Happiness and longevity

Longevity and happiness.

Happiness is the only thing that is the reason for longevity.
Longevity is directly proportional to happiness. Every outcome of happiness biological, chemical, and spiritual each supports every cell to renew, rejuvenate, revitalise, reenergise, and to heal catering and contributing to the body and mind’s vitality and thus its longevity.
Happiness and only happiness is the sole reason for longevity. So when you want to live long and you want to live healthy, do what makes you happy and do all & only that makes you happy. Find happiness. Look for happiness. Expect happiness. Understand and acknowledge happiness. This is the only task you will ever need to do. Understand, list, categorise, rate, and practice happiness. Allow your list to be edited, tweaked, changed, and evolve as what you understand about your happiness progresses and prospers. Happiness is counting, reiterating, and repeating your blessings. Look for the minute ones and count them, acknowledge them. Make it a habit. Put it in your schedule. Comprehend your version of happiness. Know and appreciate your happiness. Recognize your happiness. Be persistent and consistent in the exercise of happiness. Let the happiness expand and explore as you feel like it. Because it will both expand and explore into more areas of your life.
You have a unique life journey and you are different from your caregivers and influencers. Create your own happiness story, beliefs, and thought processes.
Happiness is associated with feeling good. Happiness brings a smile to your face and makes you laugh with ease and more frequently. You sleep well. You get better dreams. You live life in the present. You are more aware. Experiences you attract will have more and more happiness in them.
Happiness is in recapping and retelling your blessings. Speak of them (blessings) more often. When you can easily and more so when you are in a tough situation. In situations that are not so pleasant, shift your focus from them and give more energy to all that is pleasant, pleasing, and feels like a blessing and is ‘happiness.’ Suddenly and automatically your mind will take your attention to the blessings in the unpleasant situation too. Solutions reside in happiness. In case you are trying to solve something in a situation give this a try. Next time you are in a conundrum however small or big, apply this process.
So what happens in this process? There are two facts to this. Fact number one, the mind needs to be trained in the direction you require it to focus. Fact number two, when you have a solution of your liking you feel happy. So the final outcome is happiness. Therefore, you are training your mind in the direction of happiness. So your mind will search for solutions that are associated with your happiness. You will receive messages and guidance toward that. Here choose to take action and feel the magic in this process.
HOPE is en-route to happiness.
Happiness can feel something like encouragement, beneficial, uplifting, endearing, relief, soothing, calming, desirable, satisfaction, and like a win.
Cathy Goodman healed the cancer of her breast in three months, by being happy.
Centenarians are happy people.                      
Children are happiness incarnate before anyone had a chance to ‘curb their enthusiasm.’ They laugh at the silliest pretext, they let go with ease, and they move on willingly.
Pets (many of them) are happy animals.
Happiness is feeling hope. Happiness s feeling faith. Happiness is feeling fun. Happiness is feeling safe. Happiness is feeling happy more and more every moment of every day.
Create and write your own ‘happiness’ story.
Happiness inspires longevity. Happiness leads to longevity. Happiness is longevity.
Reena Yadav.
IADL.
It’s A Deserving Life.

on the go

A task is carried out in a specific manner or in some other variation. There are two things involved (1) the process and (2) the result. What if the process is not as per your previously decided, known, acquainted, or familiar way? Then, let the task get done, on the go.

For example, eating. Reena had some clients who mentioned that their family, job, or sometimes both did not permit them to do this action in the way they wanted to do. As a result, it was causing them to feel anger, irritation, frustration, and was affecting more than their health.

Here the process was specific and many a time they were not getting the desired results.

So you can choose to shift your focus and sometimes you can choose to focus more on the outcome. Affirm that the outcome is magnificent. Start with focusing proportionally more on the magnificent outcome than the process that you are accustomed to.

Example: A client mentioned her health issues and on further inquiry her eating habits. This client used to postpone her eating till each of her family members had their breakfast and that was at varied timings according to their availability and schedule. So she started adding more cups of coffee to her eating schedule, till she could get a chance to eat sitting calmly at the table. This eating habit caused her many mind and physical issues.

