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To Accept Is To Belong

To Accept Is To Belong.

You can belong where ever you are willing to accept to belong.

To Accept Is To Belong


IADLife Post: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/07/20/to-accept-is-to-belong/


Dear Friend!

To accept is to belong. Accepting somebody or something is belonging to somebody or something.

To accept or to belong, start getting into the practice of accepting.

How much ever someone loves you, if you are focussed on being accepted by or accepting and belonging to somebody else then you will keep looking at them for acceptance. But, you will not be able to accept their acceptance, because you do not know what it is to accept. And you also do not realise that you already accepted.

First get into the practice of accepting. And that can happen when you start going somewhere or being somewhere, where you are willing to accept.

What characteristics would you willingly accept?

If you say ‘love’, then go to a place/person where you feel love. Get enough practice of accepting love. Get accustomed to accepting or choosing to belong where there is a lot of love. Then you will be able to see all that (LOVE) where ever you want to see.

When you do not get acceptance from something or somebody then you will know that you DO NOT belong there.

When you belong somewhere you are not ill-treated there. If you are being ill-treated you don’t need to belong there. You deserve better. There are better options awaiting you.

The reason you attract or create a situation of lack of acceptance is that you are making way for you to learn about ‘acceptance.’

When you do self-motivated actions somewhere or for someone, this is when you know that you DO belong there. You will not leave your turf. Your proclamation is by being convinced by self. You need to decide. The moment you decide to belong somewhere or to someone, there is going to be a lot of prosperity there.

When you not able to belong in one place you look for refuge in other places. You question and desire to belong to more than one place.

The level of responsibility that is required when you want to belong is a ‘whole one’ in itself. There is no partial belonging. You have to value your contribution. When you ask a question regarding belonging and it has ‘doubt’ as a part of it, then you need to know that it comes from your insecurity of not being able to belong.

Not considering and thus not seeing yourself belonging anywhere is what prompts you to: a) want to belong to more than one place or thing b) understand the insecurity that is pushing you into this.

In this state, you are in a hurry to belong, as you urgently want to feel secure. Which most certainly comes from self-convinced fear of not belonging.

So when you ask, ‘where do I belong?’ ‘Do I belong?’

The answer is ‘of course you do.’

You belong on this planet. You belong to you. You will belong to any and all you are willing to accept. You belong where you feel love. You belong where you don’t feel rejected.

You will not miss out on others. So, first belong where you can see yourself accepting and accepted. The increase in self-confidence will allow you to make efforts towards belonging in other areas or people. Parallelly check how many places or people do you give acceptance so easily.

Stay where you feel love and let rest come to you, be willing to accept them.  All of them belong to you. If you reject then you are hesitating or are reluctant to belong.

You can belong where ever you are willing to accept to belong. If you have not taken such a responsibility before then it will seem like work to you. Just once you take that leap of faith. All that you desire are waiting to belong to you and they will come to you.

Best wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

WhatsApp Number: +919886077034



it happens the next moment

If it has not happened yet. It only means that it can happen the next moment. Any moment now.

Because, only good is in store for you.

happens the next moment


Dear Friend!

Desires, Manifestations, Time Spans vary.

Giving manifestation time its due respect requires patience and faith.

Assurance of manifestation of desire is an affirmation. Keeping the assurances in high vibration is a necessity to manifest beautifully.

You need assurance to fill in the tiny bit of a space in your wait period that has the choice of getting filled up either by anxiety or by confidence. Assurance nudges the confidence into this space and keeps you in vibration that is not low. In this vibration, the creative suggestion that comes as guidance for an action step to be carried out in this waiting period is better understood because of the assurance. You are either ready to do anything provided it indicates that it is for your desire manifestation or you are in no mood to do anymore.  Assurance gives that guarantee to the action suggested. To do those actions a reason and motivation are necessary.

In absence of assurance, there is a lack of security and approval. You may see yourself being kept in the balance, with no understanding of what is next. This may result in you reassessing your desire thus completely changing your asking. You may self-blame or go into self-doubt.

Words that affirm that ‘your desires have happened and you are about to see them’ or ‘your desires are happening’, are the ones that keep you on the receiving track. Keep them close. Keep them handy. Repeat them as you need and will.

When you affirm these assurances, right after that you could look for sign and symbol that reinforces your trust and keeps you from interfering with what the Universe is set out to provide for you on your request.

“Only your greatest and highest good is in store for you.”

“Only my greatest and highest good is in store for me.”

If you are willing to add this affirmation which is a highlight to all of your assurances, then the previous assurances and the wait is easier to agree with.

In all situations, conditions, choices you just need to keep this affirmation/assurance close to you.

Life’s learning is either giving pleasure or comes with learning. Both promise ‘good’ for you in your life.

Assurances keep you calm and thus increases your visibility of your desires actually manifesting. When you stress about it coming true, there are chances that it has come true and you have missed it as you were busy questioning the process.

