fact perspective opinion

Perspectives are many and are at individual level. FACT is one and common to all. The expression of your understanding using the fact you have accepted is a PERSPECTIVE. Perspective without acceptance or knowledge of the fact is an OPINION. You have a choice to agree or agree to disagree.
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Two sisters of the same family. They still may not have a similar upbringing. They were possibly exposed to similar experiences, similar behavior or treatment if not exactly the same. What they chose to see and imbibe was based on their individual life experiences which is a combination of observation, understanding and a reaction or response to that.

Even when two people go to a restaurant and order the same dish from the menu, cooked by the same chef in the same sitting. They may like or dislike it. Even if both like it, there is a great possibility they will like it for their own reasons.

The two sisters had a salaried dad earning by working on weekdays for someone else and a homemaker as a mom who did all the household chores, she took care of all the arrangements but was not taking any direct responsibilities. The actual responsibility was of the dad.

One sister determined an understanding that the household to-do lists is the female of the house’s resident profile. While the other sister was clear that it can be delegated to a manager and she need not be directly involved but was clear that it needs to be done right and to her satisfaction.

Now, on what basis did they develop and decide their respective viewpoints that they were so convinced to follow. The first sister did well in studies, was a rank holder and won awards in extra-curricular activities like essay writing. The second one never passed all the subjects and only time she got a gift on the sports day when she paid for it. Neither were given training by their mom for kitchen work or knitting. Their mom had told them in clear words that she wanted them to study. Truth is the mom’s mom did not teach her and so she was a self-learned cook. The first one took up cooking every time their parents stepped out for social reasons. All the siblings at home ate the food she cooked even if it was no were close to their mom’s cooking. But other than that she took no other responsibility of the house and would get angry when the responsibility of teaching the siblings was thrust on her by the father. The second one was willing to do all the other household work including cleaning the toilets, running errands and all that she thought she could do. She did not cook unless it came upon to arrange food for herself. Of the two sisters, one had formed an understanding, that was directing her to all that her mom did. The other sister was doing all that her dad did. Both did not completely follow mom or dad. How could they, they were different individuals than their mom and dad. Both decided to form their rules basing on what they saw. Each molded their own perspective. Neither had access or knowledge of the fact.

Perspectives are many and at the individual level.
Fact is one and common for all.
In an event when the knowledge of the fact is missing, perspectives arise.
You have a choice to agree or agree to disagree.

For the sisters what could be the fact here? It could be their survival individually in a way that is better than what they were living, by doing what they were best at doing. Every time the roles were reversed they were miserable, made mistakes and they struggled.

Finding and accepting the fact, now that is another ball-game. It completely depends on what is your extent of research and knowledge and belief and trust. What you make out of all this is YOUR fact. In truth, the fact is common to all and they are usually very simple. The expression of your understanding using the fact you have accepted is a perspective. But, the people on the planet are too varied and therefore the willingness to accept a fact as fact also varies. The variation that there is, is of opinion, not the fact. Perspective without acceptance or knowledge of the fact is an opinion. Opinions are important as that shows that your mind, your brain, your vocal system is functioning. You could be grateful for that.

With knowledge of the fact, you develop and express your perspective. With sharing and using of perspective comes responsibility. With opinion, there is no such thing.

So if you are keen to know the fact then, the only way to get to it is by having the resources of time, money, willingness and energy to put in to know it. Which again will extend to your investment of your resources.
Be willing to change and grow with knowledge. Then,  the acceptance of change in your knowledge of the fact is key to easy, smooth and fast growth.

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Q & A alignment

Universe aligns the right people. Ones who have a question always find or attract the ones who have the answer and vice versa.
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Universe aligns the right people. Ones who have a question always find or attract the ones who have the answer and vice versa.

Have you ever noted that the questions that consecutively or suddenly arise in you due to your life experiences or observations echo in someone’s space that you judiciously decide or happen to meet? It could be the person in direct conversation with you or you hear from somewhere, it could be another person or an audio/visual.