Example. A guy working as a a real estate agent was always on the move and did not have a chance to have a sit-down lunch. So he chose to eat hunger-canceling/postponing edibles to keep hunger at bay, till the ‘sit-down and eat’ arrangement could be found. This habit caused grave health hazards and relationship issues.

This could apply to housework, office work, or any other work that you require to do yourself or delegate and get done.

A change in your perception can change your thought and thus change your energy flow. That is, energy flow toward what you want or away from it.

Look, you are doing the process eventually for the outcome. Do decide on the desired outcome. Give time to create and design the outcome. Connect feelings, emotions, and sentiments to these outcomes. Once that is established connect to ‘the feeling‘ and, let the feeling decided be the ‘magnificent, wonderful, beautiful, fabulous outcome.’

I want to feel satisfied. I would love to feel good. I would like to feel fun feelings. I am going to feel healthy-confident. I am going to feel supported. I am going to enjoy feeling excited. I like the feeling of healthy energy.

Example: You go to the parlor and your favorite hair stylist is not available. You go to the dentist and the dentist you are comfortable with is not available. You go to your supermarket and it is closed. You can choose the emotions and in the end, regardless of the process involved, you will feel the decided outcome. The physical result attached would be achieved (a) as you desired, (b) better than you desired, or (c) will not hold any essence.

The lady client and the real estate agent gentleman can eat on the go. They can eat as and when they can, whilst they are getting other things done. They could focus on feeling well, feeling healthy, feeling energetic, and feeling satisfied and just need to change their perspective from a sit-down-eating toward these emotions. Health will get better and so will all other things that were getting affected before.

Creating your own outcome will be an investment and will shift your focus from the process toward a more desirable result. Let the process be on the go. Allow the process to change as per your life situation.

Life is in continuity. Life exercises that you will benefit from, come from creating them as habits. Habits are created by practice. Choose to do them from now.

Become the architect of the outcome you desire.
I want to feel valued. I love to feel safe. I like to feel healthy-confident. I am going to feel satisfied.

Note: ‘On the go‘ term is inspired by the term so often used at cafe or food outlet when the order is ‘to go,’ meaning to pack and take with you and you have it as per your will while you are on the move supposedly.

Reena.
IADL.
It’s A DESERVING Life.
Creative Ideas and Healing Solutions.

take action with joy


Do it with happiness.
When this is suggested it is not asking of you to be nice. Whatever you attract do it with a smile. But what if, that is not what you wanted? Say no. Reject it. But what if you can’t and you feel safe doing it? What if it involves your near and dear ones and you feel safe, but you don’t like it? What if you feel you are missing out on what you are actually supposed to do?
Have a self-conversation, ‘this is temporary, this is not life-threatening. This is doable. This will not take too much time. I could multitask. I will allow it to take me towards what I desire. Right now I have attracted this thing’s attention. It’s not so bad. I will allow it to bring me good.’
The reason for all this is not to manipulate your mind or yourself to be in an undesirable situation. The reason you have such self-conversation is to buy you time to rechannel your energy towards what you truly like, desire, and want (more than the task at hand). The more you fret the more it persists and more of similar tasks will come into your space, compelling you to keep shelling your resources for them. To get to do what you want, take these three steps: (1) Have a self-conversation similar to the ones mentioned above. (2) In parallel keep making lists of what (tasks) you desire to do and connect your ‘why’s’ to them. (3) Connect with the feelings that you would feel when you get to do your desired tasks.
The first step is to keep you calm and to do the task at hand with ease and with good energy. Then you get an opportunity to re-route your energy towards the desires of your liking, which happens in step two. Then in step three, you communicate to the Universe about your desires. Communication to the Universe is through vibration. Emotions get translated into high vibration or low vibration. According to your focus encapsulated with high or low vibration, your instructions get communicated to your Universe.
You receive whatever your focus has been on. ‘I don’t want this.’ Keeps you there doing the same things again and again like a pattern. If you change your focus by saying, ‘Ok, this is what I have, now I would like to want what I like ..da.da..da..da….list them.’ It raises your vibration. Communication is passed on to the Universe and before you know it, your desirable tasks start to come to you.
Receive and welcome them.
While you are doing the tasks, you know, the not-so-desirable ones or ones other than the desirable ones, remember to appreciate, praise, and express value for every bit you do. Encourage yourself in an exaggerated manner. How many times are these steps supposed to be done? As many times as it takes to feel pleasure doing the present task. This moves your attention to all that gives you pleasure. Your desires give you pleasure. Even when you are doing the other tasks, you talk about your desires with passion. Discuss only with encouraging parties. Do not try to please or seek approval from naysayers.
It is a secret project between you and your Universe.
Enjoy this task which is at hand to enjoy what is coming.
You asked. It is DONE. Good things are coming. BELIEVE this.

