Achievement

 Achievement.

What is an achievement? An achievement is an accomplishment. An achievement is a winning prize. An achievement is arriving at a destination.

To be able to achieve or to achieve more, to be able to be an achiever, to be able to understand, ask, allow, accept, welcome, enjoy, see, feel, be thankful, and thrive in an achievement of yours you need, to be clear on what you want.

The precursor of achievement is setting goals.  
What if ‘feeling good’ was your goal? What if ‘feeling good’ is your achievement?
Ok. What if ‘feeling good’ is one of your achievements?
What would you do? Just like any other goals you’ll start listing the steps on how to go from one step to another and finally reach that goal of ‘feeling good’. You will start listing the resources required, and milestones that will be covered that would have ultimately reach you/ bring you to your goal of ‘feeling good’.
What are the attributes that would indicate that it is an achievement of ‘feeling good’? How would you know that it is an achievement that is ‘feeling good’?
*I wake up every day with a sense of eagerness for the to-do list that can be done/ is doable with ease.
*I sleep with love in my heart and optimism in my mind.
*I wake up with optimism in my heart and love in my mind.   
*I am able to see and list all that I can be thankful for easily.
* Life feels worth living.
* Life feels like hope.
* There is faith that things are going to work out.
* There is a feeling of cheerfulness.
* There is noticing of good things already done.
* There is noticing of contribution, support, and encouragement from outside sources. 
* There is feeling of good health, wellness, and wellbeing.

Achievement varies from person to person. Achievement for one could be a norm for the other. Choose to notice, appreciate, and acknowledge the norm as an achievement.

The more you feel achieved the more confident you get and the better is your productivity. It is a win-win situation both for you and your environment be it company or home. This will help you both at the personal level and professional level.  
Each one of us on already achievers. Let us continue to be achievers.
Good luck to us all.    

Affirm +vely. “I am going to feel really really good. I am going to feel good energy.”

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Right to Information.

Right To Information.

What? When? How? Why?
Ask a question. Get a reply. Receive the answer. That is ‘the information.’ Now the query here is, ‘do you always get the real/right answer?’ The reply to this is, ‘you will always get the answer to the question you ask based on the filters you already have from your previous influencers and/or based on filters that have been created based on your very own understanding, revelations, and realisations.’
Let us understand this better with an example.  
You have decided to start your health regime. You get inspiration, guidance, and support through some entity/entities. Now, for some reason, you feel malaise or lack of inspiration to move on with the schedule that has been created for this purpose. You ask a question. And the question that you ask is, (a) to answer your present desire to take a break or (b) create a breakthrough.
If the question is related to break then you will get all the support, inspiration, and guidance that will take you towards any and every reason why this break is justified.
On the other hand, if your question is toward asking for guidance to inspire or ask for support towards a breakthrough to know how to get over the situation and continue with the path to follow the schedule created for you then, all the requirements of support & inspiration will appear in your space that will fulfill this.
The answer that you attract is always an information to what your intention is.
In this example if you ask a question (a) Why is it that I require to be this level of healthy? And b) What is the best schedule that could help me get to my health goal?
Now the answers that you will get will be something which is in support of the schedule that you already have or a completely new schedule which will help you continue when your energy is low and get back on track as your energy level rises. The point is you want to be on a health-related schedule to gain health so how would stopping support you in being healthy.
Same is applied for just about any question that you ask for which you seek information.

The best way to create a question is to get clear on your intention. The best way to set your intention is to get clear on your aim goal desire.
What is it that you truly want? The moment you are clear on that you will know what your aim is. This automatically helps you to set an intention. This in turn creates questions that has answers that form/contribute to the plan that will fulfil your desire requirement. The answers you seek will start pouring in from sources that will get your attention.

You have right to this information. You just need to ask the right questions.

