nervousness of PREPAREDNESS

Desperation is INTUITION plus nervousness of PREPAREDNESS
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Desperation is INTUITION plus nervousness of PREPAREDNESS

The universe is constantly conversing with us. From early morning after you wake up to the time you go to sleep, you live several lives. They are so many and so varied that sometimes, you may need to put an effort to recall many of the events or these lives before you go into your dreamland.

You are not meant to do all these on your own. Do you think you are getting enough help? Are you able to take enough help? To know this, notice how you feel when you are taking a stock of the day’s efforts and events. Do you have a sense of relief that it is over or are you proud and grateful? Is the thought of visiting or revisiting that responsibility fun and exciting or is it overwhelming? This is the key to you recognising, receiving and accepting the help that is existing, offered, and accessible.

Whatever you need is always made available to you.

Also, you are capable of doing what you are supposed to do that is your part of/in the task.

Your biggest support and help is the guidance.

Guidance is the answer to your ‘what’ question. The answer could be in words out loud, in whispers, or written. It is a yes or no and/or in signs, in symbols, physical sensations, an inkling or knowing.

The internal guidance is the intuition. It is the combination of inner knowing from your life experiences, information from higher self and/or the higher energy that is the Source, the Universe, the Angels.

Guidance points you in a direction where the requested and required resources are there.

In a state where you are not familiar, not able to see, recognise, or sense this guidance, you see yourself as unsupported. When there is no support from your understanding you take it that you have to do it all on your own. And thus even the tiniest or the easiest of the additional jobs, responsibility, task or request can sometimes seem over the top. You are not ready to take up the responsibilities, and you wish to prepare some more to build your self-confidence to efficiently carry out what comes your way.

Let’s understand this by putting it together. You ask for help. You get guidance through intuition. You don’t think you are properly equipped. You’re worried you will not do a good job. Your worry is reflected as restlessness. This state is desperation.

Desperation is when you feel nervous because of lack of readiness when you get information or guidance through intuition. The nervousness in very simple words, is actually fear of failure.

In desperation, your questions are with doubt and uncertainty.

You could be aware of this or you stray with the feelings. In this restlessness, you either decide to take an action or you are so convinced about the unpreparedness that you completely decline.

When is it that you are most prepared? What is your yardstick for preparedness? Does your time allotted and effort you put in, give you the contentment that is required for you to know that you are PREPARED?

While growing up if you were given parameters that were suggested to be considered or made compulsory that needed to be tick marked and anything that is missed out or not covered would be categorised unsatisfactory then, you will strive to tick mark those checkboxes regardless of how unreasonable or unnecessary they are. You will be satisfied and see yourself ready only and only when you meet those measure of preparedness.

The guidance or the next-step instructions comes to you only when you are prepared. So if you have the guidance, you are ready and prepared.

Make note of the thought or the intuition of the next step, without feeling the obligation to succeed as per anyone else’s definition. Then, you will never feel the desperation. Following the guidance will be walk in the park, so to speak.

Try it. Pick up your favorite pen and paper and make note of your thought. Take that step.

Whatever is the result? You need to know you are doing good. You are doing enough.

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Stress and frustration

Stress and frustration are always on what has not happened and all that would possibly never happen.Stress and frustration.jpg
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Stress and frustration are always on what has not happened and all that would possibly never happen. So the million dollar question would be, ‘why bother coming out of it.’ Then, just ask yourself, ‘how do you feel when you are frustrated?’ ‘Is this a good and pleasant feeling?’ It clearly is not. In spite of that, some still stay with/in the same emotions, mood, vibration because of the misconception that the solution lies there. But the fact is, in stress and frustrated mindset you will only conceive further low vibration ways of finding solutions. You will attract all the others who have had similar situations and you will be further poured with unsolicited un-resolving suggestions which are basically, complains. And these are not solutions. There is another reason because of which some stay with these emotions of stress and frustration. It is their way to stay connected with what they care about whether it is  what they want to change or what they desire.