Reena Yadav.
IADL.
It’s A DESERVING Life.
Creative Ideas and Healing solutions.

Relax your desires




Hello All

Relax Your Desires


I am Reena Yadav founder and leading ‘It’s A Deserving Life.’
Thank you 2021. I appreciate 2021. Each one of us thrived this year. I say so because if you could just choose to look closely there has been an amazing shift which is a testimony to the humans, us all, to adapt and move forward. So clap for yourself and celebrate yourself.
Now, you know it or yet to know, you are ready for 2022.
This year I will not ask you to list your desires, focus on your goals, or even to go after your ambition.        
In 2022, Relax Your Desires.
Put your feet up and just relax. In 2022 let good things come to you. You know ‘what you want, wants you too.’ Let it come to you. Let them all come to you. Allow some magic in your life. You have done everything for what you have wanted and desired. You and everything about you and everything in your life, is perfect for your wants and desires to come true from right now.
So, now what!
Prepare your ground for it. Focus on being healthy. Have healthy everything. Healthy thoughts, Healthy mindset, Healthy interactions, Healthy fun, Healthy habits.
You can be healthy when you have healthy happiness. You can be healthy when you have healthy health. You can be healthy when you have healthy fun. You can be healthy when you feel healthy safe. You can be healthy when you speak healthy words verbally. You can be healthy when you feel healthy JOY.
Do not underestimate normal and natural.
Healthy mind, healthy life, healthy body is a treasure and is worthy of the investment of your resources [time, money, energy, willingness].
Remember and repeat this for yourself.
Every day is a new beginning. Everything on this new day is new. Treat it with a NEW healthy viewpoint.
Empowered self is the true nature. Use your power to choose to be healthy.
Repeat this affirmation many times, that I have created for IADL.
‘I am happy, I am healthy, I am safe. I am having fun.’
May you look healthy happy, healthy beautiful, and healthy fit. May you be healthy rich. May you have healthy abundance and healthy prosperity.
Healthy 2022.
Reena. IADL.

You attract what and when you ask for

You attract what you ask for.
You attract when you are ready for it.


You attract what you ask for.
You attract when you are ready for it.

R’s friend ‘A’ told her that he is ‘not interested in romance.’
Then why does he flirt and tease? She wondered. She had seen him being comfortable doing this with his female colleagues. Well at that time they were not friends, and she had seen him here and there in the passing, and in those few times, she had seen him do exactly that. Her thoughts about him at that point were,  he acted like an ADD younger brother-in-law of the family (devar in Indian culture) who likes to hop-scotch around without being sincerely/seriously responsible for any of his escapades. When they did become friends he asked her about her. To her reply, he said, ‘so you are single ready to mingle.’ She rephrased, you know I don’t want to send that message to my Universe so I say, I am available.’
Many months later, she asked him if he was available. ‘If you are married, engaged, or in love/like with someone, you cannot say you are available’, she asked for a clear answer. ‘I am available for me’, he replied, ‘if it has to happen it will happen.’
And so she wondered then why does he flirt and tease? She had noticed that his colleagues seem to like him. So gets the attention but does not want it?
     