Case Study: ‘M’ was at a farmer’s market. She sat down to buy and eat from one of the stalls and she got into a conversation with the lady seated next to her, ‘C’.  ‘M’ was telling ‘C’ in between the bites about her sneezing problems. ‘C’ said she had read about it and asked her if she has pigeons in her area. ‘M’ shook her head in affirmative. ‘C’ said that ‘M’ will need to call bird control as the particles from the bird’s droppings when inhaled cause respiratory problems. ‘C’ also shared that she had information about the people ‘M’ will need to call. She also suggested to ‘M’ to wear surgical masks till she could get the situation under control. She had read all the information from the same article.

Case Study: ’G’ after having lost her father came back to work on the 5th day as she needed the money for the new bills that had suddenly come up due to the funeral arrangements. ‘G’ was working as a waitress in a café that served brunch too. She was sad, she took breaks, found a quiet corner, sob, collected herself and get back to her duties. The manager was a kind man and he let her do the job as she could. He asked another colleague of hers to keep an eye on her and support her with the customers. ‘G’ was doing the job properly and so customers did not seem to notice any difference in service. Then something caught everyone’s attention. Everyone in the restaurant distinctly remembers that incident. A couple came in at around 12.30pm. They were new customers. The lady really stood out. She was in a bright yellow long dress with a slit on the left side and low back. Her hair was long and white. ‘G’ was standing closest to them and she just came back after one of her sobbing breaks and saw them unattended so ‘G’ went to attend to them. The lady was looking at the menu and she suddenly looked at ‘G’, her eyes welled up. She stood up and gently placed her hands on ‘G’s. ‘G’ was holding a paper and pen and was about to write their order. ‘G’ did not know what to make of this. The lady said, “he does not want to see you cry, he says doesn’t worry all will be taken care of, he has made arrangements.” ‘G’ with a frown on her face asked, “who?” The lady replied, “your pops honey.” ‘G’ used to call her father pops. The lady was a medium psychic and was in the area for a meeting. She and her husband decided to visit this nearby café for a late breakfast. She was requested by ‘G’s dear recently departed father to give the message when she visited the cafe. And she did.

So next time you hear someone jabbering away to you or near you, do not turn a deaf ear. There could be a message for you or you could have some information for them. Also, do not hesitate to share in case you remember or realise that you have some information relevant to the other person/people. Messages or answers sometimes come as a dream and sometimes as intuition. Messages or answers could come from something similar that has or is happening in your space or you get info from someone you know.

If you have not seen this before or much then that is because people hesitate. They are not sure. They are formal. They are not friendly. They just don’t care. You or the other person gets the message or answer because you are the right person for the job. You need to know that Universe is also making this alignment for the contribution that each one involved has to make maybe for a short span or in long term. The contribution is right away or it could be significant for future. Even the behaviors and interactions constitute as messages or answers. If the person is being harsh, then deal with the situation as best as you can but, remember to review to understand your learning there. If the messages or answers come in a loving manner then do not get swayed. In either way do not avoid, dismiss, ignore or dilute them. Listen to them and decipher them.

We are all connected by energy network. One that is a willing contributor gets this opportunity to share by receiving or giving messages or answers. The messages or answers do not transfer sometimes because the willingness changes into unwillingness mainly because of fear of rejection. You may decide not to give the information or you may refuse to accept the answer. It is most certainly a choice. Your safety is prime. If you feel safe maybe you could find a way to give or receive the message or answer and then see the interesting chain of events that this message or answer may be responsible for.

 

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why do people revisit

Why do people come back in your space? – Wednesday Why?

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In this journey called life, some will walk with you. Some change paths. Some rejoin or revisit your path. But why do they revisit? The one or ones that you have been praying for and wishing for when they come back in your space it is your desire manifestation. It gives a new level of confidence and approval knowing that you are at the vibrational alignment with your desires and that the whole Universe has been working on your behalf to bring it true. O what a joy.

Now, what do you understand of the person/people you have left or have left on their own. You let go of them and have gotten comfortable with their leaving, their existence has little or no significance as per your understanding. And they suddenly pop back in your life. These are the ones whose coming back does not bring a smile on your face but gives a non-reactive expression which is symbolic of many more questions that you now have for the Universe. Most urgent of them is, why this person?

What do you make out of that? What message are they bringing to you? Are these second chances to resolve the unresolved or are they bearer of good news?

