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Intermittent happiness

Intermittent happiness

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You will notice that you affirm, say or ask to be happy all throughout.
But consciously and sub-consciously you choose not to be happy all the time.
You think being alert is being strict. Being strict is not being happy. So being alert is not a happy state.
Let’s see some examples (A) I once saw four teenagers crossing the road and they were jolly, very engrossed in having fun chat that was quite evident from their body language. Just as they started to cross the road, they held each other’s hands and continued their smiles, laughs, and chit-chat. It seemed that they were completely oblivious to the red signal turning green. The vehicles started to move forward and then had to apply breaks suddenly to let them go because they did not seem to be stopping. Some drivers showed their hand gestures as they moved as a show of anger reprimanding them. As soon as the jaywalking friends realised that they were in the middle of the road they held each other’s hand tighter and increased their pace. They were not smiling or laughing or even chit-chatting any more.
(B) ‘H’ went shopping and was in a happy mood as everything was going right since morning. ‘H’ smiled at himself, purchases were of good quality and had wonderful interactions. ‘H’ came back home and saw the list of ‘to-do’ list on the table. Mood dropped. ‘H’ checked the list and noticed that he had forgotten some jobs from the list. ‘H’ was not happy anymore.
(C) ‘R’ was on a video conference call with her international colleagues and it was going great. She was being praised and she was happy with her job well done. Towards the tail end of the conference while the follow-up action points were being discussed and she was feeling elated that her viewpoints were being asked. She heard a tone from her phone. She was pinged by her boyfriend. She was distracted as this was the message she had been waiting for since a long time. She lost her chain of thoughts and was not able to contribute to the discussion. Fearing that she had given the wrong impression she was not happy anymore.

So why did this happen? When you are happy why do you forget to be responsible or get distracted, disremember on doing certain jobs or perform to your maximum potential?

This is because of being out of practice of being happy and fear of missing out.

So when you are happy, ecstatic, elated or overjoyed, you give most of your attention and energy to it and the rest of your life gets a second priority.  The moment you realise that there is a loss, mistake, hurt or cost to you being ‘happy’, you decide to take the learning as, ‘happiness and responsibilities don’t go hand in hand.’ This promotes in postponement of happiness. Meaning ‘be happy later.’
Happiness as an experience, gives a lot of pleasure. Happiness as a habit, is far more rewarding. The habit comes from regular practice. Then it does get sprung on you as something needs a lot of attention and you will not suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out.)
Start looking for the good in everything. Even when you miss out, make a mistake or others make a mistake, look for what good has come out of this for you especially and specifically.
Daily regular practice of this will start to make you feel calmer, smiling will become easy, multi-tasking between enjoying and taking care of the job at hand will become easy and seamless, the energy level is good, dealing with life situations that are tough will be doable, recognizing blessings will be prompt.
Happiness will be full time.

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The Success Mantra

The Success Mantra

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The Success Mantra.
Step1: Define success for you.
It is always in two parts. (a) What is the requirement to get it? (b)What is the end product that you get that assures you that it has happened?
1 a. For some, it is hard work. Some it could be serving and feeling useful. For some, it is excellence and quality. For some, it is a strategy. For some, it is network, marketing, and mentorship. For some, it is their belief in the higher power, God, religious processes, fasting and donating.
1 b. For some it is money. Some it is safety/security. For some, it is the level of energy, vitality, and longevity. While for others creating great relationships.
Step2: Ask yourself, is this your definition or your care taker’s and influencer’s definition. If it agrees with you keep that else HEAL that.
When you were growing up if you were told that you need to be seen working/busy or doing something all the time even without proper guidance or plan, whilst showing you that the results you were getting were a form of failure then, you will grow up thinking that your success mantra is hard work or even looking/being busy. But the results will never satisfy you. Here you will have to work on being and feeling enough before you can decide on your own definition of success.

Similarly, if your influencers made you delegate and oversee jobs/tasks rather than letting you have hands-on experience to get the work done then and if you are curious about process and reinventing the wheel in innovative ways, you will never have good support system or you will drive them away as you will keep micro-managing, you will be critical of others contribution while being possessive and sensitive of your creative work. You will need to create a balance. Decide what you want to do to explore your creative self and when and what to delegate. You will have to learn to trust them and agree to co-create and be a team player before defining your definition of success mantra.
Step3: Re-define success as per your healed self. Hard work and/or Right effort and having confidence in your efforts. Managing and/or getting managed.
Step 4: Revisit steps 1 through 4. Keep repeating this till you can read through the definition with ease and can smile and breathe easy.
This is the energy that is required to fuel the manifestation of your success.

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Celebrating Children

Children.
Children are true physical evidence of what life is all about.
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Children.
Children are true physical evidence of what life is all about.

#1. Great managers. They only go to whom they can get it done by.

#2. Copy cats. They do what they see more than just what they are told.

#3. Grateful. They express gratitude for what they like.

#4. Clear. They have clarity on what they want.

#5. Understand and sense energy.

#6. Always willing to grow and so are fast learners. This is evident from their constant showering of questions.

#7. Easy to please. Happiness is their state of being.