Case Study: ‘F’ got down from her new SUV with a smile on her face after coming back from shopping. She had been envisioning doing all the fun things with her new vehicle. She still had the new ribbon attached on the bonnet. Just before locking using the new keyless feature, she went around the vehicle admiring and feeling great about the look of it. As soon as she reached the left-side front she noticed a long scratch on the white outer body. She was irritated. She could not recall when the SUV could have met with this minor accident while she was driving. She then remembered that she had parked her vehicle in the common public parking lot. The only possibility was that another car parked there must have been parked close to her vehicle and might have brushed and scratched it.

Her husband who had by then come down to help her with her bags, noticed her standing and frowning at the scratch. The moment she saw her husband, and even before he could ask her, she pointed to the area of the car that was hurt. She said that she was feeling sad because of the helplessness of what had happened to the car. As her husband asked, ‘what shall be done now?’ ‘F’ suddenly realised that the cascade of emotions that passed through her mind and imagination at a lightning speed was in anticipation of what could be. This is what had started to cause the stress in a short span while she was staring at her vehicle’s scratch.

It is not possible to worry about what has already occurred. You can only look for learning in it. Stress occurs on repeated confirmation of what is not in your favour. Even memory of the previous stress gets added if it has not been addressed.

‘F’ discussed with her husband, ‘we can inform the parking lot attendant,’ ‘and peacefully protect it in future trips.’ Her husband suggested to her to also to give a quick inspection of the vehicle before leaving the parking lot.

You can plan for the future and take action when you are in the present. Rest is all hypothetical fearful, anticipatory or even prophylactic thoughts or discussion.

Instead, if you could just recognise and acknowledge the stress. Review the past for its do’s and don’ts. List all that can be done differently or even something new. Forgive yourself for all that you think you have done or not done. Forgive all that were involved for all they have possibly done or not done. Look for blessings in this situation. Take action if you are in any such situation in the present.

Now along with informing the parking lot attendant ‘F’, would be mindful of checking her vehicle before she leaves the place so that she can address the matter right then. ‘F’ was grateful that she had a place to park her vehicle because she had noticed that other vehicles parked outside were towed.
So understand the situation and to stay calm be in the present as much as possible. If your mind strays towards stress and cause tension, lovingly bring your mind back to present. Because you take information from past and present, but it is only in the present where the solution resides.

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foundations of my education

There are only three important FOUNDATIONS required for education,(1)Comprehensive reading and writing, (2)Listening, and  (3)Speaking.

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Dear Friend!
When you have resources for education then education becomes a choice. During the schooling ironically I didn’t see it being a choice. I did not choose education. I chose approval from my dad. I was, therefore, attending school, appearing for exams, even later for further studies I chose science to gain and to see where his approval stood. In school, I use to get a lot of red lines on my report card. It was the screaming proof of what my dad’s expressions and words were saying to me. Me not good in studies. The interaction with the school teachers ref the same thing. Fact is I did talking, playing, observing, and a little bit of sports on my own but in studies I needed monitoring. Even as a little girl I could see that I was not getting the respect or recognition.  I had no introduction to self-love or self-approval. But I somehow held on to the understanding that education is my only ticket to dignity. Even if I did decide to stick to education to please my dad, I am just glad I never gave up. I do not very vividly remember my education, subjects, content of the subject, teacher’s names, friends names, nor the year of passing of the class of my school days. What I do remember is people interaction. I remember behaviour and expressions of mine and others. I remember experiences of mine and others.

This so beautifully indicates that I was always meant to do what I do professionally today. Interpreting, understanding, teaching and writing about life, based on human interactions and experiences.

Although I was from a non-English speaking family, I was very keen to learn and speak fluent English.  As I got older and got freedom and access to television, I had started watching a lot of television. I use to watch programs of all languages. Most of my learning came from there. I was clearly an audio-visual person.