Case Study: One evening ‘W’ was walking in a very crowded lane of an arts and crafts exhibition that was recommended by her art teacher. As she was finding her way from one stall to another she noticed a man in a wheelchair pushed by another man coming her way. She hoped to the side and the wheel just missed her right feet. Just then she heard her name being called out from the direction in which she was walking. As a couple of people parted to give way for her to see who was calling out her name. It was her neighbour from the place where she used to reside nearly a decade ago. The moment her neighbor came close to her the neighbor started to talk her. “You look good, how is your mother.” ‘W’ was finding a reaction and when she could not get any she muttered back, “thank you, you…you look good too.” After that, for next few minutes, it was her neighbor who was continuously talking. She spoke about her life, asking questions and answering herself based on ‘W’s expressions. After the neighbor left the scene, ‘W’ started walking forward, still trying to understand the why of this chance meeting. A crowd where half of the city seemed to be present ‘W’ met her. There were people whom ‘W’ would have wanted to meet but she met her. While coming back home she tried to understand the reason for her meeting this person by recalling the conversations and her own feelings. ‘W’ noted that even though the questions were regarding her personal life she was calm and she was confident about her life, even though she did not get a chance to say much. ‘W’ had been having these re-entrances for some time. Earlier that day ‘W’ received a call from the web designer who had originally developed the company website but was not in touch for about a year. He suggested the new website look and also sent the new trial link he had made for the new webpage. Two days before this, she had a family friend from yesteryears call her. ‘W’ remembered having endearment towards this person. She had a pleasant short conversation with her. The highlight of the conversation was where this person insisted that she will help ‘W’ remember her yesteryears.

What were these revisits telling her?

‘W’ was writing a book on her life experiences and her intention that she set was that it reaches billions of people all over the planet. People were coming to help her remember her own past that she needed as data for her writing and the new website proposal was to showcase this at the international level.

There are two important aspects to people revisiting. The first aspect is that both parties, that is you and the other person/people have to be willing. The willingness plays a very important part. The second aspect is that the person/people re-visiting have to be at the vibrational alignment with your vibrations at that point.

The person might not stay long, but their guest appearance is enough to trigger the chain of thoughts that could bring to light the learning of an unresolved issue from the past and/or the message for the future.

So let people who go, let them leave and receive people who revisit. Do both with love and respect.

Do this with the confidence that the right entities will always be in your space so you will never have to wait or wonder.

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support judiciously

When you are contributing to someone’s life, stand by them unconditionally, but do not support them blindly.
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When you are contributing to someone’s life. Stand by them unconditionally, but do not support blindly.

Doing anything blindly is not trust or faith. Your actions are considered blindly when you ignore, suppress, dismiss or even deny your better judgments based on feelings, vibrations, energy and information through thoughts, visions, signs, symbols, incidents, and experiences.

Case Study: ‘D’ dad of a ten-year-old boy was in a heated argument with a pensive looking ‘S’ who was the dad of a six-year-old girl. ‘D’ was vehemently blaming the little girl. ‘S’ was relatively talking in lower decibel defending his daughter. Earlier that day, what this six-year-old girl had complained to her mother, sent her into a nervous frenzy. The little girl had told her mother that this ten-year-old boy had asked her to come to a corner behind the cars parked in the building and lift her skirt. Angrily the mother dialed the father and told him what she had heard from their little girl. ‘S’ came back home early. He discussed with his wife and they decided it is best that they confront the family of the boy. Both families resided in the same building, so they had to get over the possible awkwardness that could be the aftermath of this discussion. ‘S’ called ‘D’ and briefly mentioned to him about the situation. ‘D’ was not very reactive over the phone but both decided to meet over the terrace and discuss this matter. The moment ‘D’ met ‘S’, surpassing the greetings he began his conversation defiling the little girl’s credibility. ‘D’ told ‘S’ that his daughter was making up stories, she is a kid so she misunderstood, and that her understanding has yet to develop. ‘S’ maintained that he trusted his daughter. He said, he agrees she is small in age and that is exactly the reason why he knows that she has narrated exactly what she was told and had experienced. ‘S’ even suggested that ‘D’ talk to his son. The intensity with which ‘D’ was attacking the little girl’s information was a clear indication to ‘S’ that this discussion conversation had left its hope for a constructive solution for both the kids and families. Till his last sentence that ‘S’ could say in midst of ‘D’s vociferous outburst, ‘S’ maintained that there has to be truth in what his daughter was saying.

