happiness. Meaning ‘be happy later.’
Happiness as an experience, gives a lot of pleasure. Happiness as a habit, is far more rewarding. The habit comes from regular practice. Then it does get sprung on you as something needs a lot of attention and you will not suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out.)
Start looking for the good in everything. Even when you miss out, make a mistake or others make a mistake, look for what good has come out of this for you especially and specifically.
Daily regular practice of this will start to make you feel calmer, smiling will become easy, multi-tasking between enjoying and taking care of the job at hand will become easy and seamless, the energy level is good, dealing with life situations that are tough will be doable, recognizing blessings will be prompt.
Happiness will be full time.
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Reena Yadav. IADLife.com