For graduation and post-graduation I studied microbiology and pathology. Every day before the lectures started, the microbiology teachers in college quizzed us on previously taught course matter. I use to study because I liked answering questions. I developed a taste for the subject and became a rank student and I even came 1st in the University. By the time I was in a life after the accident which had resulted in an amputation of my right upper limb, I was too attached and was not able to let go science. I looked for ways to integrate all the previous education so I took admission in Bioinformatics, a course that amalgamates information technology and biological science. I did not do well there. I just managed to get a diploma for the Master’s course I took admission.

What did I learn during my education? (a) I did not agree with the education system. (b) I was clear that the real answers in life were in interaction, behaviour, and experiences. (c) Words have power, only my words have power over my life. (d) Focus needed to be shifted from difficult situations to life-enhancing learning. (e) When relationships and life experiences are not pleasant, that is the time I am not supposed to quit. (f) When you are learning, the mode of education has to be what is compatible with you. (g) Practice anything you want with guidance and you will get better at it.

I was very good at sketching as far as I remember. Due to the accident, I had to switch to being a left-handed person. My handwriting and hand orientation needed guidance and practice. I looked for and contemplated taking help from handwriting institutes but never reached there to take help. I also wanted to sketch and paint, mainly because I wished to express some of my thinking and visions through this art.  Six months ago I joined a drawing class and the teacher taught me from how to draw lines and circles. I already see wonderful changes in my flow of my writing, comfort in hand orientation and legibility in my handwriting.

Today in the present, I very sincerely understand that there are only three important foundations required for education. First one is comprehensive reading and writing. The second one is listening. And the third one is speaking. The emphasis has to be on these rather than the subjects. The subjects get learned on their own once these foundations are strengthened.

I am grateful to my parents especially my dad for sponsoring and for the support I received for all my education.

I have mixed feelings regarding my education. As the traditional education did not align my way of learning, I did not score big. The report cards were not a big fan of my happy go lucky nature. The affects of the report card categorizing of me as a student, in turn affected my friendships with my classmates and the impression the teacher’s had about me.

I am truly glad I continued my studies, as they paved way for my job and life experiences.
I feel blessed to know that I was not bad in studies. I did not study. And there is a difference.

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you the support system

Be the support system you are asking, looking or hoping for.
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Dear Friend!
Be the support system you are asking, looking or hoping for.

Define Support! Anything or something in addition to the actual. They are important and sometimes mandatory to the standing and/or even for moving forward. They are necessary.

Support comes in the form of words, gestures, vibrations, energy or material things. SOMEONE as support could be human or animal. SOMETHING as support could be small or gigantic. A support could be the Source, Universe, the Life, the wonderful Angels. A support could be could be your own self.

Support comes in varied forms. Support comes from varied fronts. You need support in varied combinations. These mesh together and become a support system customised, specific, and one that is suitable only for you.

Support is help. Your impression of help reflects what is your connection with the support.

What is your attitude towards help? Are you too proud to see yourself as someone who can need help? Is it beneath you to take help? Do you frown when you are unable to take care of your stuff? Or Are you excited, comfortable, happy and/or feel honoured and blessed to get, form or attract a support for you and your needs?

When you consciously see the requirement of support, where is your focus -on quality, quantity or both? How clear are you about the support? What is your understanding of this support? Are you particular about sincerity, kindness or are you ok to adjust and compromise with crude, rude version of support? Do you demand your highest worth or do you cave and accept the bare minimum?

That is what will reflect in the way you accept or receive support. Keep your attention on the love, respect, trust, value, and gratitude you have for the support. If there is anger, resentment, fear, frustration, towards the support, forgive and let go ASAP. Enjoy and have fun with the support. For, this is the kind of reciprocation you will receive from the support.

Always be open and receptive to the support.

Just in case if you have had some not so pleasant experiences with the support, do not get dissuaded. Review your understanding and attitude towards the support and be ready for new and loving support. The presence and existence of support in your space show that you are creatively active.