Throughout the conversation ‘D’ did not defend his son. His focus was on offending the other child. What ‘D’ saw as support for his child would not contribute to his son’s life growth or enhancement. ‘S’ on the other hand knowing very well that those were the kid’s versions that they were basing these allegations on, he still stood by his daughter and supported her by deciding to get to the bottom of the whole situation by involving the boy’s family too.

The ten-year-old boy would never know (a) what he needed to change, (b) what he could do differently in future, (c) how to address his curiosity correctly and that, (d) it is quite alright to admit a mistake when he could state the reason for/behind the action. And this was the right support he required.

But, he did not get the support he actually needed. The boy must have by then known he was wrong. What he learned was that he cannot expose or express his mistake and he cannot have him being wrong to reach his father. He learned to shove his mistakes under the wraps and not to own or face it. His learning from his father was to be loud, aggressive and hasty when a matter needs to be finished off where ever rejection is involved. The support the boy got from his father will not help him grow as a person.

When you give support in a right way you receive support too. It is a mutual and two way.

In giving support to his son, ‘D’ could have had the golden opportunity to, (i) establish faith in his son of his support for him no matter what the situation was, (b) he would have known his son’s phase of life, (c) he could have known his son’s curiosities, (d) he could have given direction his ten-year-old boy needed to be guided, (e) established respect for fellow people.

When you get to contribute to lives of a friend, a person close to you, your near and dear ones, or someone you trust, do not blindly rush into providing support. Do stand by the person but support judiciously. Judge, evaluate, assess the situation for which you need to extend your support. Interfere or intervene as per your understanding whenever and wherever the security of self, the person whom you are there for and/or others is in jeopardy. Loyalty is important and you standing by is the evidence of that. Supporting them thoughtlessly is reckless and careless. You might put yourself and others in danger. Even after that, there is no guarantee that you will rescue the person or save your association. Mindless support does not contribute to growth. You might have to take a chance and tell your association like what it is. That requires courage. Customise your information that you wish to share. You standing by without supportive action could suffice. Or you clearly saying that you would like to discuss with your friend/person before you give your opinion or do an action could help both you and your association.

Approach the situation where you let go past impression of the person you are supporting. Also, let go any past obligations that you have to fulfill. When you see or sense that the person needs you then, please be there for the person. But take a minute, understand the situation and support your person accordingly. Sometimes you might have to reprimand, cajole, console, convince, or ask to calm down to show/extend your support to your person.

That is the real support. A support that results in instigating or aggravating a situation is not so in its true definition.

All the above principle applies to you supporting your own self too. Stand by yourself. Do not senselessly support because that seems like a version of self-love or unconditional love. In truth, the true and rightful support is the true and rightful self-love.

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nervousness of PREPAREDNESS

Desperation is INTUITION plus nervousness of PREPAREDNESS
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Desperation is INTUITION plus nervousness of PREPAREDNESS

The universe is constantly conversing with us. From early morning after you wake up to the time you go to sleep, you live several lives. They are so many and so varied that sometimes, you may need to put an effort to recall many of the events or these lives before you go into your dreamland.

You are not meant to do all these on your own. Do you think you are getting enough help? Are you able to take enough help? To know this, notice how you feel when you are taking a stock of the day’s efforts and events. Do you have a sense of relief that it is over or are you proud and grateful? Is the thought of visiting or revisiting that responsibility fun and exciting or is it overwhelming? This is the key to you recognising, receiving and accepting the help that is existing, offered, and accessible.

Whatever you need is always made available to you.

Also, you are capable of doing what you are supposed to do that is your part of/in the task.

Your biggest support and help is the guidance.

Guidance is the answer to your ‘what’ question. The answer could be in words out loud, in whispers, or written. It is a yes or no and/or in signs, in symbols, physical sensations, an inkling or knowing.

The internal guidance is the intuition. It is the combination of inner knowing from your life experiences, information from higher self and/or the higher energy that is the Source, the Universe, the Angels.

Guidance points you in a direction where the requested and required resources are there.