Your desires are entirely yours and it is entitled to be manifested only for you. You need not fear of it getting over in quota or getting assigned to someone else because of your x y z reasons. Your desires have your copy right.

The only one who can and will receive it is YOU.

Ask, have faith, affirm, see the signs, do the action, receive the manifestation with joy.

And during all that have fun.

Best wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

WhatsApp Number: +919886077034



Why suffer when you chant or affirm

Why suffer when you chant or affirm?-Wednesday Why?

Why suffer when you chant or affirm

IADLife Blog : https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/07/18/why-suffer-when-you-chant-or-affirm/


Q by Sandhya Rani T D, Bangalore, Karnataka.

“It is said that some Shlokas you chant once there is a huge list of benefits including wishes get fulfilled and we are freed of bondage and attachments etc. All the fruits of these good deeds multiplied by 10000 times is got by chanting only once. Then why is that we continue to struggle and suffer in spite of doing all this chanting. I am sure our Rishis and Sages have done this for our people to benefit.”


Dear Friend!

Chanting praises of Lord, God or Goddesses is a practice. Many do this ritualistically, diligently, sincerely, partially, or forcefully, according to their choice. The words that are uttered during the chanting are equivalent to appreciation and gratitude to a higher force. The trust that you express through your chanting to the higher power ignites the faith and raises the security within. This gives you more confidence about your life experiences, handling your life situations and in asking about your pending desires.

Chanting is, therefore, a Vibration Raising Agent*. It raises the vibration and therefore brings you at the vibrational alignment with all the benefits and fulfillments that are made to be known to you.

Chanting like affirmation is one-time prescription. One time is all it takes.

Raising vibration per se comes from building momentum. As you stepwise or gradually get to the high vibration, it is here that your words which are your wishes start getting communicated to the higher source.

Higher force, Source, God, Universe are high energy and high vibrational entities. Communication with them is established better here. Receiving and asking is more clearly understood here. You get clear about what you really want to ask. You also get clear on what you are hearing as guidance. Manifestations take place on following those guidance. Being in this level of vibration is a boost in confidence and you, therefore, most definitely follow the guidance. And when you do follow the guidance the desires start to come true.

When the guidance is not clearly understood it seems as if it is not received. Sometimes you receive guidance but you don’t carry them out. In both situations, you don’t see your desires come true. This dwindles your connection and faith with the Source, the higher power. Suffering starts here. When you re establish your connection and faith with the higher power, through meditation, focussed chanting, and then by gathering the guidance. Regular practice of this reconnects you to Source and the suffering starts to diminish.

Chanting to convey your gratitude and/or desires is like affirming.

When you chant or affirm at one time and reach the high vibration and you communicate with what you believe in as higher power, what do you do next? After the communication of the desire do you keep the faith and trust that you don’t need to recheck? Or do you start with your regular life showing semi or some doubt? You start to re word your desires and thus change your request.

While you are chanting or affirming you are not saying anything other than what you wish to say. This is a reason why you require to chant or affirm several times.

Many times you are sad because you haven’t received what you want. So your chanting or affirmations are in sad or low vibrations. While saying it several times there are moments of your unawareness when you inadvertently and unknowingly slide into the high vibration. These moments of your unawareness are the loopholes. It is here that your words for desire slip into the high vibration and get clearly communicated to the higher power. This is an another important reason for chanting or affirming several times.


Chanting or affirming with faith is saying it clearly and still being flexible.

Chant or affirm once with faith and trust. That is all it takes. Follow the guidance in the form of follow up action. May all your dreams and desires come true!
Best wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

WhatsApp Number: +919886077034



*VRA: Vibration Raising Agent and VLA: Vibration Lowering Agent are IADLife terms



WILLINGNESS is way forward

Where there is unwillingness, there is resistance. Where there is willingness there is way forward.

WILLINGNESS is way forward

IADLife Post: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/07/17/willingness-is-way-forward/


Dear Friend!

CaseStudy: ‘R’ started for Starbucks one Sunday morning a practice that she had started a week ago, for her blog writing something she was very passionate about. Her waking up later than the time she needed to wake up, not remembering to re-schedule with the house staff so now she had to wait for her, receiving an unexpected phone call and her having to revisit the flat to pick up her pen and then her face towel were series of events that were moving her stepping out to a later timing. For every intrusion, she affirmed, ‘This is happening for a very good reason. Something very good will come out for me.’ Sitting in her car, as she placed the key in the ignition, she reviewed all of it. Even after she reached the destination she did not get the desired parking spot. She realised that all those were the resistance that she had encountered.

Question is why?

Even though her understanding was that she was on her way to do what she loved to do that is to go to café and to write on her favourite subject of human science. She still had attracted a battery of situations that were keeping her from doing that comfortably.

These unexpected events that took place between her leaving the home to reaching Starbucks were actually ‘resistance’. Her resistance was due to lack of willingness. She now needed to find out what was ‘the resistance keeping her from achieving’. This would provide her the answer to where the willingness was lacking.