#8. They love everything about themselves. Even their poop.

#9. Limitless. Anything that limits them, dis-pleases them. They make it evident by crying and screaming.

These are also the characteristics of your Inner child and your Universe.

If you have wondered about not feeling good from within and delay in manifestations of your desires, even though you are practicing saying positive affirmations. Check your energy level, your clarity about what you want. Ask yourself, is happiness your state of being or are you constantly cribbing and/or are subservient about your needs.

These are exactly what you are showing to your inner self and your Universe. You don’t love yourself. You are not worthy.  You are in no hurry, let others be taken care of first. You have yet to prepare or not satisfied with your preparation and so you don’t see yourself as ready.

To communicate with your inner self and to your Universe use your child-like characteristics.
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InnerChild #life #charateristics #communication #manifestation

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Reena Yadav. IADLife.com

Journey till now

 

My Journey till now.

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# By this year 2019, I am now writing what I understand and know about this field which I have coined as, ‘Human Science.’ My job description includes authoring books from IADLife sayings and research data (specifically mine), entrepreneurial and administrative responsibilities, life coaching, training, and energy healing. https://iadlife.com/founder-page/

# We at IADLife have introduced most of the IADLife services distantly or online. This is to increase the network and for a larger reach all over the planet. https://iadlife.com/services/

# I work and lead IADLife with full gusto. I started this venture in the year 2013. At that time my only focus was to read and study about life full time. It’s A DESERVING Life, was started to support me to pay my bills, and of course, I was as I am still, convinced that it is hugely beneficial to all who are willing to take the services. https://iadlife.com/

# At Genotypic, Bangalore I was fortunate that I was to be able to work on all aspects and process of Next Generation Sequencing (NGS), as coordinator of the long term projects. I was there for approximately 10 months and the growth I saw in me was multi-fold. I give all the credit and am pleasantly grateful to the founders of the company, a couple of people I was reporting to and to all the people who were responsible for me getting the job.

# My previous experiences include me working at AstraZeneca R&D India, (2002-2012) on drug discovery on Tuberculosis caused by Mycobacterium tuberculosis H37Rv. At AZ I was working on drug discovery projects and have made an in-depth bioinformatics-genomics contribution towards target prioritization, selection, qualification, and evaluation.

My gratitude towards AZ is endless. I was supported, sheltered, trained, and funded as I went through the toughest time of my life. Here I was also globally exposed to the nuances of interactions, which now I know has trained me to be a very comfortable conversationalist. This attribute of mine comes to great use while I carry out my work at IADLife.

Note from me: My introduction to human science was a few years ago and it had immediately resounded with me. I have studied this science for many years now and I can confidently and irrevocably call myself an expert in this field.
This field has revealed that the human body is an amazing healing machine, and it just needs to be reminded that it has that quality and ability to self-heal. Changing ones thought pattern can change and thus heal health, enhance aspirations, manifest desires and explain life. Tools that support such an astounding process are many. All that I have learned I apply and make it available to all through IADLife services.

We at IADLife aim and intend to bring joy to billions of people all over the planet through many ideas that I have. For that, I need your support, participation, and contribution through collaboration. I would love to discuss my ideas with you. A brief description of all that for which we are looking for collaboration is in https://iadlife.com/collaboration/

This is my journey till now. I pray that I move forward to fulfill the intentions of IADLife and mine as I move forward. Full speed ahead. God’s speed.

2018 The Year That Was.

2018: The Year That Was.
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It was a year of self-healing and learning. There were new programs launched at IADLife and we had a new set of clientele from diverse backgrounds. The highlight of that was ‘the gratitude’, vision board making, de-cluttering, workshop for corporates – online workshops.
I spoke about the #meToo movement (link: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2018/10/12/metooforpeople). I have always been of opinion that everyone deserves healing and that healing can expedite when ‘all’ come together. ‘Hurt people hurt people’, so in this sensitive environment of pain and blame, channelizing of healing becomes selective. This will only bring healing to some, while the other people instead of receiving/taking healing may find another means to hurt by not getting caught. And because of that, the hurt might continue. Bullies and abusers of all age groups and genders need to be attended too to understand and heal the underlying causative reason for the hurt. (link: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/01/03/choose-someone-your-size).
My understanding of the guidance from a higher source is getting clearer. I am in a place to take actions and argue less on them, ‘but….I thought/I want…’ has reduced. I move forward with faith and excitement.
Being responsible for my actions and the life experiences I have attracted were yet another courageous realisation that gives me a new power to solve and come to the ‘why’s’ of the life.
All this is making me a better and better life coach and also gives me the space to explore the creative geniuses within me.
What other growth and prosperity did I see? I am less nervous about my future and my life status. I tell myself that it counts. But the desires are very clear to me. I continue to ask for guidance on how to manifest them. This gives me the motivation to get up in the morning, keep going, moving forward, complete the pending ideas and have the courage to embrace bigger and better opportunities and set an intention of receiving bigger and better returns.
It is great to stay in touch, so keep writing to me at iadlife.welfare@gmail.com. Let’s keep creating something fun for all of us.
Thank you and wish you a very happy and fun 2019.
What do you say when someone wishes you?
Just say ‘Thank you for the affirmation.’
Reena Yadav.