In a state where you are not familiar, not able to see, recognise, or sense this guidance, you see yourself as unsupported. When there is no support from your understanding you take it that you have to do it all on your own. And thus even the tiniest or the easiest of the additional jobs, responsibility, task or request can sometimes seem over the top. You are not ready to take up the responsibilities, and you wish to prepare some more to build your self-confidence to efficiently carry out what comes your way.

Let’s understand this by putting it together. You ask for help. You get guidance through intuition. You don’t think you are properly equipped. You’re worried you will not do a good job. Your worry is reflected as restlessness. This state is desperation.

Desperation is when you feel nervous because of lack of readiness when you get information or guidance through intuition. The nervousness in very simple words, is actually fear of failure.

In desperation, your questions are with doubt and uncertainty.

You could be aware of this or you stray with the feelings. In this restlessness, you either decide to take an action or you are so convinced about the unpreparedness that you completely decline.

When is it that you are most prepared? What is your yardstick for preparedness? Does your time allotted and effort you put in, give you the contentment that is required for you to know that you are PREPARED?

While growing up if you were given parameters that were suggested to be considered or made compulsory that needed to be tick marked and anything that is missed out or not covered would be categorised unsatisfactory then, you will strive to tick mark those checkboxes regardless of how unreasonable or unnecessary they are. You will be satisfied and see yourself ready only and only when you meet those measure of preparedness.

The guidance or the next-step instructions comes to you only when you are prepared. So if you have the guidance, you are ready and prepared.

Make note of the thought or the intuition of the next step, without feeling the obligation to succeed as per anyone else’s definition. Then, you will never feel the desperation. Following the guidance will be walk in the park, so to speak.

Try it. Pick up your favorite pen and paper and make note of your thought. Take that step.

Whatever is the result? You need to know you are doing good. You are doing enough.

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Stress and frustration

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Stress and frustration are always on what has not happened and all that would possibly never happen. So the million dollar question would be, ‘why bother coming out of it.’ Then, just ask yourself, ‘how do you feel when you are frustrated?’ ‘Is this a good and pleasant feeling?’ It clearly is not. In spite of that, some still stay with/in the same emotions, mood, vibration because of the misconception that the solution lies there. But the fact is, in stress and frustrated mindset you will only conceive further low vibration ways of finding solutions. You will attract all the others who have had similar situations and you will be further poured with unsolicited un-resolving suggestions which are basically, complains. And these are not solutions. There is another reason because of which some stay with these emotions of stress and frustration. It is their way to stay connected with what they care about whether it is  what they want to change or what they desire.

Case Study: ‘F’ got down from her new SUV with a smile on her face after coming back from shopping. She had been envisioning doing all the fun things with her new vehicle. She still had the new ribbon attached on the bonnet. Just before locking using the new keyless feature, she went around the vehicle admiring and feeling great about the look of it. As soon as she reached the left-side front she noticed a long scratch on the white outer body. She was irritated. She could not recall when the SUV could have met with this minor accident while she was driving. She then remembered that she had parked her vehicle in the common public parking lot. The only possibility was that another car parked there must have been parked close to her vehicle and might have brushed and scratched it.

Her husband who had by then come down to help her with her bags, noticed her standing and frowning at the scratch. The moment she saw her husband, and even before he could ask her, she pointed to the area of the car that was hurt. She said that she was feeling sad because of the helplessness of what had happened to the car. As her husband asked, ‘what shall be done now?’ ‘F’ suddenly realised that the cascade of emotions that passed through her mind and imagination at a lightning speed was in anticipation of what could be. This is what had started to cause the stress in a short span while she was staring at her vehicle’s scratch.

It is not possible to worry about what has already occurred. You can only look for learning in it. Stress occurs on repeated confirmation of what is not in your favour. Even memory of the previous stress gets added if it has not been addressed.

‘F’ discussed with her husband, ‘we can inform the parking lot attendant,’ ‘and peacefully protect it in future trips.’ Her husband suggested to her to also to give a quick inspection of the vehicle before leaving the parking lot.

You can plan for the future and take action when you are in the present. Rest is all hypothetical fearful, anticipatory or even prophylactic thoughts or discussion.

Instead, if you could just recognise and acknowledge the stress. Review the past for its do’s and don’ts. List all that can be done differently or even something new. Forgive yourself for all that you think you have done or not done. Forgive all that were involved for all they have possibly done or not done. Look for blessings in this situation. Take action if you are in any such situation in the present.