And after she finds out where was her lack of willingness then that would answer what was causing all the resistance to show up and she could work on eliminating them. Letting go or eliminating the resistance will increase the willingness.

‘R’ was also finishing writing a book for which she wanted to clear some time in the week. Once she understood it was connected to the publishing of the book, she addressed the fears, hesitation, and responsibilities connected to completing and publishing the book.

How did she get over the resistance?

Under all conditions, she wrote her book with no excuses. She did tapping/EFT whenever she felt fear or energy lowering while writing the book.

Lack of willingness is unwillingness.

Unwillingness can be obvious or subtle. Some things you don’t like find difficult or don’t agree. Unwillingness for these is obvious. You openly say it or show it. When you love an action, look forward to learning and doing, is as per your plan and you still face situations that make moving forward not smooth. Unwillingness here is subtle.

In obvious unwillingness, you would welcome the resistance and use them as a logical rational reason not to move in that direction. In subtle unwillingness, you need to investigate. You need to dig out the reason for the unwillingness and recognise the resistance. Then you solve or let go them for smooth sail ahead.

These situations that you face are the resistance.

Resistances are towards change, personal growth, to accept help and support. Resistance could come up as situations with money, time, distance, doubt, questions, phone call, sleep, hunger, bio breaks, other alternative engagements, people and/or relationships. Largest resistance is not recognising what you already have and showing gratitude for what you have. Resistance becomes blockages connected to all the above. All these blockages give rise to thoughts and words that bring you down to low vibration. At this vibration, manifestation does not take place or sometimes is difficult or if it does happen, leaves you with the same low vibration in which you so relentlessly manifested. Thus, the joy of manifestation is missing here.

Understanding the reason for the resistance and removal of resistance converts the unwillingness to willingness.

Your willingness can help you achieve all that you set out to act on. It opens doors, creates and brings opportunities, support system, resources and gives energy for all that you want to do.

Willingness gives you the confidence that all is possible.

Best wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

WhatsApp Number: +919886077034



Forgiveness Is GIFT

Anything received Before Forgiveness is Compensation. Anything received After Forgiveness Is GIFT.

forgiveness is GIFT

IADLife Blog: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/06/21/forgiveness-is-gift/


Dear Friend!

Anything received Before Forgiveness is Compensation. Anything received After Forgiveness Is GIFT.

Every wrong has righteous probable. And that is to be righted.

Magical and spiritual probable of that is, ‘every wrong could be rightfully followed by forgiveness and gratitude.’

‘Forgiveness’ is done to make space in your life for beautiful new and ‘gratitude’ is for the learning you received through this experience.

There are several and varied ways to right the wrong. It could be verbal, nonverbal and some more other ways. Verbal can be a word ‘sorry’ or a conversation with an explanation or defending the wrongful act. Nonverbal could be through physical gestures, hug, kiss, handshake, something intimate or material things. Other ways can be by writings, blessings or prayer.

Accepting the right in exchange of the wrong is entirely up to the person/party that has been wronged. How and when it is accepted, also depends upon the one that has been wronged.

“Receiving.” When receiving or commanded receiving happens before the forgiveness then, it is a distraction. The distraction is from the work involved in solving and learning from the wrong done by the person or through the situation. It is a compensation.

Compensation is a form of fine or penalty. Reparation for something that is missing or not been fulfilled. This restitution lasts as long as there is attachment or connection with what has been received. It is temporary. It is like a fog/smog which creates an illusion of getting over the wrong or wrong not existing. In fact, it is suppressing the need to understand the wrong. As soon as the fog subsides, the realisation of wrong surfaces with a greater force. By now the opportunity at this time to understand and heal is gone.  The next time same or similar wrong happens, it appears to be larger than before. The largeness of the wrong is directly proportional to the number of times and how long the wrong(s) have not been worked on. Earlier compensation, by this time, is not valid and not enough. Compensation now also becomes a blackmail.

The only way to get out of this web of blackmail for either side, one which has done wrong or the one that has been wronged, is by FORGIVENESS.

Forgiveness comes from understanding ‘what is the wrong.’ Sometimes it may not even be a wrong. Sometimes it’s just a misunderstanding.

However, when it is the wrong you could consider to forgive. You need not agree or like or even have the wrong in your space any longer. You could stop giving it attention. You could shift your focus to anything else.

If/when forgiveness follows the wrong. It replaces the wrong. Forgiveness creates the new space to ‘receiving’ wonderful specifics decided by the receiver or to non-specifics like the receiver’s highest and greatest good. What is received after the forgiveness is a gift!

Receiving as GIFT.

Technically and ideally gift is a surprise, fun, free, extra, more. The gift is beautiful. The gift is a blessing.

Receiving and giving a gift is a form of giving and receiving APPROVAL.

Willingness to forgive itself is the greatest gift.  Anything else you receive is a bonus gift.

The essence of receiving the Gift inspires to give. Give yourself the gift of wisdom to understand the wrong and forgive, to have peaceful life experiences.

Best wishes

Reena Yadav, IADLife

WhatsApp Number: +919886077034