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GOOD LUCK

‘Wishing Good Luck is affirming, ‘may you be in vibrational alignment with all GOOD.’
Good is anything that benefits you, is in your favor, you feel safe with, and supports you. When you are in alignment with this understanding and thus in alignment with the feeling, you attract more of this. You attract more of all that is GOOD for you. 
What makes you feel that good things are flowing in your space? A good collaboration? A good co-dependency?
Each will have desirable outcomes. It feels like an upward and forward movement of life. More and new choices come to your attention. They contribute to the enhancement and development of desires. It feels like growth and prosperity. It feels like you are the creator of all that you are wanting to create. It raises your confidence.
You feel you are asking, allowing, welcoming, interacting, and enjoying all the good that is entering your life daily anyway, and in every way. You are thankful. You feel good energy. It feels like fun.
For many initially it will feel like hope. Soon it will feel like faith. You feel certainty and confirmation. Plans and ideas seem doable.
Creativity moves to a higher level. You feel satisfied. Generosity becomes part of you.
Letting go of what no longer benefits you and no longer works in your favor is a possibility. No more hanging on to them. Expecting replacements with better quality and quantity of all good is the new affirmation.
Clarity and confidence is the NEW you. You got this. You made it.
If you still don’t feel it, you can and will make it. You are alright. All is well. You can be, do, and have anything.
Live long and prosper.
May good and only GOOD flow in your life In a continuous and constantly increasing manner.

Thank you for reading.

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2023 2024

Thank you 2023. Thank you for the year that was.
Events and experiences felt in your mind, body, and your life.

How to go about it? Follow the (Step A) Take every month starting from December, November October……… all the way to January 2023 and recall anything good that has happened in that month. (Step B) List them Good things in material life, spiritual life, in your realisations, in your acknowledgments, interactions, experiences, awareness, health, purchases, expertise gained, people you attracted in your space (physical space or otherwise), evolution in thoughts, and evolution in life. (Step C) Go through them again and again till you feel thankfulness for each.

You can choose to write or enlist them in your mind. Writing them, however, is always preferable and advised. Allows you to go back and read them again and again to enhance the good feeling.

Why do them?
Thankfulness is a good feeling. Thankfulness is a good energy. Things manifest better in this good energy. Better in quality, quantity, and at the desire level.
The more you focus on good energy the more you attract ‘good energy everything’ from hereon.

(Step D) As you finish your 2023 listing affirm, *’I am satisfied.’ ‘I am hopeful.’ ‘I am thankful.’ ‘I am eager.’

This is a process and strategy to attract all good, every good, each good you desire.
All good you know and all the unknown good that you expect in 2024.

Thank you 2024. Thank you for the year that will be. Now think of all the desires, aims, goals, likes, wants, evolution, and things that you need in physical, emotional, and spiritual experiences, interactions, purchases, and acknowledgments that you wish to see in 2024. You can be specific and you can be general.

To each one, say to them this mantra of 4 (created by Reena, IADL.) *’I love you.’ ‘Thank you.’ ‘You are perfect for my desires to manifest.’ ‘I am safe.’
Smallest, minutest, significant in one and somewhat insignificant in another area, important to you and not so important to others.

In case you are running short of time or you don’t remember or you don’t want to recall all that has happened in 2023 then, you can just say a thankful message to each month *’Thank you for all the beautiful blessings, experiences, and magical feelings all throughout this month of ……and end by saying the name of the month.’

*Have a happy, healthy, safe, and fun 2024.

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* Each affirmation has been created by Reena Yadav, IADL.

The Secret to happy life

A happy, satisfied, content life is a combination of Following rules, Creating your own, and Knowing when to do which. This is the secret to Happy Life.

The secret of a happy life. Before that, a Happy Life is a Satisfied life. A happy life is a Content life. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life does not mean sacrifice. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life does not mean missing out. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life does not promote compromise.

A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is a life that is willing to see what is working in your favor, appreciable, praiseworthy, and good. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is where there is self-permission for your Desire. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is where clarity is advocated on what you Desire. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is when there is scope for Expansion and Evolution of your Desires. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is where there is inspiration to courageously, clearly, and confidently ask for your Desire. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is where you are open to communication, stating your wants, listening to the guidance, acknowledging what you have attracted, and feeling the freedom of choice. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is having good energy to move toward in that direction. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is a balance of neither be impatient nor be too accommodating for your Desire manifestation.
A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is taking responsibility for what you ask, what you allow, and what you attract.
A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is in continuity. A Happy, Satisfied, and Content Life is a life that evolves.