Now along with informing the parking lot attendant ‘F’, would be mindful of checking her vehicle before she leaves the place so that she can address the matter right then. ‘F’ was grateful that she had a place to park her vehicle because she had noticed that other vehicles parked outside were towed.
So understand the situation and to stay calm be in the present as much as possible. If your mind strays towards stress and cause tension, lovingly bring your mind back to present. Because you take information from past and present, but it is only in the present where the solution resides.

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foundations of my education

There are only three important FOUNDATIONS required for education,(1)Comprehensive reading and writing, (2)Listening, and  (3)Speaking.

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When you have resources for education then education becomes a choice. During the schooling ironically I didn’t see it being a choice. I did not choose education. I chose approval from my dad. I was, therefore, attending school, appearing for exams, even later for further studies I chose science to gain and to see where his approval stood. In school, I use to get a lot of red lines on my report card. It was the screaming proof of what my dad’s expressions and words were saying to me. Me not good in studies. The interaction with the school teachers ref the same thing. Fact is I did talking, playing, observing, and a little bit of sports on my own but in studies I needed monitoring. Even as a little girl I could see that I was not getting the respect or recognition.  I had no introduction to self-love or self-approval. But I somehow held on to the understanding that education is my only ticket to dignity. Even if I did decide to stick to education to please my dad, I am just glad I never gave up. I do not very vividly remember my education, subjects, content of the subject, teacher’s names, friends names, nor the year of passing of the class of my school days. What I do remember is people interaction. I remember behaviour and expressions of mine and others. I remember experiences of mine and others.

This so beautifully indicates that I was always meant to do what I do professionally today. Interpreting, understanding, teaching and writing about life, based on human interactions and experiences.

Although I was from a non-English speaking family, I was very keen to learn and speak fluent English.  As I got older and got freedom and access to television, I had started watching a lot of television. I use to watch programs of all languages. Most of my learning came from there. I was clearly an audio-visual person.

For graduation and post-graduation I studied microbiology and pathology. Every day before the lectures started, the microbiology teachers in college quizzed us on previously taught course matter. I use to study because I liked answering questions. I developed a taste for the subject and became a rank student and I even came 1st in the University. By the time I was in a life after the accident which had resulted in an amputation of my right upper limb, I was too attached and was not able to let go science. I looked for ways to integrate all the previous education so I took admission in Bioinformatics, a course that amalgamates information technology and biological science. I did not do well there. I just managed to get a diploma for the Master’s course I took admission.

What did I learn during my education? (a) I did not agree with the education system. (b) I was clear that the real answers in life were in interaction, behaviour, and experiences. (c) Words have power, only my words have power over my life. (d) Focus needed to be shifted from difficult situations to life-enhancing learning. (e) When relationships and life experiences are not pleasant, that is the time I am not supposed to quit. (f) When you are learning, the mode of education has to be what is compatible with you. (g) Practice anything you want with guidance and you will get better at it.

I was very good at sketching as far as I remember. Due to the accident, I had to switch to being a left-handed person. My handwriting and hand orientation needed guidance and practice. I looked for and contemplated taking help from handwriting institutes but never reached there to take help. I also wanted to sketch and paint, mainly because I wished to express some of my thinking and visions through this art.  Six months ago I joined a drawing class and the teacher taught me from how to draw lines and circles. I already see wonderful changes in my flow of my writing, comfort in hand orientation and legibility in my handwriting.

Today in the present, I very sincerely understand that there are only three important foundations required for education. First one is comprehensive reading and writing. The second one is listening. And the third one is speaking. The emphasis has to be on these rather than the subjects. The subjects get learned on their own once these foundations are strengthened.

I am grateful to my parents especially my dad for sponsoring and for the support I received for all my education.

I have mixed feelings regarding my education. As the traditional education did not align my way of learning, I did not score big. The report cards were not a big fan of my happy go lucky nature. The affects of the report card categorizing of me as a student, in turn affected my friendships with my classmates and the impression the teacher’s had about me.

I am truly glad I continued my studies, as they paved way for my job and life experiences.
I feel blessed to know that I was not bad in studies. I did not study. And there is a difference.

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