The support you need will always be available. Your ability to recognise, pick, choose, filter and accept them is up to you. Regardless of what support you have had in your space, you have the ability and opportunity to have it as status quo or to ask for it to have it in an enhanced or different manner.

You are a support and part of a support system too. You will always in some way be able to contribute to be a support. You will always have something to contribute to be a support. You can decide what kind and how much of support you wish to provide to the other or other(s). You could take this to be your practice ground for deciding, defining and expressing the support you want for a purpose or situation in your life.

Once you gain that crystal clear information on the support and still if you are wondering where to find that ideal support. Then, look no further. Surprise! Surprise! It is in you. You are and can be the support you have been searching for. You can be that support for your own self. You can if you wish to be that support for others too.

Let a support motivate you to ask for more support.

Your dignity, safety, and security will always be of the prime importance.

Let the insult, humiliation, and rejections of all the not so optimum support, be the bad apples that you are chucking out. Find out what learning have they been carrying. Be willing to be that change. It could be efficiency, generosity, voicing, assistance, interaction, organizing. Understand and implement the change required to see the change in the support.

Be happy being a support and having a support.

Your presence and existence itself is the support for the planet.

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affirm with gratitude

For fast manifestation don’t just ask. Affirm with gratitude. affirm with gratitude

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Dear Friend!
For fast manifestation don’t just ask. Affirm with gratitude.

To affirm is to say. In fact just about anything you say becomes your affirmation. What you say comes true for you. So choose words cleverly and clearly. Say only that what you truly want.

To have clarity on what you wish, want or desire you need to explore the world and expand your mind. You need to allow your deservability to rise higher than your highest thoughts and imagination. Many times you would have noticed that (a) you receive what you desired and some moments later it leaves your space, (b) that what you have received is not fulfilling your desire.

These happen when your deservability is based on limited thinking about your own self.

Your mind is your creative playground. It is your creative workshop. Here you have the freedom to be or have anything and everything. These could be your desires but, something stops you from using this enormous capability to your best advantage. This stopping agent that has such a big influence is from someone else’s thinking that you have adapted as your own and/or from your observations of life. It could be your own or that of others. This mysterious stopping agent is your thinking based on limitations.

Just for a change if you choose to surpass what you have been doing before. Decide on a desire based on your limitless thinking then, what do you face internally and what comes your way externally? You face resistance in words and your affirmations are completely or slightly off course. You manage to manifest that what reaches your expectation much before the desired finish line. People, events, and experiences externally suggest that you sell your dream short, pause or even stop.

How about just to try a variety, let your imagination run wild and fly high. What would be your concern? *Would it be safe and secure? *How will it affect me? *Will it give me the happiness that I am truly aiming for?

Well! You are in luck, my friend. If that is what you want then add it to your affirmations. *I am happy. *I am healthy. *I am safe.

Voila.

When you affirm, the concept of affirmation is exactly like placing an order from a visible and not visible place or source. For example, placing an order in a restaurant in person or online. You are certain of receiving many numbers of times. You could sometimes receive something higher than anticipated. So when you affirm you are therefore certain that it’s coming true. When you know of its certainty then you express thanks to from where you are receiving. This also indicates the trust you have in them.

An affirmation said with certainty and gratitude reflects clarity. This results in little or no interference in the manifesting process. Desires manifest in a smooth, seamless and loving manner. Therefore, to ask better and manifest faster, you would not just ask but affirm with gratitude.

There are however two important factors that are driving these affirmations. The vibrations and the feelings. These are generated based on what you actually understand about those words. If the understanding is different from what you want it to be then, only way to tip the scale in your favour is by increasing the reiterations of saying the affirmations with concentration.

“Thank you so much that I am able to receive vibrant new beginnings.”

“Thank you that I am enjoying my great health.”

“I am very grateful that I am receiving beautiful and healthy changes in my personal life.”

“I am truly thankful that all that I do gets me good returns.”

These are some of the examples. For creating your affirmation you can be general or specific. Also, remember to be in present tense and to add gratitude.