(A) Following Rules. Life is constantly moving, changing, evolving, and progressing. This could make it difficult to keep track. Rules are created to keep decorum. To bring method to madness some rules are general, some are common, and some specific. But even these rules are revised as the life around changes.
Each person is unique. Each person has unique life journey and experiences. So each person deserves a unique set of rules for their life.
Recognising which rules will help you progress, which will keep you safe, and where to make your customised changes as per you is the ‘name of the game’ called happy life.

(B) Creating Rules. Life is not about bending rules or breaking rules it is about creating a rule(s) that helps you and supports you in living your dream-desired life.
Creating is more important, as living it is yours altogether. Your choices, your understanding, and your achievement. Knowingly &/or inadvertently following someone else life creations (rules) is wonderful when it suits you. When it does not then, blaming others will not help you. Remember that this does not dilute the participation, contribution, and responsibility of others. It is just that you need not make it your focus. Recognising and making changes as per your will, is the permission you need to give to yourself.

(C) Knowing when to do which. Being happy requires practice like any other habit. So do it more often (as often as you can). As you get more and more in the habit of being more and more happy and for longer and longer, you will get clear about the rules of life, yours, mine, or ours. You will choose wisely. You will follow them at will. You will know when to follow which.

A happy, satisfied, content life is a combination of Following rules, Creating your own, and Knowing when to do which. This is THE SECRET to Happy Life.

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Trust You Can Do It

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14^th September 23. The post was created from the following sequence of steps.  I replied to a question on, Successful Female Coaches & Entrepreneurs on FB. ‘If you could give one piece of advice to help women reach their full potential, what would it be?’
My answer:
“Only trust that you can do it. Every other thought is a misconception and misinformation.” -Reena Yadav. IADL.
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So here are some facts. I’m the creator of my reality. I ask for a desire. I put in some conditions. And the universe delivers.
Look closely. The delays, the rejections, and the lack are all forms of conditions or branch off of the conditions that you put in.
I want this but I want it in this way. ‘The but’ is ‘the condition’ that can cause serious self-doubt and self-criticism. ‘The but’ is the condition that you have to change.
You can choose to have conditions in ‘how you wish to feel.’
Satisfied, fun, elated, relieved, or any other good emotion of your choice.

“Only trust that you can do it. Every other thought is a misconception and misinformation.” When I wrote the sentence I did not even think about what you are attracting from outside source. I am talking about your own thoughts. The outside experiences you attract are reflections of your thoughts again. You are with your thoughts maximum all throughout the day and all throughout your life. Your mind is your playground. You could create what you want. You intend to create what you want. You aim to create what you want. So if there are thoughts that are opposite to your desire they are clearly untrue. When thoughts arise that are in opposition to your desire you’ll feel the pinch. You will feel the hurt. You will feel the unpleasantness. Now you would know that something is amiss. Something is not right with these thoughts.
Just trust that it is a misinformation and a misinterpretation of what you are thinking, saying, or doing in the process of creating.
Catch it, dismiss it, edit it, replace it, and even better displace it with your positive self-confirmation-affirmations. Keep doing it till you start feeling better emotions.
Voila and you are back on track of creating your desires and you are back on track of communicating to the Universe on creating your desires.

So Trust.
It’s A Deserving Life.
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A Promise Of Safety

A Promise Of Safety

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A Promise Of Safety From You to You.

A Promise of Safety.

A Promise of Safety from You to You. A Promise to keep noticing Your thoughts. A Promise to notice and nurture the thoughts that are pleasant. A Promise to allow a shift of attention from the unpleasantness. A Promise to change Your thoughts that are not fun. A Promise to keep an eye on Your emotions. A Promise to uplift Yourself when You feel low. A Promise to be Your own cheerleader. A Promise to go that extra mile for You. A Promise not to do something just because of peer pressure. A Promise not to follow a mob mentality. A Promise to focus on thankfulness. A Promise to see more of appreciables. A Promise to see good, favorable, and beneficial in each life situation. A Promise to repeat and repeat them. A Promise to go above and beyond resistance. A Promise to acknowledge them. A Promise to love and accept every part of You. A Promise to stand by You. A Promise to never give up on You. A Promise to have kinder self-conversations.
A Promise to allow help when You need it. A Promise to Expand, Extend, Change, Progress, and Prosper. A Promise to give Yourself the benefit of the doubt. A Promise to wish well for Yourself when You slip or make a mistake. A Promise to dream big size. A Promise to Stay connected with what You want to be, whilst acknowledging & appreciating where You are and praise how far You have come.