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METOOforpeople

#metoo movement for both men and women.

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Dear Friend

#metoo is being discussed in many forums. My request is all who wish to discuss any situation happening in their lives, please contact me. Take professional help and heal.

If you have any general views please share here.

These are my views.

Abuse of any kind is limiting. Workplace or home. It is limiting and it kills creativity.

What is amazing is that in the #metoo movement focus is on women. Victim, survivors or thrivers. They are getting the support or the blame. What about men. Kevin Spacey was charged for molesting a man/boy/male.

My understanding is two-fold.

One, people do because they can. If they get away with it once, they will do it again. If for any reason they were not stopped they try again with the same person or with someone with a similar demeanor.

Second, every abuser has been abused, has an abuser in their life or has witnessed someone close being abused. It is not an excuse. But, it helps in finding out the cause. Men are abused too. Branden Frazer was groped. He felt so humiliated, that sent him to a self-exile from movies for a long time.

But we know about them because these men spoke up, came forward.

If we all can collectively talk about humans or people instead of only women, then the root cause can be addressed.

#metooforpeople #metooformenandwomen

Talking about abuse can take time because of the mental programming. Guilt, fear, anger, blame – all towards self.

I am grateful that some speak up because others who still can’t are looking at them for the possible solutions. I believe these are strong people too. They give me a sense of security and live, thrive and function creatively.

The next abuser in the making will think twice.

The bystanders are the secondary victims. They go through the trauma without going through the actual abuse. But, they react as if they are there. So in not supporting or forcing someone else to keep quiet, is what they are doing to themselves. Because that’s how helpless they see their situation as.
They need to know that collectively they can find solutions. Shoving under the rug has never achieved any benefits.

Can’t support, can’t help, can’t contribute optimistically then, their silence and getting out of the way us much appreciated.

I promote men and women to come forward and take their case to the relevant groups and find solutions.

Judging or being judgemental towards the authenticity of their situation is an individual choice. It is very true, is at a case by case basis.

I support men and women who speak out, some write and I also support the some who want to remain clandestine. Only request is all that seek professional help and heal. Move forward and prosper. It is only then that we are all in a better position to support ourselves and others.

Thank you for reading, Reena Yadav, IADLife

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​Reena Yadav

Life Coach, Author, Researcher, and Proprietrix- IADLife

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prosperity converts

Prosperity converts jealousy into admiration and inspiration.

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Dear Friend

Prosperity converts jealousy into admiration and inspiration. Case study: ‘C’ had a puppy love with her college sweetheart. Both had the same circle of friends. When ‘C’ and her boyfriend started to getting involved, two of their friends teased her and told secrets about her boyfriend in a way that seemed like it was deliberately meant to demotivate her from the relationship and dissuading her to take the relationship forward. Each teasing was accompanied with an undertone of, ‘buts.’ Her boyfriend, on the other hand, was getting information about ‘C’ that she had low confidence, she isn’t that great in her subject, and she gets into fights with boys. There were comments at her personal level too like, her parents were quite conservative and she had not told he parents yet. It was hurtful to ‘C’. However, when ‘C’ and her boyfriend met she was particularly mindful of talking only about hopeful things about the future and the relationship. As they all graduated everyone moved into different directions in the area of study, career and different parts of the world. When the social networking sites came into the picture, some of her friends decided to connect. ‘C’ responded in acceptance. ‘C’ had two sons, and was working in a corporate and was married to her same college boyfriend. On knowing this, the same friends who were unsupportive started speaking about her in a new tune. Her friends wrote on the group message how they were inspired by her. How she created a life she always desired. One friend messaged, ‘you made it.’ Her fight with boys now became her ability to speak her mind, her grades that were low was now being seen as irrelevant and that she always knew that her excellence would reflect in productivity and progress at her job. What seemed to be her low confidence was interpreted as her certainty in direction and therefore she did not need to be vociferous about it. She was being admired for the respect she had for her parents. According to one the naysayer friend, ‘that was the reason she wanted to share about her boyfriend with her parents only if she was very sure about her relationship with him.’ It was ‘C’s’ prosperity in life that had changed everyone’s viewpoint. It had created an expansion in the mindset to see with evidence what is possible. Such plausibility removes the resistance which had surfaced as a mark of unachievability, and which had been causing the jealousy and thus was responsible for the spurting of the disaffirmations.    This applies to your attitude towards your life too. When there is profit, benefit or gain from the very life experiences you have been self-criticising, self-blaming and getting stressed or upset about, with yourself and/or others, you will now be able to see it in a new light. Feelings of hate or hurt towards it will now convert into something light and pleasurable. All this is the magic of prosperity. You become more allowing towards yourself. The experiences that once seemed as your blockage now become the path or a stepping stone for desire manifestation. So when there is trouble, still keep going. Don’t let it be a reason or an excuse to stop. In retrospect, you will be able to see the essence of the trouble and will go down in memory lane as another life experience.

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​Reena Yadav

Life Coach, Author, Researcher, and Proprietrix- IADLife

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