Teasing is in actuality bullying. The other person feels so compelled to endure the ‘teaser’ that the ‘teaser’ feels the permission to continue till their attention is required elsewhere or until they feel rejected by the lack of desirable response from the teasee’ (receiver) and they stop. Teasing or bullying, the effect is the same. In both, the receiving party is either shy or meek, it could be either due to love, like, attraction, or fear. And the person, the receiver is still in the process of gathering/mustering energy/courage to respond, but the interaction itself is over. It is the same, it feels incomplete, in both teasing and bullying.
In both, the subjecting party wants to feel superior. They do feel attracted and they do not know how to convey, ‘Hi! can we talk’, ‘I like you’, ‘I would like to know you better’, ‘Could we have coffee sometime’, ‘this is what I think about you.’ Instead, they convey it in the form of unavoidable/uncontrolled mostly one-sided conversation, smiles, grins, other body gestures, and favors without even knowing whether the other person wants them. One thing is clear here and that is lack of responsibility, lack of result expectations, and lack of accountability to consequences which comes with the territory of flirting and teasing.
Flirting and teasing are also a form of expression of asking for help in communication, association, and connection.
One who flirts has been flirted with before, one who teases has been teased before. And here is the kicker, they have felt rejected before. There was a lack of consent on their part. So if someone can do that to them and get away with it, then why not them?
‘A good communication solves everything.’ –Reena Yadav. IADL.

One who flirts and/or teases will only find someone else who is unable and unclear about their value too. They attract what they have asked for. That is someone who lacks or is dealing with their enoughness or lack of it. They attract ones who question their worth and will not be able to respond in a manner that could be a healing communication for both parties.
When will this happen? When does it happen? When does the subjecting party attract its receiving party? They attract when they are ready for it. Being ready is being aligned. When the subjecting party is craving for connection and the receiving party is looking for validation for their questioning beliefs, there is an alignment. Teaser (subjecting party) meets the teasee (receiving party).  
Each of us can choose to change. Would you choose? Or is this your comfort zone? What do you choose?   
Remember rejection is not such a bad situation, it just says there is a lack of alignment between giver and receiver.
For a receiving party, a misalignment occurs when what they want to receive is not what they are attracting, they don’t know how to receive, they are not sure whether they need it, it is a simple case of ‘wrong order’ or they changed your mind.
For a subjecting party, a misalignment occurs when what they are giving is not what they want to give, they recognise that are offering to the wrong party, or they changed their mind.
R’s friend A did get the attention but does not want it from them. He flirts and teases because he is just a boy who wants to have fun.
The only thing each of us need to do, is to get clear. If A says he is not looking for romance, it is a choice he has made, it is his right. After all, his words are creating his reality. Even if romance stands facing him and keeps coming to him he will recognise or have the confidence to receive or even address it when he acknowledges that he is actually looking for romance with/from the person he feels is right for him.
Accepting a friend exactly as they are whilst feeling safe and having the freedom to express to them is, friendship.     
      
Inspired by R’s friend A.
Reena Yadav. IADL.

Age Not Parameter Energy Is

“Age is not a parameter to be considered in romantic love life, it is the ENERGY that you need to consider. What do you feel energetically for each other, that is the most important factor.” – Reena Yadav. IADLife.

Age Not Parameter Energy Is

This is applicable in all associations. Just before you get into any collaboration, dealing, alliance or relationship, check for the energy alignment. When you are in it, can you smile easily or does it feel heavy on your mind or your body? You will sense it in the connection.
An alignment in energy is signified by the feelings of and/or actions of getting drawn to, wanting to standing by, standing up for, appreciating (more like being able to see good in), willing to make changes for (you could choose to change any/some part of you in order for you to attain that entity), and may want to co-creating with.
When there is energy alignment you will only see progress, prosperity, and life moving forward. There is no power struggle. It is smooth. It is easy. It is doable. It is reachable. It is attainable.
Even if you don’t take the action but have the willingness and assurance that you can, confirms that you are aligned energetically, for taking action is after all a choice.
Choosing to continuing with the association and going ahead with it is an available option. When action is delayed or denied for any reason yours/mine/ours then excuses arise. And these excuses give you a hard time separating and moving on.
Suppose, in case you see that you don’t have that option and you have to go or stay in that interaction or more, there is a solution for that too.
Keep reading, please.
When a romantic alliance is in a process of being formed either through Universal conspiracy or through human interference, all of your attention goes into pleasing or getting pleased by the outer accomplishments and behavior attributes.
For the initial liaison and/or if the association moves forward one of the factors that are considered by both parties directly involved and also in many cases by all the opinion holders is the ‘age.’
Age translates into achievement rule book and time available to achieve social objectives or tick marks as I say it.
You know that either of those has been changed by people/couples setting a new example, creating a new social landmark. Socially however it is the statistics that is the rule book. What the majority of the couples are known to follow is what is advocated and suggested and promoted. You accept or you are allowed to accept (in case you permit your dependence), according to what the majority have been following.