Thank you for affirming for you deserving life.

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Satisfactory Introduction

A satisfactory introduction is that which contains information on answers that fill in the blanks about your life.

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Dear Friend!

What am I most comfortable being addressed as? Is being me enough? What is my introduction?

How do I introduce myself? What do I call myself? What is my identity? Who am I?

Is it in my name or gender? Is it in how I am related to my parents or siblings? Is it in my qualification? Is it in my achievements, personal or professional? Is it known from my profession or position of my job past or present? Is it in my description of my characteristics as attributed by others? Or is it in the outer appearance as noticed by others?

What introduction of mine would suffice?

I am, Reena Yadav, a women/female, daughter, sister, sis-in-law, aunt. Would it be enough to say that I am post-graduate in Microbiology, first rank holder, researcher, was the associate research scientist in fortune 500 pharmaceutical company, am an entrepreneur, a life coach or would more data be required. Of course, these are all true and these are all me.

How much of an introduction is enough? What kind of introduction would be satisfactory?

Introduction varies according to the forum in which the introduction is being done. For the person being introduced, an apt introduction is what is relevant for the audience of that occasion. For a person hearing, however, the satisfactory introduction is what quenches their curiosity. What is being looked for in the introduction is the answer to question that the listener has for his/her own life.

Just as sharing of introductions vary, introductions get added or they change. They could be happy, proud additions, or not so happy changes. Sharing of/about these changes is an individual’s option and it has to be done with their consent.

One such change that got added in my introduction was from the road-traffic accident nearly 20 years ago that resulted in right mid-arm amputation. Since then, amputee, handicapped, disabled, does not have one arm, got added in my introduction. And every time it was mentioned it was done without my permission.

My brother was visiting and I decided to take his help in choosing a car. As soon as we entered the car show-room, I excitedly started looking at the cars. I was happy with the presence of my brother by my side as that was a great support. An attendant moved towards us and offered his help. My brother turned and bent towards him and with no expressions said, ‘this is my big sister and she does not have her right arm.’ I would know of his reason to introduce me this way only if he had discussed with me first. Only thing I remember was that I had lost my enthusiasm but I was around as I had nowhere else to go.

It is hurtful getting trapped into a situation with an introduction that you are not prepared to hear about yourself. To react or to ignore is your choice. When it is sprung suddenly there is no preparedness to make the choice.

After I founded IADLife I gradually had the willingness to meet any person for networking purposes. In one such meeting as soon as I shook hands with my left hand the man I was meeting got fixated in knowing more about me as an amputee. There was a minimal discussion about IADLife. To every person he introduced me he said ‘she is handicapped.’ There was no productive discussion regarding IADLife networking in that meeting. The only action of mine I remember is smiling and in my thoughts I had, never to meet this person again.

Your introduction needs to be based on (a) Why are you being introduced? (b) What is the necessity of being introduced? (c) What are you most comfortable being introduced as?

In parallel, it is a good idea to address the part of the introduction that is painful. On close attention, it will get clear that the feelings attached to that description or part of the introduction, is that what you have been trying to avoid. It is actually this emotion that becomes your introduction. This will be so till you choose to heal it.

For me when my brother introduced my handicap I was yet to accept my change in my life. For me, the pain, hurt, uncertainty, rejections, delays, lack of clarity of what and why of my life, was the meaning of that introduction.

Some introductions are too obvious, based on outer appearances. This depends on the other person’s willingness to notice.

An interesting point is just because I am not looking at myself and because of the phantom’s limb sensation, I don’t remember having the amputation most of the time. It is in my reflection, remembrance/reminding of the past experiences, expressions on people’s faces or their gestures, or direct addressing with a related question, that brings me to the reality that I do have an arm missing.

A senior colleague had just moved in from the US. During the introductory one on one meeting at my workstation, he started his conversation as ‘I see that you have only one hand.’ Believe you me, it was like a jolt. My mind that was preparing what to say and what to know from this scientist was suddenly interrupted my physical reality was brought into my realisation.