A Promise not to postpone merriment, enjoyment, or manifestation in the name of perfection.
You, Your life situations, and Your everything are perfect for my desires to come true now.
A Promise to move on from beliefs that are not working well for you and get clear on the favouring beliefs.
You could have been following others’ beliefs. The belief that is beneficial is Your true belief.
A Promise to be happy content, satisfied, and fun even when Your circumstances are not. Circumstances will change. Circumstances will get better. They have to. They always do. You need to be in the practice of knowing and staying in a state of happiness, contentment, and satisfied. So, when circumstances get better You are in a state to enjoy it.
A Promise to be happy content, satisfied, and fun even when the circumstances of others are not.
You are not responsible for others’ unhappiness. You can support them only when You are in a better place.
A Promise to be Your own person. Not someone else’s version.

A Promise to affirm, ‘I am safe.’A Promise to feel optimism in Your heart and love in your mind. A Promise to intend to be Your best version each day. A Promise to evolve in continuity. A Promise to move towards complete self-acceptance.

Who is this for?
For You. For everyone. For each one of us.

How to start?
Start by making ‘A Promise’ sentences as your positive affirmations. Repeat them as often as you can. Repeat them whenever you feel your thoughts are going towards non-fun thoughts.

When to start?
This moment. This hour. This day. The next moment. The next hour. The next day.
You recognise, you realise, it registers. That’s your cue. Start now.

A Promise Of Safety From Me to Me.
You could choose to replace the word ‘You’ with ‘Me’ and see the difference in how you feel about it. The one that is more effective use them as your positive affirmation.

You can choose to create your own promises and add them in the same way. Until you can create your own ‘A Promise’ to start with these now.

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Words That Favor You.

Words That Favor You.
“Very important, only use words and sentences that are in your favour even if you take time to believe them.”. – Reena Yadav. IADL.
Life is not a difficult relationship where you need to convince about your innocence or your worthiness or your Deservability.
Life is not a court of law where you need to prove someone else guilt mistake or crime in order to prove you are right.
Life is not a ‘Satyavadi Raja Harishchandra’ * that it would expect you to say/be/make only staunch honest statements.
* ‘Satyavadi Raja Harishchandra’ was a king who was staunchly honest. He followed the path of honesty and no other.
Life is not a strict educational headmaster to whom you are answerable about your behaviour and choices.
Life is not one size fits all. Life is not black & white. Life is not a moral police. Life is not a social worker. Life does not have a mob mentality.
Life could be flexible, floral, and myriad of choices, experiences, and expressions.
You can choose to customise your truth. You need not say it as is. You can choose to reform your statements in a way that they reflect what you want and not what you are viewing or going through.
In your best interest, you are required to choose the words that is in your favor. What will be in your favor is the one that benefits you. What benefits you uplifts you and takes you to a higher life [your dream-desire life.]
In your higher life [your dream-desire life] is a satisfied life. In a satisfied state of mind, creative ideas flow. In this state of being you are a magnet to their resources that will bring it to fruition. Your realised creative ideas would be useful to you. Your realised creative idea could be useful to some to many others.
Your realised creative ideas when useful to you and many others, will give you good energy.
Good energy is encouraging, inspiring, promoting, supporting of you and your life. Now you decide all that you can create, experience, and enjoy, in this good energy.
You are going to thrive. This is the ultimate way of living.
Here are some of the examples of words and sentences that can be …..
Your truth: He did not treat me right.
Reformed favorable statement: “I would like to be/feel respected. I would like to feel justness and fair play.”
Your truth: He stole my money.
Reformed favorable statement: “I wish to have honest and loyal people catering to me. I wish money comes to me.”
Your truth: She is asking more than she (her services) is/are worth.
Reformed favorable statement: “I wish to attract people providing services that serve my requirements and it is pleasing to me to give money for it.”