Having said all that, two aspects dominate the success in a romantic relationship. One, you do not need to please anyone else but each other. Focus, save and conserve your energy into understanding the viability, sustainability, and prosperity in the relationship. Second, the world is always waiting to be inspired by the success of your alliance. The world likes and loves variation and variety. The only condition is that the definition of success has to have love and loving as the baseline and foundation. Love is the energy that brings two associations together. You thrive and you flourish in love with love.
The pain, irritation, frustration that you feel when the association is forming, formed, or suggested to be formed, is the resistance that you had or have in it moving forward toward it.
The best way to dissipate these emotions is to allow it to flow. This is how you do this, start by making a list of emotions that you wish to feel being in this/that association.
Cherished, valued, trusted, celebrated, empowered, acknowledged, appreciated.
Add or change the list as they come to your understanding. This works in two important ways. (A) Your focus on these will bring out the features in your partner that reflect these emotions. (B) When you feel emotions other than the ones on your list then, look at the attributes that are causing it. Weigh in your own energy to decide which ones can you work on and which ones are deal-breakers. Also, look at the ones that are there to trigger the change in you.
The comments, feedback, suggestions solicited or unsolicited that come from other social entities involved are a reflection of your own thoughts, viewpoints, and beliefs. So, protect your energy and invest in your list of emotions again and again. The revelation for you here is that the unwanted emotions that you encountered were also your request and you are just now getting aware of them.
Anything that does not feel pleasant is learning.
Many a time the awareness of what you want and single most channeled focus on the emotions you desire in the romantic love life relationships, start to yield the attributes that generate them in your partner and in you.
You could choose to stand by the change if you like or move on. But do keep the attention on the desired emotions of the relationship, not the person.
When there is an energy alignment, in romantic love life association with your partner, if you have met already, you could recall that you were drawn to them, you want to support them, defend them, made changes in your attributes, habits, environment, or connections for/because you wanted to be with them. Or when you do have that pull you would now allow yourself to go by the flow and explore that relationship. Sometimes they are there to take you to the next step in your life.
In a non-romantic loving association, when there is an energy alignment you may have felt that you wanted to work with that person or wanted that person to work for you, recommended, appreciated, acknowledged, given approval unconditionally to them. If you meet such a person now, you will not resist interaction, approaching, and clearly discussing what association you are looking for even if it does not seem that they fit the profile for that job. There is a possibility that they may be the connecting point to what you are looking for.
Do remember, each entity is an energy body, so it could be an inanimate object. For example, it could be an exclusive expensive painting and you feel it is calling you. Know more about it. Given a change go touch it.
Do not ignore. Do not dismiss the pull. Explore. Experience.
You are safe.