For the longest time, I did not know the reason for the frustration whenever I was introduced or addressed like this. Now I understand. I needed to accept myself first. I realised that when I am anything but proud of any part of my introduction, it is me who is abandoning a part of me. I needed to stand by myself and understand what is it that I am not proud of and why.

Along with this, I believe in every forum there has to be the right information about self or a person that needs to be mention. An unrelated introduction is a distraction.

With the increase in my self-acceptance, the importance of the contents of my introduction has started to hold little value. It is because of the comfort level that I have with that part of my introduction.

To be continued ….Next Chapter on my life next week.

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Why do people go silent on you

Why do people go silent on you? -Wednesday Why?Why do people go silent on you

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When the hurt occurs, you shut down. You get into a shell. The formation of this behavior was due to your past repetitive experiences. One where you were not allowed to speak, defend or react with gestures when addressed, accused, and/or scolded. And the other where your actions that were judged as mistakes were reciprocated with snubbing, cutting off, ignoring, cold-shouldering, rebuffing. All in all incommunicado and outcaste. So what registers is you not being able to stand up for yourself or what wish to convey, because of lack of practice. This reflects as your characteristic both when and where you had to make a point when questioned and/or when you see yourself being wronged. When you are in the eye of the storm you don’t battle it, instead, you rather wait it out. After the incident, you self-practice either reliving the situation hypothetically trying out various permutation combinations of your stance. You also secretly promise yourself that when this incident happens again you will say this/that or show gestures this way/that way. You thus end up attracting a similar situation again or a persistent hurtful situation resurfaces. Another thing that is similar is your inability to respond as per your deciding. Many of such experiences result in subconscious programming of this/these reaction(s). You react with silent treatment or with unexpected outbursts when you are offended or where there is an offense according to you. You receive silent treatment in situations, events or incidents where you are in desperate need of communication.

A behavior of low decibel insulting comment(s) in midst of a conversation or argument is also part of silent treatment syndrome.

Just because you have done this with others, the Universe is not trying to get back at you nor is it Karma trying to form a balance. It is the remnant of the pattern that you are attracting because you wish to change that behavior in your space and heal. It is also Universe’s way to bring to your attention that your communication needs to get better in articulation, politeness, and transparency.

Healing is not just about realisation. That, in fact, is the first step. A big achievement. However, healing is complete with this next step that is finding a solution and implementing it.

So how to stop these silent treatments. Lack of communication is neither healthy for you nor is it so for the other person.

(i) Do not keep any hidden agendas. Do not postpone solving the matter. Be clear with yourself. When you wish to express, constructively express. This will leave no space for doubt. (ii) Get better in your communication. The best person to improve or enhance your communication is with yourself. You can stand in front of your mirror and talk to yourself. Give yourself the respect. Greet when you meet and say goodbye when the conversation is done. Address what seems incomplete. Take more than one sittings but be willing to complete. You will know when it is complete when the issue does not bother you anymore. (iii) Let go the need to address a situation with another person when there is lack of respect, safety or in a dispensable relationship. Taking the learning from them is best suited here. Keep your energy not to quit only for the indispensable relationships. Here you take the initiative. Be open to receiving the other person/people when approached regardless of the relationship category. (iv) When you imagine and visualize, let it be the best communication. Ask for an interaction beyond that.  (v) Genuinely wish well for all.

Believe you me, my dear friend this will require practice.

Combine your practice with self and if you comfortable with others, with tapping or EFT.

You following actions can help in implementing the solutions further.

(a) A guided meditation to let go your guilt, your inability to speak up or to speak right and the fear of rejection.

(b) Affirm, ‘all my conversation and communications are with love, joy, and grace.’ ‘I enjoy conversing and communicating.’ ‘I communicate and converse with ease.’ ‘It is a pleasure being approached. I feel safe and divinely protected at all times.’

 

You deserve to be communicated and to communicate.

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