Similarly just pick up any, not-so-fun sentences or statements that are bothering you and then reform/ transform them into favourable statements. Notice how you feel it’s a guarantee that you feel good. A good feeling is an indication that better things are about to happen.

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proud

Proud

Proud is thankful, satisfied, relieved, inspired, applauding, appreciation, praise, confident, I love you feeling, and feeling secure all in one. So be proud.
As a practice be proud of yourself, others, animate things, inanimate things, experiences, memories, organs, cells, body, mind, brain, behavior, thoughtfulness, willingness, physical space, and anything else you can think of.

Why be proud of others and why be proud of so many varied things? For practice of course. The whole idea is that you start feeling proud as soon as you encounter something good. The brilliance of this practice is that being/feeling proud becomes a habit and will be on auto-pilot. You recognise good faster. Your focus on good increases. You knowingly and also unknowingly channel your energy to good. You come out of a bad feeling sooner. You feel good longer. You attract more good.
You will start looking at the smallest, tiniest, deepest, clandestine, and even imaginary entities [it’s there but not visible to your eyes, not visible in your plain sight, or you can see it as all good but cannot feel it as all good yet or you fabricate it completely] to feel good about.
You will choose to de-layer your life situations. Once that are pleasing, relish every part of it. Once that are emotionally sad, unpleasant, and/or emotionally confusing search for bits and pieces that are good out of the bad.
As your focus on good, only good, all good, and every good you ever desired you attract more of that in each and every area of your life.
Life feels and gets better and better. Life feels and gets upgraded.

I am proud of me. I am proud of others [can be specific]. I am proud of you [can be specific].

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RESPONSE

Response

Response. A response is an expression. Expression is a verbal or physical action. [Writing is physical action.]
When a situation arises it is the first instinct to express your mind and to do or say exactly what it is you think, at that time. Maybe you are excited about a situation. Maybe not so much. Sometimes the excitement is too much or the emotional pain is unbearably high and therefore both are hindering in your day-to-day activities & responsibilities. You just want to get it over with. This happens more so, in an adverse situation. It is called as venting, then. It can become ranting.

People like to feel heard. Also, they are in a hurry to receive the approval as proof of being heard. Which is actually approval seeking. So, they choose to express themselves. They feel this is their right. And rightly so, as when somebody is repressed what is taken away from them is ‘their right to express that is, their right to be or feel heard.’  

But you rather express. Great. But what are you expressing? You express that what will make you feel better, good or feel relieved. You express what will get you the most desirable results.
You usually end up saying what you think the other party requires to hear. In actuality what will truly make you feel better is stating what you desire.
And what is it that you desire? How do you know and express them? This is what it means. Right now whatever may be the situation, whatever you might want to say, hold that thought and replace them with what you would list/say as positive desire affirmation.  
Habitually if it does not look feasible for you to state what you truly desire then segway into it by stating your truth in as calm and normal a sentence as possible. “I truly don’t know what else can be done right now. If there are suggestions from your side, I am willing to take/hear them. What I want to do is stand by you and support you through the situation. From what I know nothing ever is permanent. So, I am sure/certain this situation will also get better. Now the decision has to be more structured and more defined. I am willing to share my thoughts if you are ready. I really want to be there for you. As far as I know that I can and I want to support, I just need to know how.”
These sentences work magically when you are talking to yourself. You will feel the emotional calmness. Sharing with others will be equally magical.

The logic is quite simple. It has to be exactly as you would want to be spoken to with you in any not-so-easy situation.

Try simple, polite, nice, caring, respectable, and solution-oriented words and sentences. Keep the length of conversations till the good feeling emotions support you. Take a break if need be. Practice by recording yourself in your speech. Very very important, be willing to hear the other party.

Set the rules. Tell them, “I want to be heard after which I will be willing to hear you. Neither of us is going to be leaving without permission.”   Or anything else. Also, please sit. Do not stand or make the other party stand if there is an arrangement for seating. Keep doing this. Solutions happen in steps. But it starts with a RESPONSE.

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