MSF Vibration Talk

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Key to all GOOD QUALITY manifestation.
IMPROVEMENT in Life and life experiences.
Looking for GRATITUDE in situations, however difficult is a possibility.
Negative self-talk and self-criticism reduces and gets replaced by true statements about your presence and existence in your life, and help you see YOUR TRUE WORTH.
Makes you like then LOVE life.
From my talk at the MSF find out how to get these benefits.
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Reena Yadav. IADLife.
Visit: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2021/01/26/msf-vibration-talk/
for all the details and links in one place.
Important: Use a discount code REENAY to get 300 off the total price
3rd Mavin Spiritual Festival: 50+ speakers on various topics that will contribute to your life positively.
I am speaking on the topic: “Your most valuable investment is in your VIBRATION.”
https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2017/11/12/valuable-investment/
Key to all GOOD QUALITY manifestation.
IMPROVEMENT in Life and life experiences.
Looking for GRATITUDE in situations, however difficult is a possibility.
Negative self-talk and self-criticism reduces and gets replaced by true statements about your presence and existence in your life, and help you see YOUR TRUE WORTH.
Makes you like then LOVE life.
From my talk at the MSF find out how to get these benefits.
Please contact me at +91-80-42188074 for more information on the topic or registrations.
Or follow the link in the post.
Thank you, hope to see you there. Register today. remember to use the discount code REENAY to get 300 off the total price
Reena Yadav. IADLife.
Visit: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2021/01/26/msf-vibration-talk/
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FREEDOM

Today is the day of celebration of FREEDOM

The difference in delay in manifestation and expedited high-quality manifestation depends on where your focus is.
Is your intent, ‘Freedom towards’ or ‘Freedom from.’

FREEDOM from
FREEDOM from low vibration.
FREEDOM from past, emotionally.
FREEDOM from negative thoughts.
FREEDOM from questioning.
FREEDOM from limitation.
FREEDOM from sadness.
FREEDOM from criticism.
FREEDOM from learning through lack.
FREEDOM from bad quality life experiences.
FREEDOM from feeling Lack.
FREEDOM from excuses.
FREEDOM from discouragement.
FREEDOM from fear.
FREEDOM from micromanaging.
FREEDOM from poverty thinking.

FREEDOM to
FREEDOM to Prosperity Thinking.
FREEDOM to Feeling Prosperity.
FREEDOM to See Possibilities.
FREEDOM to Empowerment.
FREEDOM to Trust.
FREEDOM to Motivation.
FREEDOM to Delegate.
FREEDOM to Question.
FREEDOM to Dream Big.
FREEDOM to Encouragement.
FREEDOM to Love.
FREEDOM to Express.
FREEDOM to Live Life.
FREEDOM to Heal.
FREEDOM to Feel Safe.
FREEDOM to Feel Healthy.
FREEDOM to Feel Happy.
FREEDOM to Have Fun.
FREEDOM to Feel Good.
FREEDOM to Prosperity.
FREEDOM to Beautiful Conversation.
FREEDOM to Uplifting Interactions.
FREEDOM to Good Quality Manifestation.
FREEDOM to Gratitude.

Examine what you are running away from. Now replace it with what you can run toward.
Running away signifies, ‘Freedom from.’ Running toward signifies, ‘Freedom to.’
Freedom from is, ‘what you do not want.’ Freedom to is, ‘what you do want.’
Keep your eye on the goal. Change your focus. Give yourself the freedom to channelise the energy towards what you want. Start making your own list TODAY. Your list of ‘freedom to’, could get bigger and better each time you add to your list. Feel the freedom to achieve your dreams.

​REENA YADAV. IADLife.
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Continuity in help

CONTINUITY IN HELP

Anything is complete and concrete when you know it is in continuous supply. There is confidence in its availability in time of need. Support, help, and healing is like that and is a requirement for life. The receiver and giver of the healing solutions come into each other’s space when there is an alignment. When the receiver and giver evolve or decide not to at the same time period or stage then that is when there is non-alignment or misalignment. It is here that there is a change in either party’s existence, contribution, and participation in each other’s space.
My observation is that emotional or mental life situations require more support. In fact, that applies to all that is not visible to your peers and your society. Many of you and the majority of the time you mind your life as per and because of peer-view and peer-pressure. If your subconscious programming is that of, not being good enough then it is certain that you have never been able to receive approval easily, kindly, or lovingly. Anything that remotely looks like help and support has been told to you to be an indication of weakness. And weakness is not an option or an attractive attribute by the law of any jungle and of human too. You don’t attract help. If you do decide to and you are unaware of the internal programming then the help you attract is not the kind you will be able to benefit from. It will be phony, attacking, condescending, not reliable, piecemeal, and/or derogatory. It will seem that it gets the work done but it will leave with what is lower than expected and the signal is a very bad feeling. You will have all the convincing right reasons to leave that but the same or similar will keep visiting your space. If the help and support are better one, that is kind, loving, patient, gives you a good feeling, and is benefiting you then either the support moves away or you stop taking/going to them. Thus creating a vicious circle of -‘issue getting help’, ‘followed by sabotage by self or otherwise,’ culminating into a whirlpool of hurt, negative beliefs, lack, and bad-dependencies.
The circle breaks for each one who does not give up. The circle breaks for each one who has continuity in receiving and accepting help. Eventually, you are able to give yourself permission to let go, change or tweak the old, ragged, non-benefiting, harmful, and limiting belief system. Once the pattern starts to break the changes are evident in one to each and every area of your life in any way that you can notice or are made to recognise.
The only way this is a possibility is that there is a continuous supply of help. There is continuity in receiving and accepting help. To keep on attracting, finding, continuing with the practice of desired right perfect help and support is your responsibility. After all you the prime, most integral, and important help and support for yourself. Rest are contributors. The confidence that you will provide you (even making arrangements by utilising your resources), with continued healing speaks volumes of empowerment, encouragement, and motivation.

For continuous help and support, I teach and do the following:

(1) Facebook or WhatsApp group individual or group monitored by an expert.

(2) Conducting regular workshops that inculcate the practice of self-reliance and trains gradually and seamlessly to do so. These workshops are online. (a) Tapping and more. (b) Gratitude practice of 28 days by Rhonda Bryne. (c) Number and topics of group discussions scheduled as per the group dynamics. (d) One on one session(s) can be booked too. (e) Meditation sessions.

Costing is decided and communicated beforehand. If something is not conducive you must find out a flexi-plan with your counsellor in time, understanding, or money.

Remember this is an investment for you and for people you interact with and for all that you influence in your life. Some processes and methods that have been included to promote continuity in healing: (1) Healing motivated: A scheme introduced by me and IADLife to motivate everyone to book sessions. (2) Sponsors: Anyone who can sponsor anyone known or complete stranger can do that, making the payments directly to the IADLife. (3) Paying forward: Anyone you desire to pay for

someone while having  experienced  the gain of the healing joy from IADLife services.   

I suggest never take a break. change the process, schedule even what you follow but CONTINUE.

Reena Yadav. IADLife.

2021 Message for the New Year

Reena Yadav and IADLife wish for you to have a happy, healthy, safe, and fun every day and each day in 2021.
Link: https://itsadeservinglife.wordpress.com/2020/12/31/2021-message-for-the-new-year/

 The New Year’s Message

The year 2020 has come to an end and it was going to happen. Other situations that hovered all throughout 2020 have not followed suit.  It is has been an unknown experience, one that was not encountered ever before by any of us.

Willingness was tested and it fluttered. Alternatives surged and many of them thrived. Overall life went on. What surfaced were the people’s resilience and their ability to adapt. 

Nothing ever happens the same way twice. This is the law is nature. Anyone who has gone through this will not go through it in the same manner. We have evolved. So does that mean we will do better? The answer is at the individual’s level. If the person has kept it in as learning they will thrive and if the person has kept it in as trauma, they will crumble even in a semblance of what was. In any situation giving up cannot be an option.

The best way to prepare for the future and for what possibly lies ahead is to train ourselves to be solution-oriented.

Change the focus to what will help. Be willing to create and attract help. Know that taking and sharing help is the opposite of limitation.

Channelize all the energy and concentrate on ‘Happy’, ‘Healthy’, ‘Safe’, ‘Fun.’ Create your own definition of each and look for each in your everyday situations. Tougher the situation closer and deeper you look and search. You will always find what you look for. Regular practice of this, programs your mind to feel ‘Happy’, ‘Healthy’, ‘Safe’, ‘Fun.’

This is the essence of surviving and followed by thriving.        

Have a happy, healthy, safe, and fun every day and each day in 2021.  Reena Yadav. IADLife.